Would you marry an SP?

[oil&gas]

Given that nearly half of all marriages are doomed for
divorce that things didn't work out for you from dating
two SPs doesn't necessarily mean anything negative about
the ladies in the sex industry in general. Disappointing
any failed relationship must be why not look at things this
way. A dinner date with a sp typically cost $500. A high end
SP can easily charge $3000 for an overnight appointment--
--I believe $500 is the absolute minimum. Consider
yourself lucky to have spent hundred hours of the SP's time for
free. Judging from the admiration of the ladiesfrom some of the
posters in this thread I suspect more than a few SP clients are
subconsciously on the lookout for a wife while partaking in the hobby.
You are still way better off than other paying clients who never got
as far as to date the SPs they wish to marry outside the business.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Although the possibility is very minute yes. After reading some of the 350+ responses if I met "the women" being a sp wouldn't deter me if we both loved each other unconditionally. Obviously getting married would mean she quitting the business & me being faithful. As far as explaining to family or friends where you met, nobody's business but yours & hers. If telling you met at a bar or biz function is the biggest white lie you ever told then you lead a pretty straight life.

The hard part of marrying a player for either side is the trust factor. If you travel for work like I do is she thinking your going to be hookin up with Barbie down in Miami if i'm alone & horny or are you thinkin she wants that new designer handbag she's been talkin about & she mentioned in the past that wealthy client "Ted" that comes to town twice a year & pampers her with gifts. Think back brain... what month did she say he comes? Well you get the picture

In the end if you trust, love & respect her & she the same to you love will conquer anything, her being a sp won't matter

Okay but you mean "her being an SP (in the past) won't matter"?

 

[GPIDEAL]

Sorry Frank, Teach is right. If any relationship is going to work, and I'm talking Even in business, it has to based on honesty. Other wise you are looking at disaster.
You might be able to think you can keep juggling, but in the long run, well just think about that for a minute.

Honesty between the couples, yes. They can mutually agree to keep their skeletons in the closet from others.

 

[red]

Honesty between the couples, yes. They can mutually agree to keep their skeletons in the closet from others.

Exactly

 

[oil&gas]

What if only one of the two has skeletons in his/her closet?
Such mutual honesty rule would be unfair to the one with no
skeleton to hide. Had Sir Paul (whose life is pretty much an open
book) known Heather Mills was a former high end escort he might
have proceeded to marry her with more caution. Likewise, some
of the wholesome type of ladies might have second thought
if they found out her hobbyist fiance's second life.

 

[GPIDEAL]

What if only one of the two has skeletons in his/her closet?
Such mutual honesty rule would be unfair to the one with no
skeleton to hide. Had Sir Paul (whose life is pretty much an open
book) known Heather Mills was a former high end escort he might
have proceeded to marry her with more caution. Likewise, some
of the wholesome type of ladies might have second thought
if they found out her hobbyist fiance's second life.

A mutual honesty rule would NOT be UNFAIR, but it might not always be the best policy IF such a matter is IN the past.

Eg. If it doesn't come up, it might be better to not discuss the past. If asked, then couples should be honest with each other.

 

[peter4025]

^^^+1. Good post

 

[DaleyDDD]

Took the words right out of my mouth.
What drives me nuts is people judging SPs for what they do, when they are the other end of the relationship. We are ALL in this together, regardless of which side you are on. Don't judge us for what we do on this end.
And yes, I would recommend not marrying a mass murderer. She might be nice, but you gotta watch your back.

I have not read all of the posts in this thread so I am not sure if this post was responded to but here is my take:

1. You have absolutely no right to tell anyone that your partner was an SP.
2. I am not a first or second generation Canadian, but if you have to disclose your partners history, I would suggest that you are a pretty weak minded person. Be a man and if you really care for someone let it be her choice and her choice alone to tell others. Otherwise don't even think about getting involved with someone who was an SP. You have absolutely no right to tell anyone what someone does
3. And what makes you better than someone who has "sold" companionship for money. You think you are better than someone just because you "purchased" companionship for money?
4. Assuming you visit SP's do you tell your family that you pay for sex? I assume you do based upon the fact you have to tell them everything
5. Twice married and many long term relationships. I guess you tell your family everything about your spouse and girlfriends as that is what you have to do. Before "disclosing" what others have to know about your partner, look at yourself first. Married twice and many relationships? Must be a reason for that. I am sure there were good reason for your previous breakups and probably had more to do with you rather than your partners. The common denominator in all of your relationship breakdowns was you!

I am someone who has dated (and lived with) a few woman in the industry (also had a long term relationship with a non SP for 5 years and another for 2 years) and I did not see them as any different as the woman I have dated who were not in the business. It was no one's business what they did/do. Talked about marriage with a couple of them but in the end it never materialized.

Would I marry a woman if she was a mass murderer, um, no way. Would I marry someone who was a drink driver and killed someone while under the influence. No way. Would I marry someone who was an SP. ABSOLUTELY. Take the time to talk and speak with the women who are in the business and you will understand that they are are just like you and me, and in a lot of ways better. A woman sells her body (not her mind) because she has to for one reason or another. If she comes home to you after work, she does so because there is something there, something to build upon. While guys on this board buy sex because in many cases, there is something "broken" in their relationship or worse, they simply don't care about their SO/family. They put themselves above others they are supposed to be with. To me, this is far worse than what an SP does.

 

[Mikehorn]

Do not tell your children. I have one client's child who knows exactly who I am and it makes me incredibly uncomfortable.
Just be honest with the ADULT person you are dating. No one else needs to know. Last thing your child needs to know is you pay to sleep with pretty ladies.

They'd need to look for Lucy's psychiatric booth

 

[MissCroft]

They'd need to look for Lucy's psychiatric booth

LOL I tried to set up one when I was a kid.

 

[Hiding]

We aren't all terrible backstabbing, drugged up, money hungry pieces of poo.
Yes we are difficult people to date/marry (and I agree, when you agree to marry, you quit if you haven't already). But none the less it's manageable if you're the right person and put the effort in. On both ends.

Shush Daley, don't give it away! We're all drugged up, backstabbing, money-hungry, way-too-messed-up-to-ever-date-much-less-marry "pieces of poo". Duh. No way we could be normal, well-adapted women making informed, consensual choices, cause how could you ever explain that to your family when you're telling them all about your partner's sexual history?

I can't believe this thread is still going.

 

[red]

I have not read all of the posts in this thread so I am not sure if this post was responded to but here is my take:

1. You have absolutely no right to tell anyone that your partner was an SP.
2. I am not a first or second generation Canadian, but if you have to disclose your partners history, I would suggest that you are a pretty weak minded person. Be a man and if you really care for someone let it be her choice and her choice alone to tell others. Otherwise don't even think about getting involved with someone who was an SP. You have absolutely no right to tell anyone what someone does
3. And what makes you better than someone who has "sold" companionship for money. You think you are better than someone just because you "purchased" companionship for money?
4. Assuming you visit SP's do you tell your family that you pay for sex? I assume you do based upon the fact you have to tell them everything
5. Twice married and many long term relationships. I guess you tell your family everything about your spouse and girlfriends as that is what you have to do. Before "disclosing" what others have to know about your partner, look at yourself first. Married twice and many relationships? Must be a reason for that. I am sure there were good reason for your previous breakups and probably had more to do with you rather than your partners. The common denominator in all of your relationship breakdowns was you!

I am someone who has dated (and lived with) a few woman in the industry (also had a long term relationship with a non SP for 5 years and another for 2 years) and I did not see them as any different as the woman I have dated who were not in the business. It was no one's business what they did/do. Talked about marriage with a couple of them but in the end it never materialized.

Would I marry a woman if she was a mass murderer, um, no way. Would I marry someone who was a drink driver and killed someone while under the influence. No way. Would I marry someone who was an SP. ABSOLUTELY. Take the time to talk and speak with the women who are in the business and you will understand that they are are just like you and me, and in a lot of ways better. A woman sells her body (not her mind) because she has to for one reason or another. If she comes home to you after work, she does so because there is something there, something to build upon. While guys on this board buy sex because in many cases, there is something "broken" in their relationship or worse, they simply don't care about their SO/family. They put themselves above others they are supposed to be with. To me, this is far worse than what an SP does.

well said- great summary

 

[bcd]

Would you marry an SP?

Short answer is yes.

 

[GPIDEAL]

This is a funny board. Ya go ahead, marry that prostitute. I'm sure it will work out quite fine.

If you follow this thread, you'll see that we're philosophizing on what would make it possibly work (eg. mutual love and honesty for sure, but you also need an open-mind, secure ego and 2-way communication).

 

[Ridgeman08]

Would you marry an SP?

If she asked me real nice...

 

[Titalian]

If she asked me real nice...

Oh I don't know, went out with a looker like this, who was even hotter, took me three years to propose. Lasted a long time.

 

[fuji]

I never said I'm better than anybody. You are the one with that attitude calling me a "moron." A whore will always be a whore. Pay them the money, cum on their face, fuck them in the ass. Do whatever you want with them. It is a business transaction. You are paying a premium for a short term rental that wont nag you about anything. Enjoy it for what it is! Once you leave move on to the next one or repeat if you feel like it. But to fall in love? This is a question from that Seinfeld bizarro episode. You can't be serious.

How about cum on their face, fuck them in the ass, do whatever you want with them, and then get a fucking clue and realize that they are still women. What about the first part makes you think they aren't?

Are you one of those dorks who thinks your girlfriend should be a pure, sweet, innocent creature who closes her eyes and thinks of Jesus when she has matrimonially sanctioned sex?

If so odds are some terbie is cumming on her face and fucking her in the ass when you're at work, and that sweet smile she has for you when you come home is silently, smugly saying "sucker".

 

[peter4025]

Ok, do me a favour. Please, just humour me. Walk into your bathroom, or outhouse, whatever. Look into the mirror and ask yourself, am I really that stupid and ignorant. Don't be surprised if the lips on your face don't move but the lips in the mirror say, YES YOU ARE!!! Someone like you was probably picked on and beat up as a child and now into adulthood, you certainly have self esteem issues. My suggestion to you, stop taking whatever drugs you are on, move out of your mothers basement and get help. Trust me, before it is too late.

+++1

 

[mademan]

Probably one of the most moronic threads on the internet. do women just need a website and proclaim themsleves "working girls" to be different than every other woman in the world? Last time I looked most of us all want the same thing, love , attention, loyalty compassion. usually if a girl is working it is extremely difficult to maintain a "normal" relationship. Who need to go through the how was you're day stuff? Humans get attracted to each other no matter what job they do. everyone has emotions you cannot hide. If it happens, it happens, acting is acting and love is love, next.

 

[JeGro]

I personally don't see the issue..I would marry an sp or have a serious relationship

i think the question isnt would we marry them..its would they marry us/date us