All the time when I was a dancer 35 years ago. Not so much lately. Actually, it's more awkward than aggressive now. When I say no (and I do still have to say no once in a while), they always understand that it's because I'm in a relationship and their forceful actions seem to just melt away.
I'm surprised to hear that few men have been in this situation.
I have had two careers where there were very strict sexual assault and sexual harassment policies. In both of those careers, I was in a senior position, and I was often hit upon by women and a few men, who could have later turned around and caused me a ton of grief...
Me neither ... her name was Ginger. How about outside strip joints ? :drum:
Define 'aggressively'.
From about 17 + I (occasionally) did find girls who were attracted to me. These are girls who would seem to be always staring at you and smiling in the clubs. Same when I worked at larger office buildings. Without the hunt (actively trying to meet them) that seemed pretty aggressive to me.
Sadly, I don't see that look anymore - at least from who I would want to be with. I had a beer sent to me at a bar once but it was a group of 40+ heavy set women.
'Sexual double standards' tend to be used with a negative connotation. Although given that male and female sexuality operate differently, difference shouldnt have those connotations of unfairness and hypocrisy.
It is generally accepted that men pursue/initiate sex, and that forms a core component of masculine identity. As for men on receiving end, even when they handle/reject advances, it occurs within a framework of reinforcing masculinity.
A couple of strange experiences when I was younger.
One time when I was around 13 when staying at my neighbors house, his sister who was 16 came in to my room, crawled in to my bed, reached down grabbed my wang, stroked it hard, then climbed on for a ride. My first sexual experience.
Another time when I was 16 and working at a summer camp, after a night of partying I passed out in bed and woke up to a co-worker sucking my cock. I was a little startled at first, but then laid back and enjoyed it. Afterwards I asked her why she did it and she simply said that she just wanted to suck a cock before going to sleep.
Back in 1989 I was at a drive in movie with a group of friends - we had multiple cars together, lawn chairs etc and somewhere along the line I ended up sitting in the back seat with a girl that I didn’t really now but she was an acquaintance of someone else in our group. Anyways, for some reason, she just went for it. Grabbed my cock through my pants after she put a blanket over my lap,and she wouldn’t let go. Had the roles been reversed, I’m pretty sure it would go down as assault in this day and age.
yes. she was yelling at me to fuck her. I really didnt want to but, did it anyways. I didnt really enjoy it and after that never spoke to her again. I regretted it afterwards.
yes. she was yelling at me to fuck her. I really didnt want to but, did it anyways. I didnt really enjoy it and after that never spoke to her again. I regretted it afterwards.
Yep... a female co-worker. Made the mistake of starting something once (while drunk) ... stopped before it got too heavy. Ever since them she is very aggressive about wanting to hook up, buying me drinks, finding reasons why I need to come by her place... talking about kink and porn all the time blah blah blah. I have told her no dice many times but she persists. I find her repulsive now as a result and make efforts to avoid...
Yep... a female co-worker. Made the mistake of starting something once (while drunk) ... stopped before it got too heavy. Ever since them she is very aggressive about wanting to hook up, buying me drinks, finding reasons why I need to come by her place... talking about kink and porn all the time blah blah blah. I have told her no dice many times but she persists. I find her repulsive now as a result and make efforts to avoid...
I was hoping it had something to do with avocados. Reminds me of an old GF who used to make me avocado and bacon sandwiches. She was kind of aggressive at times ..... bossy bitch kept yelling to cum on her face. Among other things. lol
Another aggressive woman was my ex-wifes best friend who tried her best to get preggo from me. Hmmm, guess I had my share of aggressive women, they are fun at the time but a pain in the end.
One gal just ripped my zipper open and gave me a blowjob. She then got on top of me (without a condom) and started riding me. She was frigging horny as hell. To make things even worse she starts apologizing to me after we're done. Tells me it's her birthday and her baby's daddy is a deadbeat who plays football for the Hamilton Tigercats. A truly bizarre sequence of events that happened at a club downtown in the presence of others. Fortunately, cell phone cameras were not very popular then!
The other instance was at the now defunct Latin Quarter in Stripclub in Brampton. A really gorgeous stripper (I think her name was Jasmine) asked me whether I was horny. My response was "beyond belief". She walked me to the dressing room area instead of the VIP. In the presence of other strippers she undid my belt, pulled my pants so hard that the button came out and zipper broke. Proceeded in ripping my underwear and gave me the most incredible blowjob ever. There was no consent. But it was hot. I think she did this on a dare though (i.e., truth or dare game)from the body language of the other strippers. I was the lucky victim.
In both cases, I was violated but the experiences are so memorable!!!
But there is a double standard. You can blame the patriarchy for that. </sarcasm >
I gotta say, I really enjoyed watching Jordan Peterson destroy the feminazi interviewer. I also watched lots of youtube vids that deconstructed exactly what happened.
Yep for me as well. A married woman who wouldn't take no for an answer. Even when her hammered "boyfriend" showed up at the place and promptly passed out. She was good looking and I capitulated when she jammed my cock all the way down her throat. The sex was great she was multi-orgasmic.
Anyways, one of the worst mistakes for me as she holds this secret as power. I can't hang out with my old friends as the dude has become a good friend with them (and is still with the lady). I'm sure she'd start shit if my family were there as well. From that experience, I got a vasectomy and now see SPs... and I now desire 'aggressive' women.