Looks like the SO is REALLY PO'd at me

[ang]

I know... Wanna talk to her?

She and Mrs. CG are havin a campin coffee on my deck!

Tell her that I am crazy about her and she is my life and I can't imagine life without her in it..................and that I am so sorry for what I said, that I miss holding her and carressing her sexy body, and if she comes home I'll make it up to her and every part of her body........

Well it was worth a try....LOL

 

[Cycleguy007]

CG...did you really NEED to post that?

Give the paisan some privacy.

I'm just joking... and he knows it... Like he said, she's likely gone to work...

So here's your opportunity ang... Clean the house yourself... make her a real nice dinner... whatever her favourite is... chill a bottle of wine and when she gets home don't let her do a thing... make her a drink, serve her her dinner, let her put her feet up and cater to her every need. Flowers would be a nice touch too- again whatever her favourite is.

BTW, the best kind of sex is "make-up" sex! But she needs to know you're sorry for bein a prick before that can happen. You have to "kiss her ass" before you can "kiss her ass".

 

[Brill]

...she left the house this morning while I was asleep

Change the locks, empty your accounts, call a lawyer.

 

[ang]

Change the locks, empty your accounts, call a lawyer.

House is in her name, all joint accounts, her best friend is the top divorce Lawyer in the area.......................I'm FUCKED!!!!!

 

[Brill]

House is in her name, all joint accounts, her best friend is the top divorce Lawyer in the area.......................I'm FUCKED!!!!!

In that case, put on your apron and clean the house - then bake her a nice lasagna.

Before she changes the locks on you.

 

[ang]

In that case, put on your apron and clean the house - then bake her a nice lasagna.

Before she changes the locks on you.

You forgot a long overdue DATY fest!!!...LOL

 

[amber-jade]

go get a baby kitten..AFTER the house is cleaned, dinner is made..
and be waiting on your knees at the font door for her arrival..

 

[randygirl]

Make it up to her, but always remember:

It is with a word as with a stone thrown from the hand-- once let it loose and it does not return.

I'm sure you know this already, but calling someone you love names in anger is never the best course of action. The word may only last a second, but the sentiments echo for ages.

Good luck.

 

[ang]

Make it up to her, but always remember:

It is with a word as with a stone thrown from the hand-- once let it loose and it does not return.

I'm sure you know this already, but calling someone you love names in anger is never the best course of action. The word may only last a second, but the sentiments echo for ages.

Good luck.

You are very wise................and I have said some pretty stupid thing in anger, not really meaning them and of course it is held against me

 

[CheekyChick]

get off your butt, clean the place up, make her dinner and give here a foot rub

I'm with amber-jade on this one. You want to make her feel special, and show her you are TRULY sorry, then get the cleaning done yourself. She is tired from work, and she knows you are tired too. Seeing you doing the housework will warm her heart, trust me. Then, go out for dinner. Lets face it, you would be too tired anyway to make her dinner, and asking her to make it for you would ruin the goodwill you just built up. So, make it a date night. Movie and dinner. hmmmm.... what are you doing tonight?? Anyone here wanna come by my place a clean my house and take me out for dinner too?? LOL

 

[genintoronto]

You are very wise................and I have said some pretty stupid thing in anger, not really meaning them and of course it is held against me

I haven't read everyone's comments and advices, so pardon me if my post is redundant.

First, as others have said, you obviously need to apologize, sincerely. Apologies should be about the other person, not about you. Instead of trying to explain why you said/did what you said/did, acknowledge and explain that you understand how hurtful it was for her. Give her the time and space to think about your apologies and to receive it. Because you are ready to be forgiven and to move on doesn't mean she is, and you have to respect that. It's usually a good idea to ask the person you want to apologize to whether they are ready to listen to you, or when would be a good time for them to have a talk.

Apologies and flowers are also only empty words /gestures if there is nothing more to follow. You mentioned a few times that you have bad temper and that it's not the first time that you've said hurtful things while angry. Apologizing afterwards only go so far if your partner knows that the next time you're going to be angry or stressed out, you're going to say something hurtful again. So, maybe it would be a good idea to think about how you could work on that bad temper of yours. Saying "hey, I'm italian" is an excuse: you are a grown up man, you should be able to control yourself when you're angry. So, in addition to apologizing to her for what you said, you need to show her that you are ready to do the work to avoid the same issue coming up again.

 

[danmand]

First, as others have said, you obviously need to apologize, sincerely. Apologies should be about the other person, not about you. Instead of trying to explain why you said/did what you said/did, acknowledge and explain that you understand how hurtful it was for her. Give her the time and space to think about your apologies and to receive it. Because you are ready to be forgiven and to move on doesn't mean she is, and you have to respect that. It's usually a good idea to ask the person you want to apologize to whether they are ready to listen to you, or when would be a good time for them to have a talk.

Apologies and flowers are also only empty words /gestures if there is nothing more to follow. You mentioned a few times that you have bad temper and that it's not the first time that you've said hurtful things while angry. Apologizing afterwards only go so far if your partner knows that the next time you're going to be angry or stressed out, you're going to say something hurtful again. So, maybe it would be a good idea to think about how you could work on that bad temper of yours. Saying "hey, I'm italian" is an excuse: you are a grown up man, you should be able to control yourself when you're angry. So, in addition to apologizing to her for what you said, you need to show her that you are ready to do the work to avoid the same issue coming up again.

Jesus, Gen, I am impressed. You could make more (and more steady) money as a therapist than in your current profession.

 

[pencilneckgeek2]

I have said some pretty stupid thing in anger, not really meaning them and of course it is held against me

Held against you ?

Poor baby ang. That's like saying ''I robbed the bank, and now they're using the fact that I robbed the bank as evidence against me.''

You're still writing about this as though you are the victim, where in reality, you are the perpetrator, the one who caused this whole shit storm.

Not only that, but you're wasting valuable cleaning time picking your nose/ass and chatting on the internet.

Say something once, and okay, maybe you didn't mean it, but if you say something repeatedly, it would seem obvious that you do mean it.



Treat your (any) woman with respect.

Think before you speak.

Grow up.

 

[GlavaMan]

Jesus, Gen, I am impressed. You could make more (and more steady) money as a therapist than in your current profession.

Gen already is a therapist in her current profession!

Ang: How is the cleaning going? When she gets home, run her a nice candlelight bath with a glass of wine & let her soak for as long as she wants.

 

[randygirl]

Apologies and flowers are also only empty words /gestures if there is nothing more to follow. You mentioned a few times that you have bad temper and that it's not the first time that you've said hurtful things while angry. Apologizing afterwards only go so far if your partner knows that the next time you're going to be angry or stressed out, you're going to say something hurtful again. So, maybe it would be a good idea to think about how you could work on that bad temper of yours. Saying "hey, I'm italian" is an excuse: you are a grown up man, you should be able to control yourself when you're angry. So, in addition to apologizing to her for what you said, you need to show her that you are ready to do the work to avoid the same issue coming up again.

Hear! Hear! Obviously, without action apologies are but mere empty words.

If this is a pattern that is constantly repeated, why should his SO forgive him (again) just so she can be called a bitch once more in a couple of weeks when the OP starts to feel comfortable?

Excuses and rationalizations are a waste of time and energy. In addition to admitting that you were an asshole, work on why you say hurtful things and preventing it from happening again.

Eventually if hurtful words keep happening, one day you will call her one name too many. She will know that your apology means nothing in terms of change, and she will leave one morning while you are sleeping, except this time... she will never come back.

 

[Danolo]

Of course, what you could do, is have your balls surgically removed, preserved in formaldehyde, and mounted on a nice plaque. Then present them to her along with all your apron-wearing, housecleaning, grovelling behavior.

I think a sincere apology and remaining quiet is the best plan. And modify your future behavior, of course.

If she is able to accept your apology and, within a few days, move on, then she's a pretty good woman.. If she continues to make you pay with grovelling, then you might want to think about whether or not its worth it.

Some posters here seem to think its ok to be a sucky, supplicant. Certainly apologize, but no grovelling!

I think she will, in the end, respect you more if you act like a man, not a suck.

In my opinion, mutual respect is the most important element in any relationship.

 

[ang]

Held against you ?

Poor baby ang. That's like saying ''I robbed the bank, and now they're using the fact that I robbed the bank as evidence against me.''

You're still writing about this as though you are the victim, where in reality, you are the perpetrator, the one who caused this whole shit storm.

Not only that, but you're wasting valuable cleaning time picking your nose/ass and chatting on the internet.

Say something once, and okay, maybe you didn't mean it, but if you say something repeatedly, it would seem obvious that you do mean it.



Treat your (any) woman with respect.

Think before you speak.

Grow up.

I deserve that, I know I was an ass...........but MAN cut me some slack.......I'm gonna get enough when she gets home tonight....LOL

 

[The Oracle]

Tell her that I am crazy about her and she is my life and I can't imagine life without her in it..................and that I am so sorry for what I said, that I miss holding her and carressing her sexy body, and if she comes home I'll make it up to her and every part of her body........

Well it was worth a try....LOL

Next step is conveying these feelings to her when she comes home from work.

You said that you are of Italian decent and that is why you are prone to emotional out bursts.

Well it's time to use this to your advantage for once instead of the opposite.

Your love for her is obvious is your posts now it's time to reconfirm to her how you feel.

Leave no stone unturned in this exercise.

When ever I'm thinking of breaking up with someone I always try to think of all the good times we used to have.

My rational is that those times happened for a reason and the two of you have to find away to get back there.

 

[ang]

Next step is conveying these feelings to her when she comes home from work.

You said that you are of Italian decent and that is why you are prone to emotional out bursts.

Well it's time to use this to your advantage for once instead of the opposite.

Your love for her is obvious is your posts now it's time to reconfirm to her how you feel.

Leave no stone unturned in this exercise.

When ever I'm thinking of breaking up with someone I always try to think of all the good times we used to have.

My rational is that those times happened for a reason and the two of you have to find away to get back there.

I know I have alot of growing up to do and maybe this is a good thing this happened, not that I am proud of what I said, but maybe I ust needed an eye opener

The house is clean............like I said before I do my share around the house...I didn't mean to make it sound like I was ordering her around

 

[WhaWhaWha]

Called her a bitch and told her to clean when she wanted to relax. And she works double shifts. Kinda coarse but not grounds for divorce. Cool off, kiss, and make up.