Clients looking for SP to become an SO

[mrsCALoki]

My first client was using Terb as a super store for a SO. He was focussing on one woman after another trying to find one that fit his expectations. When he booked me I pretty well had figured it out by reading posts and reviews. I thought it was creepy but sounded like if I played along I could make a lot of money easily.

I guess after a few trips and being with him it went from creepy to a series of great experiences that paid well. I knew his history and expected to be dumped at any time, so I kept reminding myself that it was not real.

In record time I had reached my financial goal and was ready to quit the SP world and I had to face the fact that I was happy when I was with my client. I struggled with so many contradictory thoughts. I knew I was the only woman he brought to his home, the only one that met his daughter and grand-son, the only one that met his friends. I believed I was special to him. I could not decide if I wanted him, wanted the life style, or wanted how I felt when I was with him.

I told him in April that I was quitting the entire SP lifestyle and I would never see any client again. He just sort of looked crushed and left the suite. I grab a robe, chased him to the elevator, kissed him, and said I heard he might be looking for a GF.

So here are my questions:

Do many men come here sub-consciously or deliberately looking for a SO?

I am still struggling with the “do I love him or do I love his life style”. For me, his having money per say was and is not much of a turn on. His making more in a year at 59 than most men ever could is a huge turn on. I am turned on that he is successful. My question is, do we fall in love with the entire package or with the man? Can we separate the man from what he does and is?

I discovered that what I needed was not what I thought I needed. I would never have dated a man his age before. But since I did spend time with him, I found it soothed and satisfied father issues that had been nagging at me. I adore being treated like a princess and just being able to feel safe. Is that normal?

 

[39ajaxmale]

My question would be this.

Without his money, do you still love him?

 

[mrsCALoki]

My question would be this.

Without his money, do you still love him?

I would never have got to know him without his money. First time I realized I was in love was when he caught fish for my dinner. He hates fishing. He did it because he cared about me. If he lost all his money, I know I would still love him.

 

[bazokajoe]

His making more in a year at 59 than most men ever could is a huge turn on.


I think this says it all.

 

[Babypowder]

sounds like a bad jennifer Aniston movie. that would be the last place id look for an SO. but Im glad your happy though.

 

[mrsCALoki]

why do you spend so much time here chatting about your relationship? go enjoy it already ... you're retired... remember???

Jessica, mostly because I have no one in my life I can talk to about it. And because I am learning to deal with the looks we get. An attractive 25 year old with a man more than twice her age gets a lot of baggage dumped on her. And being human we need to seek understanding

 

[mrsCALoki]

His making more in a year at 59 than most men ever could is a huge turn on.


I think this says it all.

It does. It says how much you earn is a score card. It says that most women are attracted to men who are 'making it' in society. TO me men on welfare (at the opposite extreme) are just losers.

 

[angiec27@ymail.com]

why do you spend so much time here chatting about your relationship? go enjoy it already ... you're retired... remember???

You're being rude. She can choose to do whatever she wants with her time. Don't listen to her OP. She's probably jealous. I say go for it and live for the moment. He sounds like a great guy!

 

[spraggamuffin]

I've often heard acquaintances jokingly say that SPs make the best wives.

Never actually knew what to make of the statement really.

Sure there is the element that she would be experienced at sex and willing to perform things like fellatio that the bible thumping ordinary civvie won't for fear of the dreaded "slut" nametag.

I never knew of call girls, SPs etc as we know today but only streetwalkers.

All I could think of was the hard life she lived on the street and her loyalty and gratitude in return for someone now loving and taking care of her.

It's like from her experience, she knows to appreciate and hold on to what she has now considering where she came from and her husband would have no problem with trust,jealousy issues or the prospect of her cheating etc

I have never considered an SP as a SO because as the poster above said you really don't know if the are in it for you or the money.

This however holds true for any woman though as Financial security is high on most womens' priority list.

Plus I have no money. Lol So me hoping is quite futile.

Many SPs are either very hot or very sexual or both and therefore they could pretty much have any guy they choose which lessens my chances in having less of what they are looking for.

Therefore many would go for the Adonis or more confident alpha males for NSA sex.

Those looking for financial security would go for the money knowing after they've secured it they could then go after the alphas, bad boys and boy toys.

Trust would be a huge issue therefore for most men or it would take a very confident don't care man or just one who is willing to compromise.

By willing to compromise, he realizes that he can't be sure she loves him for him, but he loves her and that's all that matters to him and having her is sufficient for him.

As all the resources he has that she is possiibly after him for, couldn't actually replace her or the way she makes him feel by way of happiness.

I might add that most SPs may not be interested in a significant other as his first order of business would often be for her to stop what she is doing.

There can be no better woman for a throphy wife than a SO if you have what she want's in return off course.

A woman in the business is also more accessible, easier to break the ice to and more likely to be hot and not frigid.

Not even eHarmony could match that.

 

[wellhungone]

Please clarify - what is an "SO" ?

 

[39ajaxmale]

significant other.. spouse, boy/girlfriend..

 

[bazokajoe]

It does. It says how much you earn is a score card. It says that most women are attracted to men who are 'making it' in society. TO me men on welfare (at the opposite extreme) are just losers.

You said you are struggliing with"do I love him or his lifestyle".You answered your own question at least 2-3 times.You love him for his money!
Not sure why you care what other people think when you ave your own agenda.

 

[mrsCALoki]

been there... my recent relationship was with a man ten years my senior... but I also look much younger than I am and so we got the 'she must be his daughter' looks all the time ... grocery store, restaurants, business functions etc. Stand tall put your shoulders back and don't EVER be ashamed. That baggage is theirs... not yours sweetie. If you feel embarrassed, or awkward, it will show. and you have no reason to feel that way at all.

Recently in the members lounge of a hotel a guy my age came up to us at breakfast and offered to show "You and your daughter the city". I think he was trying to pick me up. I had no idea how to respond. I wanted to turn to Loki and give him the deepest FK imaginable and say "can't we just play in bed today?" But I just did not know what was appropriate.

 

[wellhungone]

significant other

Duh, thank you for the clarification. I need to catch up on the lingo !

 

[TeasePlease]

I discovered that what I needed was not what I thought I needed. I would never have dated a man his age before. But since I did spend time with him, I found it soothed and satisfied father issues that had been nagging at me. I adore being treated like a princess and just being able to feel safe. Is that normal?

Totally normal. And guess what? I'll be you satisfy a primal need for him as well - to be needed and to provide for you...and to have someone they absolutely adore.

I think many hobbyists are looking for more than just physical gratification. If that were the case, there would not be "regulars" or long-time clients.

Is it healthy? It is what it is. Just be honest with each other.

 

[mrsCALoki]

You said you are struggliing with"do I love him or his lifestyle".You answered your own question at least 2-3 times.You love him for his money!
Not sure why you care what other people think when you ave your own agenda.

life style is not money. Life style is much about what he does, what we share, than money. Best part of our life style is cuddling on quilts in-front of the fire place and reading. Well he reads and rubs my feet, I tend to type here :roll:

 

[mrsCALoki]

well yes because you're 25 .... I would have simply said "we left the children at home"

Oh thank you. That will be perfect if it happens again.

 

[Blac]

not rude... it's called honesty. I was truly curious... for someone who claims to make 40 grand in 4 weeks and then retire from the industry she sure spends a lot of time here. It's saturday morning if I was married to my true love like she is I'd be in bed with my honey having a good romp. Just sayin'

This is getting depressing by the minute.

 

[Narg]

Yep. What you describe is normal.

Every man on here is looking for something, or a variety of things. Some are actively looking for an SO. Some are looking for a mistress. Some are looking simply for sexual variety. Some are simply looking for a release. A few are looking to bolster their self esteem - some with positive reinforcement from SPs who pretend to (or do) enjoy their company and some by looking down on SPs. There are certainly categories I have not thought of and many of us fit into more than one category at a time.

People generally want to make a positive connection, especially when something as intimate as sex is involved. Even the guys who states (and some even believe) that they have zero interest in getting to know an SP, still want the girl to act like she is enjoying herself in their company.

Judging from the comments I've read, many guys get attracted to a select few or even just one SP. Many guys have an atf. Sometimes the SP simply uses that relationship or encourages it for money. Sometimes, however, the emotional bond begins to go both ways. This is completely normal. Why would it surprise anyone that a man and a woman who spend time together in intimate circumstances (involving conversation as well as sex) might discover that they both want that relationship to continue outside of work?

I appreciate why you are posting on this board. I assume that you do not have close family or friends who know the background of how you and your SO met or who would be judgmental about your background or his (or your age and his, or his lifestyle and you). That said, given the nature of this board, your posts are going to receive the occassional sarcastic, critical or insulting comment. Responding to each of these comments with sarcastic comments of your own will derail your own threads and, over time, decrease the likelihood of anyone responding to your comments seriously. I would suggest simply ignoring the responses you do not find helpful. If necessary, make liberal use of the ignore function.

As for the rest of your questions, the "man" is the "entire package". What people do for a living, how much money they make, what they do with that money and what they do with their time outside of work all becomes part of their identity. Your SO simply would not be the same man were he making less money or were he 20 years younger.

Adoring "being treated like a princess" and feeling safe is also normal. Depending on what you mean by these terms, both are also probably healthy. Do you treat him like a prince? Does he feel secure and supported by you? Then its a partnership.

Life is short. Happiness is fleeting. Enjoy.

 

[mrsCALoki]

not rude... it's called honesty. I was truly curious... for someone who claims to make 40 grand in 4 weeks and then retire from the industry she sure spends a lot of time here. It's saturday morning if I was married to my true love like she is I'd be in bed with my honey having a good romp. Just sayin'

Oh, today we are driving. Well Loki is driving, I am sitting beside him playing with my PC. We are also listening to an audio book. We had our romp and coffee first thing this morning. We have it down to a routine: let dog out, make coffee, let dog in, wake up Loki in a way he will enjoy.