So you're the 1 out of ten I referred to above. Sorry, but it's naive to believe that that secret will never come out, just as it's naive to believe men will just abandon their families when opinion turns against them in favor of their former SP fiancee/wife. It all will inevitably turn very messy and lots of people will be caught in the crossfire. There maybe a contingent of pro-thinking men on TERB but they are certainly not representative of the widely held opposing viewpoints in general society. It's just the way it is still in 2023.First of all I don't know how anybody else would find out unless someone maliciously went looking not all secrets get out, there have been plenty of retired ladies that I know of that are living lives as civilians and have left the past in the past. If your family and friends did not support the choices you make and perhaps it's time to evaluate your family and friends. I think when it comes right down to it it doesn't really matter what's somebody did in the past its certainly true in my case