Columbian Temptation in the Office....

[WiCkEd LoVeR]

Okay, so I am much older than this new gal that was hired a couple of years back in my office. She's Columbian and has a rocking everything. Now I am a senior manager and she is an entry level clerk. However, she always goes out of her way to talk to me and we have lengthy conversations. She's really touch feely, always compliments me and confides a lot in me. We've been out for coffee and I have confided a lot in her (that's saying a lot given that I am a very private person).

Here's my dilemna... I'm unhappily married and have a daughter around the same age of this babe. I want to test the waters but I am also close the retirement. People in the office have noticed that we are really into each other. She has a 5 or 6 year old son but is available as she ended a relationship that was going nowhere with some meathead who thought he was Mr. Olympia. I've always wanted a son - this is definitely a bonus.

Trust me she's got a banging body and just got breast enhancements about 6 months ago for what was already some nice perky titties! She's also very loving and is confident yet down to earth.

Would you go for it?

 

[Kenny-sauga]

I'll be brief...you are on a slippery rope. Unhappy marriage, close to retirement age, and daughter at same age...the equation looks bit tilted.

However, it is never too late to try the crack, the best and happiest one is Columbian. Be sensitive though, Columbians are generally happy people, so hope you have zeroed out the social aspect and now are treading onto tough water!

Good luck all the way!! Don't foreget to be a role model to your daughter. Viagra does affects thinking ability, no pun intended.

 

[LKD]

can't give you much advice as to whether its worth it...

a photo of her (minus her face) would help us advice you better

 

[larry]

You are being played. think about it. mother alone from another country. entry-level. making friendly with the boss. go spend some money on a massage. it'll be cheaper.

 

[havingfun]

I say go for it. What's your retirement going to look like if you don't?

 

[evilbaga]

Comment 74 from here:
http://www.inmalafide.com/blog/2009/08/06/george-sodini-and-the-contract-between-the-sexes/

I am a couple years shy of 70 years old. I started visiting this rural Mexico village when I was 41, and started living here at times when I was 56. I am not especially handsome, in fact…

When I was 64, an extremely cute 14 year old fell in love with me. Used to being kicked around as Nice Guys are in the US, it scared me half to death, but it was good for my self-esteem.

In the last 2.5 years, I have had subtle offers from two women around 20 years old. Attractive women. I have chosen to be faithful to my Mexican wife of 35 years, not because she deserves it, but because it is better for me. So, I let them pass.

For the benefit of those who would attempt to denigrate my report, this is the Second Wave of women. The gold-diggers and opportunists came right away, some years ago, and they were easy to spot and ignore.

This Second Wave are women who know me personally, and like me enough to have sex with me, or in the case of the first one, she wanted to be my mistress, well knowing I was a married man. I had hot flashes for a week!

The smartest of Jews left Germany in the 20′s. The dummies and the timid stayed and died. So, while I realize it is not easy to expat, all the smart men should at least by working on an exit plan.

NICE GUYS ARE HOT IN MEXICO!!!

 

[evilbaga]

Note:
I offer no personal opinion...after all...Canada is not Mexico!

 

[whitewaterguy]

in the eyes of everyone at your workplace, you have likely already lost the total respect of quite a few fellow employees, particularly those who are aware that you are married. Being a respected leader is something one earns, and i'd say it wont be too long before your called up on the carpet. If you were on my senior management team, we would have called you on this right from the get go and would have ordered you to take a leave until you got your shit together and acted like a senior manager/professional and role model. Never dip your pen in the company's ink. Management 101

 

[Keebler Elf]

Well, he's a senior manager in an office. That's all we know. He could be working at some Blockbuster type office so it's hard to make judgement calls on what is acceptable in that environment or not.

But it's always a bad idea to shit where you eat...

 

[danibbler]

She's Kryptonite to your Superman! I would not touch this with any pole of mine, no matter how long or short.

Wait until you retire and then see what happens. Don't jeopardize that pension if you're entitled to one.

 

[5hummer]

Retire. See her. Get a vasectomy. Record everything. Get financial & legal advice.

Who knows, you could be the next Modern Family?

 

[kynorth]

Seems that not having a son in your life is one reason you're considering this. I recommend you find the series Courtship of Eddy's (sp?) Father on video and watch that instead.

But seriously this is bad, bad news. I won't repeat what the posters say here but the likelihood of it working long term appears to be very low. Seems like a big risk to take for what is at stake.

 

[bazokajoe]

I am single.Send her my way.

 

[LKD]

careful though! based on a thread I had created for advice, a judge could make you pay child benefits just b/c you're spending time with her xDDDD

 

[zz000ter]

OP - she is grooming you.
Don't be a chump and risk everything.

Who paid for the breast implants?
Her son will never really be your son.

 

[alan9080]

What happens after you retire ? She will probably be "touchy feely" with the new boss.
Will she give you the time of the day? Think with the other head !

 

[Libra]

I think if you have to ask, especially here, your probably not going to leave your current wife.

 

[shack]

Have fun. Don't think long term.

 

[mandrill]

Not being pious or judgemental but that is a really bad idea.

You have everything stacked against you, including the normal horniness that clouds a man's judgement when a pretty girl pays him any attention.

Before you consider the risk, consider the consequences.

1. Job and retirement implications of what would CLEARLY have a sexual harassment basis on your subordinate/superior relationship.

2. Divorce from a SCORNED woman. Division of property after a lengthy legal battle designed to inflict harm by a hurt woman.

3. Your daughter HATING you for dumping her mother for a girl her own age.

4. You taking on the role of a father to her son WILL have you responsible for child support until he is 18 or stops wanting to go to school. And if you think that a woman your daughter's age is still gonna want a man old enough to he her father (who is already at retirement age) in another 10-14 years, then you are not thinking straight.

5. Especially a cheater who dumped his wife for a younger model She will NEVER trust you!

5. Losing her friendship if you are misreading her friendliness as her being interested in you.

What the man said.

 

[mandrill]

careful though! based on a thread I had created for advice, a judge could make you pay child benefits just b/c you're spending time with her xDDDD

No. Takes a LOT more than that. Geez!