I'm glad you're both a-o-k. I don't think anyone can question you two - you're two of the most solid girls I've met in this industry from a peer's perspective and from a client's perspective.
Keep your chins up <3
Keep your chins up <3
Sorry to read about your experience and glad that it ended without serious consequences. However no SP, never, under any circumstances, for any reason at all, should tolerate being taken advantage of!Any girl who wishes to know his name can contact me privately and I will most definitely share his info. I am not going to post it public because that will just escalate the damage and I am going to give the guy the benefit of the doubt that he will remember that not all SPs will tolerate being taken advantage of.
The boundaries that she had specifically laid out in emails, on her website and verbally at the start of the session were all violated.
Don't be such a jackass!sorry about the experience and glad to hear you two could get out of it. A little more details of the boundaries violated would help us understand better so any one us out to see you two be more careful.
I love that there is some doofus trying to extract jerk off material out of this thread...sorry about the experience and glad to hear you two could get out of it. A little more details of the boundaries violated would help us understand better so any one us out to see you two be more careful.
Dear Gentlemen who enjoy PSE,
There is a reason we screen more deliberately. Despite the fact that Candice and I both really enjoy PSE we had the unfortunate circumstance of having to kick out a client last night. Every single time I turned my head he crossed Candice's boundaries. It's ho's before bro's and I could tell she was not ok. The boundaries that she had specifically laid out in emails, on her website and verbally at the start of the session were all violated. The fact of the matter is that he took full advantage of Candice every time I turned my head. He didn't stop when she said red and he secretly took video and photographs of her which we are still unsure we were able to remove from the camera. The both of us are quite shaken up by this event as neither of us have ever had to ask someone to leave. The reason we are both able to offer PSE safely is because we have our individual limits and the capacity to verbalize them. It is the mans job to understand, respect and not violate. In this situation I was so incredibly turned off, Candice was in pain and almost crying and there was just no way I was going to continue to provide pleasure to this person who clearly demonstrated absolutely NO RESPECT for Candice's boundaries. I feel he really took advantage of the fact that she is tiny, very young, new-ish and a complete sweet-heart who just wants to please. I have seen Candice fuck like a rock star several times and in this situation, the client wasn't getting anywhere with her because he was making her feel so disrespected and turned-off. I got so turned-off and angry that I had to kick him out. I called him out on his behaviour and I hope that there won't be any drama on TERB.
I just wanted to put it out there that PSE is awesome fun until something like this goes wrong and then it is GAME OVER. I will always make sure play is 100% consensual and if you OVERTLY go beyond someone's consent then YMMV applies and you sink and you lose.
It was a really unfortunate turn of events as this was an extensive session that Candice and I prepared for much in advance right down to specific toys and outfit requests. We really wanted this to go well, but it didn't. Neither of us are crooks, but you can be damned sure we are self-respecting women who don't tolerate being blatantly violated. Yes, I am angry as hell. But I am not going to let this one asshole cause me so much anxiety that I pull back on what I am offering. I have been enjoying doing more PSE sessions lately, but when something like this happens, it reminds me of why I need to be screening more carefully.
THANKS FOR READING
lots of love,
Jezebel
PS- Candice is okay, we got out of the situation and I had her back. We both want to be able to keep offering what we do and being able to enjoy it as well. xo
I guess you're another jackass that didn't bother reading the OP! I've highlighted a few items from the OP so that morons like you will know what not to do.Maybe it's so men can know what not to do?
This isn't some PG-13 site (fuckin' obviously), it can actually be helpful.
Yes, you have; and I apologize for my rude (and over the top) name calling. It seemed pretty clear from the OP what had happened... rules and boundaries had been clearly defined by the SP before the session began. I suspect that the client was made aware that he was violating those rules as the session progressed. Surely we (i.e., clients) should know that secretly photographing or filming a session is, if nothing else, unethical. And, for God's sake, when a client is ignoring an SP's use a safe word (while she is also crying at the same time) that's unacceptable. Why do you (or anyone else) need more specifics than what were provided to know that these actions were not appropriate?So videotaping caused physical pain? And what's with the names? I've been nothing but polite in addressing you, and I'm fairly certain you'd hesitate to say those things to my face.
Relax. Breathe.