Looks like the SO is REALLY PO'd at me

[mur11]

Far be it from me to comment on one's marriage when I myself have never been married, but I think not asking for advice on a escort review board where less than 5% of members are currently in a functional relationship, would be a critical first step
Not calling your wife a bitch and ordering her to clean your pad like a caveman would be a natural second step

 

[Insidious Von]

By the way, saying that you have a bad temper and justifying it by saying you're Italian is a cop out. Be responsible for your behaviour and stop excusing it.

Cazzo!

I couldn't have said it better myself pallinelle aromatico. Ang shouldn't be stereotyping his culture just because he acts like a deficenti.

Ang unless you and the moglie are living hand to mouth, there's no reason to work extended hours. Make her a nice Ossobucco dinner, open up a good Barolo and leisurely enjoy each others company.
Unless there is more to this story it should smooth things over.

Be a man, BE ITALIAN.
And play this in the background:

 

[SillyGirl]

Flowers, dinner, spa day....none of those clean the house. Blissful is right...with both of you working so much, you need someone in there weekly to do the dirty work. If you were to take the initiative and make the arrangements for that, it would show you understand that your SO not solely responsible for the shit jobs just because she has a vagina. Before the maid comes, the clutter needs to be straightened...you should do that too. Every week, without making a big deal about it.

It's amazing how fast things can explode when everyone's exhausted. Sincere apology never hurts.

Good luck, hope things work out.

 

[Cycleguy007]

Far be it from me to comment on one's marriage when I myself have never been married, but I think not asking for advice on a escort review board where less than 5% of members are currently in a functional relationship, would be a critical first step
Not calling your wife a bitch and ordering her to clean your pad like a caveman would be a natural second step

This man speaks the truth... DUDE... PM ME NOW! (I KNOW how to deal with this... actually no... just call me... you have my number! You'll be having "make-up" sex in no time! Trust me...)

 

[tboy]

You've both been very busy.

You've both been working double overtime.

What is the normal division of household chores?

Whose job is it normally to clean the house?

Why can't you clean the house, because you're Italian? Or because you're an *asshole?


*I figured labeling is okay, since you have already used a derogatory term to describe your S.O.

No shit....Ang? You were a total asshole and don't deserve her...You told HER to clean? Holymotherofgod.....if that had been me? You woulda got a dust mop up the ass.......

 

[HOF]

Far be it from me to comment on one's marriage when I myself have never been married, but I think not asking for advice on a escort review board where less than 5% of members are currently in a functional relationship, would be a critical first step
Not calling your wife a bitch and ordering her to clean your pad like a caveman would be a natural second step

Agreed!

 

[Rockslinger]

Hey CycleGuy, can ANG sleep at your place to-night? Hee, hee, hee.

 

[jwmorrice]

Hey CycleGuy, can ANG sleep at your place to-night? Hee, hee, hee.

LOL!

jwm

 

[HOF]

I have a bad temper...well I AM Italian......sometimes I say things I don't mean. We have both been VERY busy for a while, and all she wanted to do after a very hectic day of work was to just go out and sit on a patio and relax with me and unwind.

Me the stupid fuck, always with so much to do wanted her to clean, bc our place is a disaster (with both of us working double overtime it's hard to keep it clean)....anyway we got into it and I called her a bitch................now I've done it

Ang! I'm really disappointed with you. Regardless of your Italian heritage, you're attitude is/was draconian.

You got home from work, your lovely Mrs wanted to enjoy the sunshine with you (I might add).

The housework, forgettaboutit! To make amends:
1. Clean the house yourself-knucklehead!
2. Apologize and take her out for dinner. Better yet, make her dinner with candles, wine, etc.
3. Take a break together and enjoy life, it's too short to get angry of silly things like housework.

If you had a daughter and her boyfriend, husband spoke to her like that, how would you feel? Mrs. Ang is your wife not employee.

Good luck, hope you sort things out.

 

[james t kirk]

Hire a maid.

 

[blackrock13]

Hire a maid.

The maid is a nice start, but that's it. It will need time. Sorry to hear of your dilemma Ang, but everyone gets a brain cramp now and then. This was a biggie.

 

[Rockslinger]

Hey Ang, wear a jock strap to bed to-night and hide all the knives.

 

[Toke]

I have a bad temper...well I AM Italian......sometimes I say things I don't mean. We have both been VERY busy for a while, and all she wanted to do after a very hectic day of work was to just go out and sit on a patio and relax with me and unwind.

Me the stupid fuck, always with so much to do wanted her to clean, bc our place is a disaster (with both of us working double overtime it's hard to keep it clean)....anyway we got into it and I called her a bitch................now I've done it

My $0.02.

Next time she's out (hopefully tomorrow --Saturday-- afternoon) do the cleaning that you wanted to do yourself. If it's already done, do something that is typically her chore. Leave a little note with the 'finished work' telling her how sorry you are. Make her dinner with 'the works' and enjoy it on the patio that she wanted to enjoy before. In the long run... try not to get upset when she's suggesting something that is actually fun; even if it means that a chore goes undone.

 

[Bif_Butkiss]

My $0.02.

Next time she's out (hopefully tomorrow --Saturday-- afternoon) do the cleaning that you wanted to do yourself. If it's already done, do something that is typically her chore. Leave a little note with the 'finished work' telling her how sorry you are. Make her dinner with 'the works' and enjoy it on the patio that she wanted to enjoy before.

AND don't forget a nice big bouquet of roses or her fave flowers. Buy her a new vase as well..... It's the little things that add up.

OR tell her to book some time off of work (you do the same) and go away for a long weekend somewhere .......... TOGETHER DUMMY !!!!! LOL

 

[ang]

Thanks everyone for all your replies...and yes I just need to vent

I do things around the house too....cook, clean, laundry..and others so it's not like I was telling her to "do it" herself...I was goning to do as much as I could before I had to pick up the kids, then she was to finish it off

We had been snapping at each other, and we had a tiff last week so things were compounding (like I said we have been crazy busy with work), and I do tend to just wanna get things done all the time. She just wanted to unwind and relax...and she's still not talking to me...she left the house this morning while I was asleep

 

[amber-jade]

give her the space she needs sweety...

then take her to niagara falls, and get married again

 

[danmand]

...she left the house this morning while I was asleep

Maybe I am not the right one to give advice, but I think you missed an opportunity to get your ass out of bed and make breakfast for her, instead of sending her off to timmies.

 

[ang]

Maybe I am not the right one to give advice, but I think you missed an opportunity to get your ass out of bed and make breakfast for her, instead of sending her off to timmies.

I know I did.....I am a complete asshole.................she went to work and won't be home til around 6.....back to the drawing board

 

[Cycleguy007]

she left the house this morning while I was asleep

I know... Wanna talk to her?

She and Mrs. CG are havin a campin coffee on my deck!

 

[Insidious Von]

CG...did you really NEED to post that?

Give the paisan some privacy.