Dumped by a sp?

[Etienne9]

Hey, I'm pretty new at the hobby, in fact I had only met one sp at that time. We saw each other at the hotel the first time, then she came over to my place two more times. I thought we got along well, the conversations were nice and playful, she even stayed over three more hours that I paid for the last time.

Then when I tried to book her again she said that I live too far for her to drive to. I suggested we meet back at the hotel again, and I didn't heard from her since. She stopped answering my texts and the one e-mail I sent.

Like I said, I'm new at this, so why would a sp stopped talking to someone like that? Especially when things were going well?

Thanks!

 

[Toronto`s Finest]

One guess ..... she sensed you were acting like a boyfriend ..... Ya know ..... getting attached & she saw trouble ahead since she not lookin for boyfriend.

 

[Etienne9]

One guess ..... she sensed you were acting like a boyfriend ..... Ya know ..... getting attached & she saw trouble ahead since she not lookin for boyfriend.

I thought of that, and it wasn't the case. In fact, we made fun of guys who invented made-up relationships like that. Things were clear in that regard.

 

[DB123]

Ya, you probably got or seemed to get too attached. Especially if you're new at this whole thing, its something thats bound to happen now and then.

Variety, soldier, variety.

 

[Etienne9]

Ya, you probably got or seemed to get too attached. Especially if you're new at this whole thing, its something thats bound to happen now and then.

Variety, soldier, variety.

Haha, yeah.

I guess I'm not going to win this argument as the usual case is probably the client sharing too much and falling for the sp. I didn't though. If anything, she shared a lot more than I did.

I'm not really bummed out it happened, I'm more curious than anything else. If my electrician doesn't want to work with me, he'll give me a reason. This is a strange business.

 

[DB123]

Haha, yeah.

I guess I'm not going to win this argument as the usual case is probably the client sharing too much and falling for the sp. I didn't though. If anything, she shared a lot more than I did.

I'm not really bummed out it happened, I'm more curious than anything else. If my electrician doesn't want to work with me, he'll give me a reason. This is a strange business.

Well, maybe the opposite was true...maybe you got in her head and it freaked her out? Maybe...

 

[Etienne9]

is she still advertising? I'd stop reaching out to her if she's not responding after a couple of tries. It's possible one or two emails land in a spam folder, but after that I'd just take the hint and move on.

Yes she's still advertising. I sent her three texts over a week after she told me I lived too far, then sent one e-mail to sort of say goodbye and thanks, after seeing someone else actually. Moving on was fun!

 

[Titalian]

Haha, yeah.

I guess I'm not going to win this argument as the usual case is probably the client sharing too much and falling for the sp. I didn't though. If anything, she shared a lot more than I did.

I'm not really bummed out it happened, I'm more curious than anything else. If my electrician doesn't want to work with me, he'll give me a reason. This is a strange business.

Wait, it gets better ! Like DB said Variety my man.

 

[sasemohan123]

Haha, yeah.

I guess I'm not going to win this argument as the usual case is probably the client sharing too much and falling for the sp. I didn't though. If anything, she shared a lot more than I did.

I'm not really bummed out it happened, I'm more curious than anything else. If my electrician doesn't want to work with me, he'll give me a reason. This is a strange business.

Sir,

Please excuse the simple-minded people who jump into conclusion, and putting you down blaming you trying to have a "relationship" with a provider. I think you know better than that. Nothing is more hilarious when someone says he is not but everyone still... as if they "know" what really transpire in someone else sessions, make me sick sometimes.

As for the reasons, there maybe many other things, one that happened to me is in a SC setting, there were more than one dancer who deliberately push me away when SHE feels the attachment and afraid of it. You'll never know for sure the reason because she has cut off the comm, I only know about my dancer's reason when we met again after everything settled and became friends she told me.

Keep the memories, move on and be at peace with yourself, she probably TRULY likes you and TRULY care enough to avoid you.

 

[shack]

Though she didn't say anything, maybe she felt she should have received a tip for the extra 3 hours.

 

[Marla]

All valid reasons take your pick...only you can have a good hunch. You sound like you have your head on your shoulders ok and it is too bad this happened the first time but please don't let it jade you.

 

[mandrill]

Maybe it simply was that he lived too far for her to see him and she didn't like the hotel he offered. Who knows!

Anyway, important thing is the guy moved on and took the hint. No harm, no foul.

 

[Terminator2000]

maybe she fell in love with you and is trying to deal with the overwhelming emotions by keeping her distance from you. she's probably so so confused right now.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Well, maybe the opposite was true...maybe you got in her head and it freaked her out? Maybe...

I was going to say this too.

Also, the OP said she stayed for 3 more hours. Perhaps, she was afraid that she set an unaffordable precedent and wanted to avoid that.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Though she didn't say anything, maybe she felt she should have received a tip for the extra 3 hours.

I like this even better!

 

[bcd]

Though she didn't say anything, maybe she felt she should have received a tip for the extra 3 hours.

I'm guessing at some point during those 3 hours she received a tip of some sort

 

[IM469]

Maybe it simply was that he lived too far for her to see him and she didn't like the hotel he offered. Who knows!

Anyway, important thing is the guy moved on and took the hint. No harm, no foul.

Yes that is why he posted the thread after sending multiple texts and an e-mail. Toronto's Finest hit the nail on the head. The girl correctly saw trouble ahead with a subtle boyfriend behaviour and the frantic texts & e-mail confirmed her suspicions. To pay for a boyfriend experience is nice but if the client starts to give the impression that he is emotionally treating it as real - it can become very difficult for the SP.

 

[SexB]

It's like I always say; I have SPs I enjoy seeing and I like to think enjoy my company but at the end of the day, I'm realistic about our relationship.

 

[jcpro]

We're just marks in SP's ledgers and they're only entertainment.

 

[Vixens]

I was going to say this too.

Also, the OP said she stayed for 3 more hours. Perhaps, she was afraid that she set an unaffordable precedent and wanted to avoid that.

Very reasonable explanation.

Steph