Looks like the SO is REALLY PO'd at me

[ang]

I have done some stupid things in the past (no not hobby)...I have said some stupid things, that I didn't mean, and now I am paying for it.........I don't know if she meant it but she told me she has had enough.............what can I do to make it up to her?

 

[stinkynuts]

Admit that you made a mistake, and give a sincere apology. Ask for one more chance.

 

[amber-jade]

sorry to hear about this ang....share some details ?

 

[ang]

I have a bad temper...well I AM Italian......sometimes I say things I don't mean. We have both been VERY busy for a while, and all she wanted to do after a very hectic day of work was to just go out and sit on a patio and relax with me and unwind.

Me the stupid fuck, always with so much to do wanted her to clean, bc our place is a disaster (with both of us working double overtime it's hard to keep it clean)....anyway we got into it and I called her a bitch................now I've done it

 

[papasmerf]

I have done some stupid things in the past (no not hobby)...I have said some stupid things, that I didn't mean, and now I am paying for it.........I don't know if she meant it but she told me she has had enough.............what can I do to make it up to her?

Give her, her own personal Smerf to enjoy.

You might think about getting her a bicycle too.

 

[dreamblade]

Usually, it's good to let her cool off for a little, then send her flowers, preferably have them delivered by a young child. After that, do something that shows effort on your part: Cook her a meal, and set up the whole place with candles, or draw her a bath, making sure her fave music is playing, sculpt her something if you're crafty, etc....

 

[The Oracle]

Give her a little space for now.

when she comes home tell her how upset you are with the days events and how you want to make it up to her.

A nice walk outside on a great night can do wonders

 

[Hornet]

Buy her a day at the spa ($300 or so) where she can relax and get a soothing RMT massage. While she's there, you clean the house (have a case of beer handy then get some buddies to pitch in and help). When she comes home take her out to dinner someplace where you can both just relax. Try the Old Mill Inn as it's peaceful.

 

[papasmerf]

Say you're sorry and mean it.

I've been there. You get busy burning the candle at both ends, tempers get short and you say stuff in the heat of the moment. Unfortunately, some things you can't unsay. You just gotta hope that she'll forgive you.

Whatever you do, just show her that you really care.

And that is just what her own personal Smerf would say.

 

[Rockslinger]

A $4 million diamond ring works for me (and Kobe Bryant). Hee, hee, hee. Insert "diamond ring" smilie here. Don't worry CycleGuy will make everything good again.

 

[stinkynuts]

By the way, saying that you have a bad temper and justifying it by saying you're Italian is a cop out. Be responsible for your behaviour and stop excusing it.

 

[amber-jade]

get off your butt, clean the place up, make her dinner and give here a foot rub

 

[Danolo]

I guess it all depends if you want her in your life. My SO and I had a big fight a couple of weeks ago and she took off her wedding ring and told me she wants a divorce. We discussed it at length, mostly her telling me all my faults, and she decided to give me another chance. She now proudly wear my balls.

I'm not sure that was the right choice for me.

I wish you well.

 

[Hangman]

Time to move on, I guess.

 

[The Oracle]

Time to move on, I guess.

A little insensitive don't you think?

 

[freestuff]

Wait, did she said she's had enough of you because you called a bitch? Or is it because you demanded her that she clean the apt and called her a bitch?
We could give you generic answers but you're the one who knows your wife the best.
But I guess it never hurts just to talk.

 

[pencilneckgeek2]

I have a bad temper...well I AM Italian......sometimes I say things I don't mean. We have both been VERY busy for a while, and all she wanted to do after a very hectic day of work was to just go out and sit on a patio and relax with me and unwind.

Me the stupid fuck, always with so much to do wanted her to clean, bc our place is a disaster (with both of us working double overtime it's hard to keep it clean)....anyway we got into it and I called her a bitch................now I've done it

You've both been very busy.

You've both been working double overtime.

What is the normal division of household chores?

Whose job is it normally to clean the house?

Why can't you clean the house, because you're Italian? Or because you're an *asshole?


*I figured labeling is okay, since you have already used a derogatory term to describe your S.O.

 

[Brill]

...I don't know if she meant it but she told me she has had enough...

Tell her that she's out of line. If she threatens to leave call her bluff.

She'll come around, she just needs to learn who's the boss.

 

[papasmerf]

Ang

All joking aside you screwed up. The is only one word you could have used that is worse.

You need to talk to her and a few tears would help.

You might think about taking her out for a full dinner tomorrow about 2pm and make a night of it.

make her feel like you are still dating her.

 

[Cycleguy007]

OH CRAP! You've done it now! PM me dude! I can fix this!!!!!!