Dear Gentlemen who enjoy PSE,
There is a reason we screen more deliberately. Despite the fact that Candice and I both really enjoy PSE we had the unfortunate circumstance of having to kick out a client last night. Every single time I turned my head he crossed Candice's boundaries. It's ho's before bro's and I could tell she was not ok. The boundaries that she had specifically laid out in emails, on her website and verbally at the start of the session were all violated. The fact of the matter is that he took full advantage of Candice every time I turned my head. He didn't stop when she said red and he secretly took video and photographs of her which we are still unsure we were able to remove from the camera. The both of us are quite shaken up by this event as neither of us have ever had to ask someone to leave. The reason we are both able to offer PSE safely is because we have our individual limits and the capacity to verbalize them. It is the mans job to understand, respect and not violate. In this situation I was so incredibly turned off, Candice was in pain and almost crying and there was just no way I was going to continue to provide pleasure to this person who clearly demonstrated absolutely NO RESPECT for Candice's boundaries. I feel he really took advantage of the fact that she is tiny, very young, new-ish and a complete sweet-heart who just wants to please. I have seen Candice fuck like a rock star several times and in this situation, the client wasn't getting anywhere with her because he was making her feel so disrespected and turned-off. I got so turned-off and angry that I had to kick him out. I called him out on his behaviour and I hope that there won't be any drama on TERB.
I just wanted to put it out there that PSE is awesome fun until something like this goes wrong and then it is GAME OVER. I will always make sure play is 100% consensual and if you OVERTLY go beyond someone's consent then YMMV applies and you sink and you lose.
It was a really unfortunate turn of events as this was an extensive session that Candice and I prepared for much in advance right down to specific toys and outfit requests. We really wanted this to go well, but it didn't. Neither of us are crooks, but you can be damned sure we are self-respecting women who don't tolerate being blatantly violated. Yes, I am angry as hell. But I am not going to let this one asshole cause me so much anxiety that I pull back on what I am offering. I have been enjoying doing more PSE sessions lately, but when something like this happens, it reminds me of why I need to be screening more carefully.
THANKS FOR READING
lots of love,
Jezebel
PS- Candice is okay, we got out of the situation and I had her back. We both want to be able to keep offering what we do and being able to enjoy it as well. xo
There is a reason we screen more deliberately. Despite the fact that Candice and I both really enjoy PSE we had the unfortunate circumstance of having to kick out a client last night. Every single time I turned my head he crossed Candice's boundaries. It's ho's before bro's and I could tell she was not ok. The boundaries that she had specifically laid out in emails, on her website and verbally at the start of the session were all violated. The fact of the matter is that he took full advantage of Candice every time I turned my head. He didn't stop when she said red and he secretly took video and photographs of her which we are still unsure we were able to remove from the camera. The both of us are quite shaken up by this event as neither of us have ever had to ask someone to leave. The reason we are both able to offer PSE safely is because we have our individual limits and the capacity to verbalize them. It is the mans job to understand, respect and not violate. In this situation I was so incredibly turned off, Candice was in pain and almost crying and there was just no way I was going to continue to provide pleasure to this person who clearly demonstrated absolutely NO RESPECT for Candice's boundaries. I feel he really took advantage of the fact that she is tiny, very young, new-ish and a complete sweet-heart who just wants to please. I have seen Candice fuck like a rock star several times and in this situation, the client wasn't getting anywhere with her because he was making her feel so disrespected and turned-off. I got so turned-off and angry that I had to kick him out. I called him out on his behaviour and I hope that there won't be any drama on TERB.
I just wanted to put it out there that PSE is awesome fun until something like this goes wrong and then it is GAME OVER. I will always make sure play is 100% consensual and if you OVERTLY go beyond someone's consent then YMMV applies and you sink and you lose.
It was a really unfortunate turn of events as this was an extensive session that Candice and I prepared for much in advance right down to specific toys and outfit requests. We really wanted this to go well, but it didn't. Neither of us are crooks, but you can be damned sure we are self-respecting women who don't tolerate being blatantly violated. Yes, I am angry as hell. But I am not going to let this one asshole cause me so much anxiety that I pull back on what I am offering. I have been enjoying doing more PSE sessions lately, but when something like this happens, it reminds me of why I need to be screening more carefully.
THANKS FOR READING
lots of love,
Jezebel
PS- Candice is okay, we got out of the situation and I had her back. We both want to be able to keep offering what we do and being able to enjoy it as well. xo
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