Does it annoy you when SPs try and enjoy sex?

[Annalise Lane]

I warn gentleman that I'm a selfish lover, and he's not leaving the room until I'm done. If you need an assistant to finish the deed, I'll hand you b.o.b. to gett'r done.

Money got me into this business, but orgasms keep me here.

I will see a selfish lover twice. The second time is just to check and see if he was having an off day, if he's got "I pay you" attitude I put them on my "no see list" That attitude is disgusting.

You're not paying me for sex, your paying me to leave.

 

[NYguardianangel]

You know, I may get a couple of comments here, but I was brought up on one simple rule... "the women cums first"
I enjoy watching the movements, pleasures and time it takes to make a women enjoy herself.

I have spent several hours massaging, touching and just getting them to relax before even trying to hit the sensual spots.
it doesn't always happen, but when it does the few ladies that have trusted and enjoyed out time appreciate it.

My ex was one of those ladies that once you got her going, she could have 4-5-10 in a row, is was great just to see her enjoy herself.
"its the orgasm that keep her going"...

Who's paying for the "O" anyway??? anyone will tell you.... your paying for the time...
as Alona mentioned you're paying for the time, so enjoy yourself... usually, once you get comfortable/trusted with a client/provider and you have the time, she desires to cum too. lol

Just my opinion, but I've been wrong before too... Keep Smiling

 

[Aardvark154]

Strange thread Fuji.

 

[red]

I don't understand how you can reach that conclusion based on what I wrote.

because he is fuji.

 

[fun-guy]

I warn gentleman that I'm a selfish lover, and he's not leaving the room until I'm done.

lmao, that's exactly what this lady, no longer in the business, would tell me every time I saw her. Her motto was, "I don't cum, you don't cum!"

The legendary Danielle of Toronto. She's moved on and doing very well in her business career.

 

[Ridgeman08]

No. It actually annoys me if they DON'T enjoy themselves. :faint:

Sex is fun, and is supposed to be feel good. If it doesn't well, "someone" is not doing it right!

Fortunately, the ladies I've had the pleasure of spending time with have all enjoyed themselves quite nicely!

 

[Medman52]

ESPECIALLY IF I MAKE HER SQUIRT OR GIVE HER AN QUIVERING ORGASM.

Man, you guys are superstuds!!! I feel so inadequate!

 

[GPIDEAL]

Man, you guys are superstuds!!! I feel so inadequate!

Not every girl squirts when they have an orgasm, and then there are some who never do, but they might. In my most recent case, I played a video of me fucking my ex-SB off my BB and dirty-talked about it. The SP in question is bisexual too and was using a toy, but my prompting got her over the top. The brain can be the most powerful sex organ you know.

P.S. I'm no super stud even though I've been called a stud he he. I think I can be more of a 'studley' when I'm on my game.

 

[IM469]

It depends. Is she trying to enjoy herself at my expense? In that case, given the nature of our relationship, that is unacceptable.

I have had experiences with SPs who are... demanding. That can work for some guys, but it doesn't for me. An SP who goes beyond enjoying sex with me to being pushy just isn't fun. I expect my experience with an SP to be about me. Yes, I try to make sure she enjoys herself and I do my best to be a kind and considerate companion, but in the end it's about me, not her.

Short of screwing a dead corpse or causing her to lose her spot reading a book while you pump - it is a rather one dimensional experience that you are after. So she can't suggest a more comfortable position or even suggest an activity that gives an experience of a two party sexual experience ?

Myself, I want some enthusiasm. I like GFE and that includes some indication that she is as into it as me - or at least faking it so I don't know the difference.

 

[Madeline Rhodes]

I get off on women that are genuinely turned on, ESPECIALLY IF I MAKE HER SQUIRT OR GIVE HER AN QUIVERING ORGASM.

You forgot the occasional burst of giggling that can happen with that combination. Is that ever entertaining to watch.

Besides, nothing beats natural lubrication and a lady who's flush and glowing from her orgasmic joy.

Exactly! What a lovely picture you just painted in my head.

They usually pretend to cum and that is a fine by me. I know what it actually takes to make a woman cum from sex with civilians and I know whether I am doing that or not.

Not all women are pretending, and not all women take a lot of work. Some really do have to check their panties after a stiff breeze happens to make their nipples tighten. Not a common occurrence but it can and does happen.

Even those who CAN be that way won't always be that way but it is certainly fun when they are...

Who's paying who to orgasm again?

When I was around I never got paid to orgasm. If I had it would have been per-orgasm so I could have made a mint. Really.

I warn gentleman that I'm a selfish lover, and he's not leaving the room until I'm done. If you need an assistant to finish the deed, I'll hand you b.o.b. to gett'r done.

Money got me into this business, but orgasms keep me here.

I will see a selfish lover twice. The second time is just to check and see if he was having an off day, if he's got "I pay you" attitude I put them on my "no see list" That attitude is disgusting.

You're not paying me for sex, your paying me to leave.

You my dear said it best!

Years ago a man told me he never paid a woman to be there but to leave at the end... It was when I was very "new" to the industry. He also told me to make sure I got to cum as well so I could have some real fun.

Unfortunately some men will never get it but men like him... Taught me more about myself then I can really express.

lmao, that's exactly what this lady, no longer in the business, would tell me every time I saw her. Her motto was, "I don't cum, you don't cum!"

The legendary Danielle of Toronto. She's moved on and doing very well in her business career.

Oh my goodness... I miss her! Such a lovely person with amazing amounts of dedication and focus. She had a goal... She attained it... She moved on.

I do recall a conversation about that very line though. We were in agreement that this was how it "should" be.

Though my line was:

"If I'm not cumming... You're not staying!"

 

[homerjsimpson]

Obviously it is an SPs job to make the experience fun and for that everyone expects a certain enthusiasm and a positive, energetic approach, and it's great if SP enjoy that. I think many do.

But you know in the real world it is a lot of work, physically and emotionally, to make most women cum. They need time to get going and a lot of patience and adjustment to hit their sweet spot. Anyone who has a girlfriend or wife knows what I am talking about.

Now we maintain the comforting illusion that SPs are different. They are all wild sluts who can't help themselves and just cum so much more easily, multiple times a day, and right on cue even in a 30 minute session. I am sure some of the ladies will chime in. Not with everyone, they will say, but with the right guy (i.e., you) it can happen, they will say. Sure, sure. Bet that is sometimes even true.

Well recently I had what I would call a true girlfriend experience. She spent the entire session trying to cum, the same way women always do: trying to control the angles , position, speed, giving me a lot of instruction and clearly focused on it.

I was vaguely flattered but mostly annoyed. It went on far too long and felt like work. I only do that for women I am in a relationship with. An SP is to me more like 3D interactive porn. I don't expect or want that much reality!

I totally understand what you're saying and completely agree. It's so much like friggin work that you can't enjoy it. And frankly, you don't love the person and you're paying for the time, things really need to go your way. "Vaguely flattered but mostly annoyed" is exactly how I would feel too.

Oddly, not the first time I have agreed with Fuji on something.

 

[pipelayer]

Ipersonally don't understand the need for intimacy or "pretend" girlfriend with an sp. Get a real gf if you want to learn to bring her to her ultimate pleasure and excitement. With an sp, I expect to have sex the exact way I like. If she gets off, perfect. If not, she should try harder next time. The guys that think they are don juans with sp's, would get a dose of reality if they were solely operating in civilian life. It's a financial transactions. Period. Once you walk out the door, the sp is planning her next financial transaction.

 

[babemagnet]

Ipersonally don't understand the need for intimacy or "pretend" girlfriend with an sp. Get a real gf if you want to learn to bring her to her ultimate pleasure and excitement. With an sp, I expect to have sex the exact way I like. If she gets off, perfect. If not, she should try harder next time. The guys that think they are don juans with sp's, would get a dose of reality if they were solely operating in civilian life. It's a financial transactions. Period. Once you walk out the door, the sp is planning her next financial transaction.

Bingo. Sad but true.

 

[Ridgeman08]

It's a financial transactions. Period. Once you walk out the door, the sp is planning her next financial transaction.

Yes... it IS a financial transaction, but what's to say the SP can't enjoy her chosen profession?

I don't know about you guys, but I enjoy what I do for a living... Why can't SP's??

Perhaps it is the caliber of lady I choose to spend time with, (I research them painstakingly) and yes, as a single man, I have also played in the civilian world, with varying degrees of success, but one thing remains constant; my partner and I, always enjoy ourselves. You get out of it, what you put into it... its a simple equation.

 

[babemagnet]

Yes... it IS a financial transaction, but what's to say the SP can't enjoy her chosen profession?

I don't know about you guys, but I enjoy what I do for a living... Why can't SP's??

Well, some sp's are capable of giving outstanding service to anyone who walks through the door.DFK. That is an astounding feat and it must give pause to exactly how much she thinks of you, if you think she has a special place in her memory bank for you.
That being said. Amazingly some sp's enjoy getting off. I actually categorize them by that criteria. Some don't bother to fake. Some fake at the appropriate time to conclude the session and some actually do get off. Normally I repeat with the third category, but lately I am repeating with someone I know I haven't made a dent in, sexually.But she is so good.

 

[Lustology]

don't care as long as i'm enjoying it.

 

[BSLover]

You're not paying me for sex, your paying me to leave.

How could you get that right and then get it wrong in the same sentence?

 

[lomotil]

Ipersonally don't understand the need for intimacy or "pretend" girlfriend with an sp. Get a real gf if you want to learn to bring her to her ultimate pleasure and excitement. With an sp, I expect to have sex the exact way I like. If she gets off, perfect. If not, she should try harder next time. The guys that think they are don juans with sp's, would get a dose of reality if they were solely operating in civilian life. It's a financial transactions. Period. Once you walk out the door, the sp is planning her next financial transaction.

Sometimes while you are f@-'king the sp, they are already planning their next financial transaction even.

Well said pipelayer, we should all know this when we are laying pipe, but part of the fee for some of us is the illusion and fantasy.

 

[legmann]

Annoy? Not in the least. In fact, I encourage it!

 

[nuprin001]

Short of screwing a dead corpse or causing her to lose her spot reading a book while you pump - it is a rather one dimensional experience that you are after. So she can't suggest a more comfortable position or even suggest an activity that gives an experience of a two party sexual experience ?

Myself, I want some enthusiasm. I like GFE and that includes some indication that she is as into it as me - or at least faking it so I don't know the difference.

Of course she can suggest a better position for herself and ask for this or that. But I have been with SPs (well, one SP) who truly acted like she didn't give a rat's ass about my enjoyment. She wasn't playing for both of us to have a good time: she was playing to have a good time for her, and my enjoyment was a source of annoyance to her.

That just doesn't work for me, particularly in an SP relationship. I didn't put in my time, money, and effort to spend an hour holding a vibrator on you while I sit there neglected.

With a real-world GF, ok. But what I'm looking for from an SP is for her to pamper me and make me feel like a king, not for her to treat me like her personal sex toy.

I *want* any SP I see to enjoy herself. I am willing to be a good sport and to work to make it happen for her. But my primary mission is to have fun myself. Can her getting off be fun for me? Absolutely! But not when she's being bitchy and demanding of me. That's just not my vibe.