Dating a MPA
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The difference between you and other women not in that business is that you jerk men off all day every day you go to work ,, sorry I know that sounds harsh but is just plain fact,,
I say don't date her fuck her and have a great time but that's it and move on to the next .
The spa experience is just fantasy , when the fantasy is over and the lights come on what are u left with ,, are u gonna bring this kind of women to your family ???
And for the record I have met many women that know how to take care of their men on all levels , you don't have to be a prostitute to know how to please a man !! And what personal reasons other than making insane amounts of $$ fast ,,, that is not realistic in the real world to be able to earn besides selling drugs ??? Come on bro pull your head out of the sand and be realistic !!! Lol
I would say don't forget that some MP's may be connected with some very bad people...this is the sextrade remember. The girls may be sweet, but they are part of an underground culture and its people. No way would I want any of them having the chance of knowing who I was or where I lived...potential for blackmail in the future. Screw that shit.
Yes anything can happen. You may THINK you found someone that you could be with, you sure as hell would like to bang 'em all. The odds are slim at best that you could find someone in the industry that you could be with. The thought of her currently or even in the past sucking guys off will rear its ugly head. Most women don't want their SO to find out, why? BECAUSE IT EATS AT YOU.
To think that you are different is easy at first, then it is the SO family finding out, your friends, get the picture.
Then there is the possibility the girl is just a POS. But if you are like me, well I been there done that and a great 20 years under my belt to say to you it is possible, just don't bet the farm or the hoe on it for that matter.
Then you have to take into account
So fucking what, that she or they jerk guys off for a living. Guess what some nurses clean pop all day and other deal with psychotic patients. Does this then define who they are. GTFO of here with your shallow closed minded thoughts. In the real world, pleazzze, you mean in your fantasy world that you've been made to believe, thought the brainwashing your poor little mind could not handle and you believe it to be the truth. Who the fuck are you anyways to try to define somebody else, another sleazy low life client trying to get off putting down a sex worker. Fact is some of the sex workers are the realest women you will ever meet, and have more emotional intelligence in the finger nail than somebody like you, closed and narrow minded can in a lifetime. Fact is sex workers are the underground glue that keeps our society together, and many marriages or people from all sorts of professions benefit. Just look at the poles or discussions on adult forums and open your mind and eyes, we have LEs, politicians, professionals, religious leaders, coaches, husdands, ect ect all using their service for a variety of reasons and not just sex. Open your blind eyes and maybe you will see the truth.
I think the situation where you know and are okay with it is absolutely the ideal. That's what I have in my personal life and it's great- he's actually really kinky so he'd be even happier if he could watch, or if I was willing to give him play by play of every encounter. But even if you're simply not jealous or possessive, that's still fantastic and much less stressful for everyone.
But getting to that point may be hard. Transforming a client/provider relationship, even a close one, into something else, is tricky to navigate. You need to be absolutely 100% confident in your emotions and your trust, and that's hard for everyone.
A while back I worked with a girl, another MPA who was a friend of mine, and she had just had a relationship make that transition. It was going great- last I heard it was getting really serious-but especially at first it blew her mind that she was with someone who knew what she did and was okay with it. She'd been working for maybe fifteen years, and in that time she'd never once had a relationship with someone she didn't lie to about it. It was second nature to her, and it took her a while to reconcile that this guy was really into her, and knew her work, and also didn't care. It's something many working girls don't have a space for emotionally because we are so used to that compartmentalization.
But getting to that point may be hard. Transforming a client/provider relationship, even a close one, into something else, is tricky to navigate. You need to be absolutely 100% confident in your emotions and your trust, and that's hard for everyone.
A while back I worked with a girl, another MPA who was a friend of mine, and she had just had a relationship make that transition. It was going great- last I heard it was getting really serious-but especially at first it blew her mind that she was with someone who knew what she did and was okay with it. She'd been working for maybe fifteen years, and in that time she'd never once had a relationship with someone she didn't lie to about it. It was second nature to her, and it took her a while to reconcile that this guy was really into her, and knew her work, and also didn't care. It's something many working girls don't have a space for emotionally because we are so used to that compartmentalization.
Agree with you on this. It's all been trouble. No happy ending except when it was in a session.
did you guys ever stop to think that maybe it's not them that's the problem, maybe there is something more to this picture...just stating the obvious... We do it to our self, the good or the bad, and thus have to deal with it and accept the consequences good or bad. We need to stop projecting onto others, especially easy targets like sex workers, and find and understand the root of it all. Most of the time the deficiency is with us not them.
If I had to do it again I would go for a sex worker cause once you win their heart and loyalty they ride with you till the end and are the realest, baddest, kindest, girls you will ever meet.
I'm amazed at the close-mindedness of some people here, especially given the purpose of this board. As long as you both go in with an open dialogue about expectations, boundaries and limits... you're both adults. If it works and it makes two people happy, who the fuck cares what other people think.
There are exceptions BUT consider this.
How many times does a girl change names, remove or alter photos. This ain't cleaning poop and it isn't a "normal" job.
So maybe it isn't for a normal person to be in a relationship with an industry girl.... FUCK I just realized I'm not normal.
Thanks for the self-reveal.
It's not me- my personal relationship predates my job as an MPA by some seven years, and was actively open and polyamorous before that as well.
I'm not normal in a faaaar more abnormal way.
This happens a lot more than most of you think. The sense I get is that attendants seeing clients away from the spa is way up. And those relationships evolving from outside sessions to actual dating is more prevalent than you think.
I've been involved in a few instances myself. Yes, lots of ups and downs but the good times were amazing. A lot of the time these girls just want to be around a good guy, and don't necessarily care if the dude is rich or model handsome. At this point you probably know enough about each other that the progression would be pretty natural. With both of my situations it was the attendant who broached the subject.
I've been involved in a few instances myself. Yes, lots of ups and downs but the good times were amazing. A lot of the time these girls just want to be around a good guy, and don't necessarily care if the dude is rich or model handsome. At this point you probably know enough about each other that the progression would be pretty natural. With both of my situations it was the attendant who broached the subject.
You see, not a "normal" relationship.
Like I said in another thread, this subject makes me giggle. Many MPAs will go batshit crazy if they found out their man was seeing a MPA, their response about what they do is "it is a job" the strokin, sukin etc. Well the males job is to plant as many seeds as possible. The female wants to be seeded by the best male ( don't know what happened in my case, I think she felt incredibly sorry for me ). I don't think it is society as much as a product of nature, to be jealous. It is the understanding and trusting of your partner IN ANY RELATIONSHIP is what will make it work. If you are able you will succeed good on you. If you want a party you came to the right place.
Good time
What is normal anyways, who defines it? You?, me?, the politicians? Fuck no to this, what is our truth anyways, what is the purpose? Once we know the answer we feel content, and no closed narrow mind can tell us or influence us otherwise.
Normal is what is the average expectation. I am not the judge, rather, I am merely the tour guide.
You can do what you want, your life. It may disagree with mine. You still have to look at your thoughts, words and see it as an outside person. To me saying if I had to do it again means that you did it wrong the first time, it speaks volumes.
One SP in one of these countless discussion stated that she wouldn't want to be with someone that knew what she did, this is the norm. Personally I disagree, because that relationship has a significant lie attached to it, same with a john doing his thing while the Mrs is tending to the house, not knowing her mate is getting his rocks off. Maybe she is fine with it... ASK.
I merely state the obvious, it is a different world and for the most part, the clowns that say it is normal, aren't, but I digress, I am not normal.
You say you are not judgmental but are judging me by saying if I had to do it again it speaks volumes... Lol
It will NEVER be perfect, no matter how many times you do it over again or if you meet the love of your life, your soulmate. It is what you make of it, simple as pie. All relationships go through ups and downs. I don't jump ship and seek to end it once I find another safe heaven. I am not perfect whatever perfect is defined. So what I get my kicks with an MPA and my SO may get her kicks or have a fling or two. We still come back and try to make it work, then the next day we call each other the worst names, and the following day make the best love. It is the dynamic of life and no matter how experienced you think you are or you think you been through it all, life will always be steps ahead of you. Just make the best of what you have and deal with yours and her flaws.
