"Hobbying" - Is there going back once you start?

[McBeebs]

Hello everyone,

I am new to this forum and am considering crossing over to the dark side, by I have a pretty major concern.

I have always been very faithful in all my relationships. It's as if a switch goes off, and although I may find other women attractive (and do, always), there is no question of cheating, even flirting. So I have never cheated, on anyone.

So, now that my marriage is over and having no moral dilemmas or financial problems I am considering sleeping with some willing beautiful women. However, every time I work myself up to do it I panic at the last moment. The point is this:

Will doing this irreversibly change my view of women, relationships, and fidelity?

It is important for me to be the same in any future relationship, ie a faithful, loving partner. I would like to think that getting sexual satisfaction like this while being single does not set a precedent for cheating in the future (simply put, b/c it's not cheating). However, being male I do not have a high opinion of the male mind regarding stepping back from readily available sexual gratification, once the line has been crossed.

Any opinions / experiences would be greatly appreciated. Many thanks.

 

[DocOdd]

I suppose it depends on the individual. I've been hobbying off and on for 14 years now. A lot of the time I wasn't hobbying was the time when I was in a serious relationship; I didn't find it particularly hard to stop hobbying while I was in that relationship.

 

[swalbr]

If you have a history of having an addictive personality, don't start!

 

[OutForFun]

Most who quit don't continue reading this board - not all, but most. So that will obviously give you a highly inaccurate answer.

My answer - at my age (40+), I'm not going to be sleeping with many hot 20 - 25 year-old civilians so giving it up is hard...

 

[einar]

You sound far too rigid and moralistic for the escorting game. Talk to a therapist or family physician about those panic attacks. Hobbying is not for you. Perhaps not marriage either.

 

[Spacewalker]

If you have a history of having an addictive personality, don't start!

This is an excellent point and I don't need to add anything further.

 

[afterhours]

Its hard to fuck old people after u r used to fucking young people. So if u plan at some point to get a partner who is in your age group, better don't start.
If you plan for example to retire in latin America then its not a problem. In Toronto it's a hell of a problem.

 

[GotGusto]

There is no going back once you start but why would you want to go back? Do the right thing and join the team today.

 

[capncrunch]

If you have a history of having an addictive personality, don't start!

This is an excellent point and I don't need to add anything further.

I have to add my voice to the chorus here.

If you can keep your hobbying in check so it's not getting in the way of your normal cash-flow and it's not impacting your non-hobbying life, then have at it.

Thing is, addictive personalities will deny to the last that "there's nothing wrong, I've got it under control."

So best ask yourself, as harshly and realistically as possible, "Do I have an addictive personality?" If you can't answer that, or waffle back and forth in the least, then hobbying is probably not for you.

 

[Lenny Weinrib]

Hobbying taught me that sex is always available with little fuss and at a reasonable price. Therefore I never do dumb shit to get laid. It's a hugely important lesson that is essential to growing up. The lesson should be mandatory for all young men.

 

[TeasePlease]

The hobby is about sex, not intimacy. Don't confuse the two and you'll be ok.

 

[Thunderballs]

Hello everyone,
I would like to think that getting sexual satisfaction like this while being single does not set a precedent for cheating in the future (simply put, b/c it's not cheating). However, being male I do not have a high opinion of the male mind regarding stepping back from readily available sexual gratification, once the line has been crossed.

There's a line? Actually I vaguely recall tripping over something oh so many years ago. Think of this hobby as trying smoking. You may try it and not like it. You may try it and say that you could take it or leave it in which case it would be easy to walk away from at any time. But for those who try smoking and LOVE it, well, then you're fucked.

 

[Brill]

A few questions to ask yourself.

Have you ever had a one night stand with a woman or would you also consider that as crossing over to the dark side?

Do you think seeing escorts is a weakness?

I don't think you'd cheat on a woman if you haven't in the past, it sounds like your personal moral code would stop you.

 

[yahoo40]

most of the people who can't quit hobbying is because they are not good in real world relationships.
so hobbying become easier way out .

 

[GotGusto]

"If it feels good, do it. Worry about the consequences later." - Syphilis Boy

 

[Nickelodeon]

To quote q cliche "Life is not a dress rehearsal". Do it now before you have the moral questions of a firm relationship. Hobbying is a candy shop of flavours you can sample at a reasonable price. Toronto is one of the best places in the world because of the selection, and low risk. It's virtually legal sanctioned sex with all kinds of beautiful women.

Shit, I better look for my TD list.

 

[videobox]

Don't do it. I lost my moral compass picking up this "hobby".

 

[need2know4sure]

it depends on the person.

 

[afterhours]

most of the people who can't quit hobbying is because they are not good in real world relationships.
so hobbying become easier way out .

how the hell are you supposed to be good at fucking 20yo girls if you are in your 50s and not a movie star?

 

[underice]

I would rather be ruined by hundreds of incredible sexual experiences with a few bad ones thrown in,if you call it being ruined.It beats.
1) We need to talk.
2) My mother is coming over this weekend
3) Why don't you enjoy shopping
4) You don't love me anymore
5) If you had 3 kids you would be fat too
6) All you think about is fishing
7)I'm going to talk to our doctor about you visiting porn sites
8)You expect me to do all the Christmas shopping on 5 K !!!!! (true statement)
9)We need to go see a therapist
10) All you do is watch TV
11)The teacher parent meetings are tonight
12)We need to go to costco
13)Your lucky to get a 3 minute BJ on your birthday and you want to cum in my mouth!!!!!Fuck you
14) Your freind was cheating on his wife.I want your phone on GPS so I can trust you
15)I was doing the laundry and I found 160 $ in your pockets !! What was that for!!!!
16)Why do you think you can make plans to go away fishing with your freinds WITHOUT talking to me FIRST!!
17)Your sleeping on the couch! (thank god)
18) I'm going to take you for everything you've got.( freedom is invaluable,so go ahead)
19 )You will have the kids every other weekend ( the sad part,but quality time)
20)Your divorce is granted ( imagine the freedom!!)

Not all marriages are like above,but even among those that survive ,can not 90 % of those statements be accurate at one point?

Now let's be a hobbyist.

1) Who am I going to fuck and have a PSE session with this weekend?
2) Yes, I'd love to come in your mouth,and on your face.
3) You know what,I'm still horny give me another BJ
4) Is the duo interactive
5) How many days will the image of two good looking Asian gals simultaneously sucking my cock last in my mind?
6) Hey guy's ,we can't leave to go fishing until noon.I need to go to BBE and get serviced,it's a long drive to Geraldton.
7)God,that's 7 count them,9/10 girls in a row.
8) Why do I feel so healthy?
9) You know ,I been having so much 10 plus sex that I'm the horniest I've ever been and I'm over 50
10) I really do get lonely once in a while,but some of my married freinds are lonely AND miserable.
11) If I was addicted to sex,umm this is nice.
12) Escorts cost money,so I will earn more(motivational)
13) Ooohhh the pleasant thoughts I have that no one can take from me.


Both lists could go on for a very long time.I've lived both lives.Happiness can be found in marriage.Ecstasy can be found and SUSTAINED with escorts,just as long as you keep yourself fit enough to fuck hundreds of women of your choice.And even if you don't keep yourself fit you ca stilll have the best women you can imagine.

So if this is being ruined,I will take it.