Dating a MPA

[chongqing]

Guys

I'm interested in hearing your opinions on this one.

If you were single and so was the MPA would you go out on a date with her that could lead to a potential relationship? If not, why and also could you date her knowing what she did for a living or would you insist she quit the biz before you could get serious enough for you to become bf/gf?

Do you think that most MPA's would prefer a guy who a) does not know what she does for a living and therefore is none the wiser, b) a guy that knows what she is doing (because he met her at a MP) and is fine with it (he trusts her) or c) knows what she does for a living and insists she changes occupations and becomes a "civilian" before they take it any further.

Thanks for your thoughts and opinions and please tell me if anyone has had this situation happen to them personally.

Cheers - Chongqing

 

[shack]

please tell me if anyone has had this situation happen to them personally.

If you do a search you will find hundreds of these stories.

It has been discussed to death.

 

[The Options Menu]

My two quick thoughts on it are:
1) Just don't do it.
2) Don't do it unless you have clear boundaries and expectations that you can stick to, with some idea of how you'll integrate her into your broader life.

I follow rule 1 when it comes to dancers in the handful of cases where offers to hang out pass the smell test. I think I've joked on TERB before that, "If you have to ask on TERB you probably shouldn't!". Also, 'search is your friend', try 'dating' or 'date'.

 

[anon1]

"tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"....Alfred Lord Tennyson

 

[las venganza]

I would strongly recommend against dating one, having been down that road in the past....for many reasons. As a hobbyist do you think you could date one?

 

[TeasePlease]

"tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"....Alfred Lord Tennyson

you crazy romantic fool. Lol

OP - anything can happen. Just know that the odds are against you. Do a search and read carefully. You'll see many stories of veteran hobbyists who have gone down that rabbit hole and emerged worse off, for oddly similar reasons. A few have even joked about starting a support group. Lol

Here's a thought - we all think we're special and smarter/wiser/tougher than the next guy...until the day we realize that we're not.

 

[The Options Menu]

This is NOT fair....

Not all girls in this profession are crazy or a little off the top.
Many women are in this career for personal reasons.
It does not make a woman in this field any different from any other woman.

Ohhh, but yes it is fair... Yes, SPs, MPAs, and dancers deserve love and 'normal' relationships. No doubt. However if a man meets a woman in one of of the aforementioned trades after money has changed hands they should be very, very, very, wary IMNSHO. Yes, that wariness should probably go both ways, but this is a client oriented forum. Even on the public forum here the examples are legion, and that's just the tip of the iceberg.

 

[OriginalGStar]

lol im like really close friends with an MPA, she fucks me for free
strictly friends but we used to date.. this industry and dating doesnt mix well.

 

[Vermeer27]

With all due respect, relationships are complicated enough without sexwork being a factor in them. I've met lots of sexworkers who were exceptional people, but I've never been tempted to complicate my life that way. I can see how a guy who's bored with his life might enjoy the drama. A lot of people secretly want to lose control.

 

[hobbist]

The fantasy just stops after you come out of the session. Dont forget what is reality. Most of the persons i know who had dated a mpa had been in deep trouble when it all ended. This is past experience. There may be one or two outliers ( otherwise called superheroes with enormous money or good looks that any woman can fall for). If you are taking the path to date make sure you are a superhero. I.e an outlier

 

[Bud Plug]

A singular date or two would be fine. After all, every girl you ever had sex with had it with someone else before you. Go ahead and cross it off your bucket list. Get it out of your system. However, ongoing dating could never work out (and the other threads bear this out).

 

[NYguardianangel]

Nope, not a MPA... just married a stripper... LOL true story though. She left the business 5 months after we stated dating... I lived in Ottawa at the time, but moved to T.O and bought a place outside the GTA

We had a great 10 years.

And unlike my first wife, she didn't rape my bank account when we divorced;

She was fun, sexual, sensual and a little bit to handle, but we were in love... divorce happened because of her oldest son; couldn't take responsibility, 18 years old and dropped out of school in grade 10...
hard times, but as Alma states, they are not all crazy.

just my opinion

 

[GPIDEAL]

Now Alma sounds like an MPA that I could date.

She makes good points, and a few of the guys who have chimed in, also make good points.

One thing is the same about dating an MPA or 'civilian'. You don't know if you are compatible with them unless you get to know them, and the only way you can do that is by dating.

You might see a negative side to her, and that will turn you off, regardless of how attractive or great she is in bed.

But you won't know unless you try.

Hey, I stopped seeing a 'civilian' because I knew that I wasn't falling in love, and that she had her own agenda. I got along better with working girls.

If you do a search, you will see my Top Ten Golden Rules about Dating MPAs and Strippers (it probably needs to be tweaked).

Not all working girls are crazy or unlovable.

 

[mandrill]

"tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all"....Alfred Lord Tennyson

Or Alfred Lord Douglas, I guess. (Private oagre-joke).

 

[OriginalGStar]

And let me guess....you don't have side chicks...
But because she is a sex worker you categorize her and say the things you do when really you should be looking in the mirror saying the same thing....except you do t have the title of sex worker to
Give you the scarlet letter so to speak...

You fuck for free...
This trade is massive profit....

You tell me who is doing it for proprietary reasons and who the one is that's doing it for self instant gratification.....
Who is less apt to be trusted now.

I rest my case.

What are you talking about?!? How can she not be a side chick when shes seeing other people and im okay with that?? you think any guy can really put up with it for that long? because i been there, and its shit
truth be told theres some still lingering feelings, but to keep things simple this is the best way to really deal with it
why should it be only a massive profit for me? shes spending the night here, im giving her massages all night , taking care of her and ill even cook a meal in the morning if shes lazy
its a equal trade off, i give her that D she gives me the V, and if im extra nice about it she might even suck me off
my 3 cents

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

Amen girl!!!!! :thumb: you stick it to them where the sun don't shine. Truth is most of these guys failed miserably at dating one and are bitter each time they read such stories. I agree with you the MPAs are some of the most talented awesome and amazing women I've met, and I work with many highly educated ladies who are lame as the get and think they have control over everything and everybody. I think these guys are afraid to spend time with real women, and I applaud women like you for standing up to these complainers.

This is NOT fair....

Not all girls in this profession are crazy or a little off the top.
Many women are in this career for personal reasons.
It does not make a woman in this field any different from any other woman.

Now that being said...your married for example and come see an m.a or s.p. ..why? Because your wife doesn't give you the love and attention that you need.

Most ma's and sps are a cut above the average momma bear because we know this thing...we cater to your needs...we want to please you....we want sunshine and rainbows to fly out of your ass....does your wife or s.o care about that??
Not usually...

We are more empathetic. ..we know the needs of a man.
Why deprive him? Why try and control him via bj or lack thereof?

Who wants to play games? Surely not the provider as she is so sick and tired of the bs. And as a matter of fact...craves a normal guy.

You have an advantage by dating an sp or MA
Because we are most likely smarter, wiser to the world....
Street smart and busineas savvy...a good combination...we are empathetic to you, understanding, and want to make it work in a relationship with a civilian...not play them.


The most manipulative women and game player in the female species are those who do not have anything to do with this field.
I think.


Sps and ma's are the most normal people in the female species because we understand!
It's on you if you have jealousy issues.

That being said....
So it's ok for a married man to seek the therapy of an sp and deem that normal but yet the s.o who provides that service is less honest and more apt to cheat on you???

Please.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

So sex work is not ok to the man but it's ok for the man to seek sex workers deeming it appropriate because
He doesn't get his rocks off by the woman who lays in bed with him on a regular basis and that is an acceptable norm??

OMG...I think I am in love...you can't be for real, can you? Wow!? Seriously, this is so bad ass!!!

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

So much hypocrisy in this issue and I tend to believe that most men will follow the status quo on this subject.

Sex workers are the most humble....most empathetic...most hustling mother fuckers out of any of the female species.


Civilian women can't even come close to knowing half the things we do about life...men...relationships...

If they did ...you guys wouldn't be coming to us.

Thats it...I am done for, my head just exploded

Who are you, where do you work, why don't I know you

Wow,

 

[rhuarc29]

Each individual is different. That applies to both the you and the MPA. So it's difficult to give you advice. What doesn't work for others may work for you. There are some precautions.

One, if you can't come to terms with her job, don't bother. Even if she agrees to stop, that may produce resentment in her. And if she doesn't agree to stop or you never asked her to, that may produce resentment in you.
Two, you must have a strong bond of trust. If you can't trust her to do her job without crossing a line, it'll drive you crazy. And your insecurity will drive her crazy.
Three, you'll both need a lot of patience and understanding as such a relationship presents challenges most other relationships don't.

As for what kind of guy an MPA prefers, I'd imagine (b) would take the cake. (a) is not a healthy way to have a relationship and (c) is someone forcing you to change...also not healthy. It's also possible that the preference would be a fourth option: someone who doesn't know, but learns later on in the relationship and accepts it.

 

[|2 /-\ | /|/]

you crazy romantic fool. Lol

OP - anything can happen. Just know that the odds are against you. Do a search and read carefully. You'll see many stories of veteran hobbyists who have gone down that rabbit hole and emerged worse off, for oddly similar reasons. A few have even joked about starting a support group. Lol

Here's a thought - we all think we're special and smarter/wiser/tougher than the next guy...until the day we realize that we're not.

Takes one to know one....

I bet you say that to all them crazy romantic fools...lol

BTW...I still don't believe you!

P.S. noticed you've been skipping on a couple of them sessions, the circle is just not the same without your cerebral stimuli.