I get where you are coming from... but the REAL love is what I am (and I think the funny-named poster is) referring to. Not the Hollywood image that costs people a million dollars and a trillion tears. Yes... the love of a doggy... purest love. Love I have with my brother and my cats. Certain people in my life. Most couples I know are not in love, both admit it. There are a few I know who really are and its beautiful. Telling someone you love them and truly loving them is not the same. We all know that. My dog never once said I love you in his years, but I was left in no doubt. I think couples marry way too prematurely, falling in love with the concept of having found love rather than actually having found it. And that's when they end up in trouble... False love is one of the most hazardous things on earth..i quite agree.
Yeah, I agree with this, however this is extremely rare to find. I am quite convinced that we cross paths with our soulmates at least once in our life time, however we may not be ready for each other when we do cross. I.e. difference in age, different careers, different lifestyle, different growth and development internally, that we simply are not ready. Both need to be on the same wavelength for the resonance to happen. I questioned this a lot in my 35+ years. I question why is it that some women I have met in the past, that I never really forget and think from time to time and/or are on my mind a lot. I know that I could never make them happy because if for some magical reason they decided to surrender to me I could never surrender to them because of my current comintement. I just accept the fact that in this lifetime it might not be the right time.
I think that some people search their entire life never to find it, and have this idea that they will but end up dying in loneliness. Sometimes when they stop searching it finds them, and its like the conscious search has blocked the force to bring you together.
I think the majority of people just find people they like spending time with and grow to like them, to love them, and finally to accept them at their core and for who they really are.
Nobody here is in a position I think to say which way is right, and we should never let the affect us like that.
I do think that its beautiful to have girls like yourself and Sophie which such a positive outlook and spin of the standard cliches and stigma that it just blows all the nay sayers into bits and pieces. They always try to find reasons to resist, and fight it, no matter how convincing it sounds. I think its commendable that there are beautiful women like you who have this outlook.
To John: Can you picture yourself on your death bed saying the same words. How are you going to feel knowing that you never really were prepared to surrender yourself to the one you thought was the one despite the consequences and say the fuck with it, whatever happens happens with the right one. Are you going to be fine knowing that your fear of getting hurt, burned and taken through court caused you to block her, the one, from entering your life, because of fear. Are you going to be okay dying with this in your last thoughts. Obviously only you can answer these questions, and no other person can.
With my wife, I was starting to resent her, but have grown to love her again. Even though she is not the one, she is not the soulmate, I have learned to accept her, appreciate what we have, and have been blessed with very happy and content kids. My message is its not always about finding true love, most of us change through the dynamics of life with time, and the people that we fell in love with may not be the same people we will love in 10 years. Maybe its us, the other party that has changed, and thus we think we are not in love. A marriage will always work if two people are willing to make it work, and can overcome everything provided they want whats best for each other.
Everyone has on opinion on this topic and its nice to see that it works out from the ladies POV.
So it does happen and can lead to happiness. No, he wasn't rich... they just really hit it off. Im not gonna touch this one as I feel I've no right to. Its their right as adults to do what they want. *shrug*
