Original poster
Hello,
First, thanks for all the answers. I am really impressed with this community on TERB. As one guy said, of course you are biased, but almost all of you have tried to give me an objective answer. And for that I thank you.
Well, I have still not decided, but now I have more info to go on. I'll take my time, I think.
Some thoughts raised by some of the replies:
- I have never been addicted to any substance or behaviour. So I guess that's a positive, in a sense. Unless visiting SPs proves to be the addiction that undoes me. But you can't go through life like that, worrying about shit in advance.
- I can't just "not worry about it and do it anyways". I'm 34, which means I am not ready to give up on relationships. And it puts me at a different stage than some of you guys. I guess if I was in my 50's, this really wouldn't be a difficult choice. And it would be an awesome one.
- Regarding the statement that SPs will ruin "civilian" women: well, I'm 34, so the eligible women I am bound to date are not over the hill just yet (ages 25-30). That might be the alleviating factor. But it won't help if they suck in bed, so the argument holds.
- Asked by one poster: no, I do not see one-night stands as crossing the line, but it's not quite the same thing, isn't it? It's not so readily convenient, nor fast. And I do not see seeing escorts as a weakness, or I wouldn't be here.
- underice's post is absolutely brilliant! A bit angry at his ex, perhaps, but brilliant nonetheless.
Thanks again, you guys are awesome and you gave me a lot to think about. And you made me realize that even if I decide not to do it now, there's plenty of time...