when a client gets obbessive

[Julie]

It's SO SAD these things rarely work out.
The really unfortunate thing is that when things sour the gentleman turns to the boards to "VENT".
They either start making negative comments on reviews or pm in the background.
The worst is when they disclose personal information about the lady that she told him in confidence.
This happens too, when you don't see a client outside the business but one day are forced to stop seeing him.
Usually for me they keep asking for services I don't provide.
They feel like now that they are a "REGULAR" the rules no longer apply.
I recently stopped seeing a regular client for exactly these reasons.
Just to read on the board that he didn't find me attractive.
Funny thing is I saw him MANY times.
It's JUST so SAD some people just can't move on.

 

[wazup]

Quite sure your percentage is inaccurate .. but if that's all you're looking for, why not just use your right (or left) hand ??? You seem quite budget conscious, it's way cheaper LOL !!

yes you're right, probably closer to 98%.

 

[wazup]

It's SO SAD these things rarely work out.
The really unfortunate thing is that when things sour the gentleman turns to the boards to "VENT".
They either start making negative comments on reviews or pm in the background.
The worst is when they disclose personal information about the lady that she told him in confidence.
This happens too, when you don't see a client outside the business but one day are forced seeing him.
Usually for me they keep asking for services I don't provide.
They feel like now that they are a "REGULAR" the rules no longer apply.
I recently stopped seeing a regular client for exactly these reasons.
Just to read on the board that he didn't find me attractive.
Funny thing is I saw him MANY times.
It's JUST so SAD some people just can't move on.

Aint it funny how the girls have a completely different view of things, just like these other guys he would be boasting to whoever would listen how great friends you were,:rofl:

 

[Titalian]

Maybe this is about percentages, I'm in the 95% that are only looking for a release and nothing more, why would I want to be friends with her and more so her me?

yes you're right, probably closer to 98%.

Aint it funny how the girls have a completely different view of things, just like these other guys he would be boasting to whoever would listen how great friends you were,:rofl:

Judging by your comments here and the way you speak of these women on other threads, I don't think you have the capacity of just being friends.

 

[foxxxy lady]

Judging by your comments here and the way you speak of these women on other threads, I don't think you have the capacity of just being friends.

I think he hates women period titalian

xo

 

[Titalian]

It's SO SAD these things rarely work out.
The really unfortunate thing is that when things sour the gentleman turns to the boards to "VENT".
They either start making negative comments on reviews or pm in the background.
The worst is when they disclose personal information about the lady that she told him in confidence.
This happens too, when you don't see a client outside the business but one day are forced seeing him.
Usually for me they keep asking for services I don't provide.
They feel like now that they are a "REGULAR" the rules no longer apply.
I recently stopped seeing a regular client for exactly these reasons.
Just to read on the board that he didn't find me attractive.
Funny thing is I saw him MANY times.
It's JUST so SAD some people just can't move on.

I don't think that's the case for all men on this board, I know a few here that are perfect gentleman.
But yes some would resort to that type of tactic.

 

[celerystick]

i think he hates women period titalian

xo

bingo !!

 

[Titalian]

First post does not equal not following all along which I have. Titalia went into his maturity bit and made it about the client (fluffing himself in the process) right from the beginning hence my Phoebe Cates reference.

I do sense a little envy in all of your statements. But thats fine, its to be expected. I have a great relationship with most of my regulars, whether it be sexual or just conversing about life in general.
and once in a while they contact me just to chat with no expectations on my part. All that combined whether that constitutes friendship and trust, In a way, I believe so.
but in the end, that's up to you to figure out.

 

[rhuarc29]

I wish everyone understood this.
Just because SP's have intimate relations both mentally and physically with clients doesn't mean it's NOT OUR JOB/BUSINESS.

I find it's real simple and that people make things overly complicated.

If I'm seeing an SP, it's for services of an intimate nature. I have never asked to see a provider outside of that because I don't want to make her uncomfortable. That said, I have had providers ask me if I wanted to go for dinner, to a club, shopping, etc. This is after multiple encounters where we've really gotten to feel each other's personalities out. I'll often agree to these outings, but I treat them as a friendly outing off the clock. Aside from picking up the tab for dinner, these outings are unpaid. I know some SPs advertise dinner dates and associated rates, but I would never pay for such a thing. It makes me uncomfortable.

So simple: services are paid, outings are not. I've never run into trouble with that mentality. And I've made a few friends in the meantime.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

Waz .....your personality allows for just the release and if that works for you fine , other personalities may need to feel a certain level of comfort or connection / friendship to make it work for them , neither is wrong . Our needs in this hobby are all different , what works for 1 may not work for another . Both parties have to realize its business yes , but even people in business develop friendships over time . In a service oriented business it is not unusual to form some level of friendship . There is nothing sad or pathetic about friendships unless 1 or the other is taking advantage of that relationship or abuses that friendship !

When a clients feelings go way beyond that of friendship or they start becoming jealous and possessive of you and expect you to share there feelings this puts the provider at risk for many things especially when those feelings are not reciprocated .

So gentleman let this be a lesson to us all , if a provider decides not to see you or wont respond to your emails , calls , texts and private messages perhaps you did something to creep her out . Maybe you got too close or exhibited signs of jealousy or aggression . Maybe something you said or did made her feel uncomfortable . Stop pestering her and asking what happened and why . Trust her instincts for you both , if she has decided to not continue the exchange listen to her its for your benefit also . It does become sad and pathetic when you chase after a lady who chooses not to see you and you continue to review her or refer her to others , especially if its been many many yrs since you have seen her , this comes off very creepy and stalkerish , there are no other words for it then that !

Blue

This is my fave post of this thread....well put Blue. :thumb:

 

[AdamH]

People who "pick up" on feelings about a relationship (it doesn't even have to be "love", even feelings of a better friendship), that don't actually exist, creep me the fuck out..

We've all been in a situation where we've been hopeful that another person felt the same way we did (and were perhaps subsequently let down). But anybody who claims to have "picked up" on any feelings sounds downright creepy..

"I know you have feelings for me" sounds psychotic whether it's lovingly whispered, or screamed while wielding a kitchen knife..

 

[Titalian]

So gentleman let this be a lesson to us all , if a provider decides not to see you or wont respond to your emails , calls , texts and private messages perhaps you did something to creep her out . Maybe you got too close or exhibited signs of jealousy or aggression . Maybe something you said or did made her feel uncomfortable . Stop pestering her and asking what happened and why . Trust her instincts for you both , if she has decided to not continue the exchange listen to her its for your benefit also . It does become sad and pathetic when you chase after a lady who chooses not to see you and you continue to review her or refer her to others , especially if its been many many yrs since you have seen her , this comes off very creepy and stalkerish , there are no other words for it then that !

Blue

Perfect statement Blue !

 

[LadySava]

Why an escort would want to be friends with a john is beyond comprehension, the ones that white knight and want to be your friends are the exact ones you should be concerned about. The goofballs on here that say they cherish their friendship with the sp's they see is bullshit. They're all just trying to manipulate you girls into a free one when you're vulnerable, these guys aren't your friends, they're your clients like the title says, treat them as such.

I totally disagree with you hun. I have couple of close friends which still are my clients for years now. They are true gentleman and treating me with great respect. Based on that you can develop friendship without hurting the business I had few experiences similar to foxxy lady. I firmly communicated to them that if they what to see me at all ... it will be on my terms only. Never had a problem since

 

[Bobvero]

I totally disagree with you hun. I have couple of close friends which still are my clients for years now. They are true gentleman and treating me with great respect. Based on that you can develop friendship without hurting the business I had few experiences similar to foxxy lady. I firmly communicated to them that if they what to see me at all ... it will be on my terms only. Never had a problem since

I live a comfortable life style and travel yearly between Canada and South Florida.I have relationships with providers on both sides of the border.This winter I planning to host Canadian traveling companions for a week in Florida during November and second week in Costa Rica during December.While my companion is with me she enjoys luxuries she could not otherwise enjoy,oceanfront accommodations ,limo service ,shopping ,dinner in the finest restaurants and more.On each occasion my companion is offered compensation for service however none have yet agreed to accept even though we sleep together.At first I didn't understand why.The explanations vary but it seems most just want to be treated as a " Pretty Woman" on a vacation of a lifetime.I hold them in very high esteem and they know it.

 

[lakeboy1]

I don't think theres a problem with being friendly with an SP, contingent on the fact that you have friends outside of the hobbying world. Unfortunately, for some this isn't the case so they feel the need to be friends with the ladies. Thats when things have the potential of getting ugly. I'm really not trying to sound mean, I just think its important to have balance in all aspects of life.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I don't think theres a problem with being friendly with an SP, contingent on the fact that you have friends outside of the hobbying world. Unfortunately, for some this isn't the case so they feel the need to be friends with the ladies. Thats when things have the potential of getting ugly. I'm really not trying to sound mean, I just think its important to have balance in all aspects of life.

Of course one should have friends outside the hobby! I don't think that's what this discussion is about. But your point here is also valid.

 

[omegaphallic]

People have to realize hormones are released when people have sex and strong deep seated emotions can't be manipulated and turned off like the minor day to day shifts of shallow emotions. There can be biochemical and deep psychological issues you have no control over which means that some breaken hearts just come with the territory, you can say don't get attached all you want and say they just see you as a client, it doesn't change that factors beyond your control.

I've had a few crushes, but nothing deep or to be concerned about, but in fact I can stir up a crush or turn it off whenever I wish (but not deep seated feelings), but I've never fallen in love with a sex worker, although I care deeply in my own way about them.

Still I have no desire for a relationship, I like that we have this sexually charged fantasy world were we can be anything, isolated from RL and its disappointments and bullshit. I enjoy talking to them alot, don't get me wrong, but creating a relationship outside of this special fantasy world would destroy it or at least take way from it. I know I might sound pathetic, but I value the fantasy world with all its adventurous and sexual potential over the disappointments of the mundane world where day to day friendship exists.

I don't want to here about her disappointments in life or how much her last boyfriend sucked (although I do enjoy finding out she's married, sort of cockolding her husband, that's really hot, I know I'm an asshole, but I don't ask).

 

[surferboy]

Why an escort would want to be friends with a john is beyond comprehension, the ones that white knight and want to be your friends are the exact ones you should be concerned about. The goofballs on here that say they cherish their friendship with the sp's they see is bullshit. They're all just trying to manipulate you girls into a free one when you're vulnerable, these guys aren't your friends, they're your clients like the title says, treat them as such.

Holy fuk bud your making a big generalization there. No reason you can't be friends with someone just because you've paid them for a service. I golf with my accountant & play tennis with my dentist. Do I invite them to my house for dinner no,but were still friends. If a sp asks for your # or at the end of her shift asks if you want to go for a drink,do you say no? Prolly not unless you didn't click or have other arrangements. Their no different then any other women. Treat them with respect, make them laugh & smile & who knows. I don't go into an appt to make friends i'm going to get laid, but surprisingly you just click with some people. I was recently out west for biz & had dinner with a girl I met here a couple years ago that decided to move back home & go back to school. It was like seeing an old friend, dinner was almost three hours! So don't say were all just clients & being friends with a john is beyond comprehension because you don't know wtf your talking about.

 

[Titalian]

Holy fuk bud your making a big generalization there. No reason you can't be friends with someone just because you've paid them for a service. I golf with my accountant & play tennis with my dentist. Do I invite them to my house for dinner no,but were still friends. If a sp asks for your # or at the end of her shift asks if you want to go for a drink,do you say no? Prolly not unless you didn't click or have other arrangements. Their no different then any other women. Treat them with respect, make them laugh & smile & who knows. I don't go into an appt to make friends i'm going to get laid, but surprisingly you just click with some people. I was recently out west for biz & had dinner with a girl I met here a couple years ago that decided to move back home & go back to school. It was like seeing an old friend, dinner was almost three hours! So don't say were all just clients & being friends with a john is beyond comprehension because you don't know wtf your talking about.

I never thought I would agree with you, but what an impressive post :thumb: Yes I agree with you 100% Everything you've expressed is spot on.

 

[celerystick]

Holy fuk bud your making a big generalization there. No reason you can't be friends with someone just because you've paid them for a service. I golf with my accountant & play tennis with my dentist. Do I invite them to my house for dinner no,but were still friends. If a sp asks for your # or at the end of her shift asks if you want to go for a drink,do you say no? Prolly not unless you didn't click or have other arrangements. Their no different then any other women. Treat them with respect, make them laugh & smile & who knows. I don't go into an appt to make friends i'm going to get laid, but surprisingly you just click with some people. I was recently out west for biz & had dinner with a girl I met here a couple years ago that decided to move back home & go back to school. It was like seeing an old friend, dinner was almost three hours! So don't say were all just clients & being friends with a john is beyond comprehension because you don't know wtf your talking about.

Wow !! Impressive, thoughtful, articulate .... no way I could have said that any better, wish there were more humans like you, it would be a nicer world !!