Allure Massage
Hot Pink List

Worried about STD's

C

cruch

New member
Feb 7, 2009
36
0
0
I'm younger, happily married, but have an almost non sexual relationship with my wife (not sexually compatible i'm sad to say).

I'm at a curious stage, but i'm very worried about std's like herpes. Many of you guys seem single, and that's fine. But if I get it and pass anything on, i'm done and lose everything.

I tried to PM an SP and to be honest her answer made me more scared the way she avoided the question.

I have several friends who slept with 2-3 people and got herpes. Another guy at work got chlamydia from a stripper he dated.

I almost never see talk about this subject so is it just assumed that everyone has std's? Or not.. or how does this whole thing work?

Thanks!
 
You have to be concerned about herpes, hepatitis, and AIDS. Everything else is curable.

I tend to stick to young SPs, basically who are starting out. I feel like statistically speaking they have less of a chance of having any of the above because they've been with less people compared to an older SP who has been working for years and seen hundreds of clients. Of course this is hardly a foolproof approach, but it must be safer statistically.

Wear a hoody and you've reduced the risk even more (though for me, bbbj is almost essential just as daty is). Don't partake in lfk dkf. Wash thoroughly right after a session. Always check a girl beforehand too, to make sure there are no obvious signs of some kind of outbreak.

How can you be 'sexually incompatible' with your own wife? lol
 
cruch said:
I almost never see talk about this subject
Click to expand...
It's been discussed here ad infinitum. I hope we don't get into a whole new longwinded thread about this topic again.

Hope you or someone else can find the links that are already here.

Maybe Strongbeau can save Fred some bandwidth.
 
All you can do is use protection, and also if you see anything your unsure of don't have sex with that person. and get tested as often as you need to.

safe sex is better sex.
 
cruch said:
I'm younger, happily married, but have an almost non sexual relationship with my wife (not sexually compatible i'm sad to say). I have several friends who slept with 2-3 people and got herpes. Another guy at work got chlamydia from a stripper he dated.
Click to expand...

This is a bogus post. Don't pay any attention to it. You have no friends and your wife wants to sit on your face, A "happily married, almost non-sexual relationship", then all your "friends" get VD right away. Then Mr. brains comes to TERB and does an Ann Landers.

A bunch of hogshit! One post.

Gyaos Baltar.
 
WhOiSyOuRdAdDy? said:
If you are considering "hobbying'... you cannot be happily married
Click to expand...

VERY true! Anyone that says no, is full of sh*t, if you need to look elsewhere you're not totally happy!
 
I can't believe you guys are telling another poster HOW HE FEELS and still take yourselves seriously. I think the OP knows damn well how he feels, no matter what you think, he has a better idea than you do about how he feels.

If he says he is happily married, I parse that as meaning he is married, and he is happy about being married, and thinks his wife is happy about being married too.

How you guys can come in here and say that he's not really happy after all, that he's wrong about his own feelings... wow.
 
I agree

with fuji. I find myself in a similar situation. I love my wife very much and am fairly happily married. However I would say I am very happy TO be married. There is certainly a lot to be said to have someone to share your dreams and goals with and who is there when you come home at the end of the day. My wife is and has always been very supportive of me. She just has a vvery low and I have a very high sex drive. Other than that we are compatable and I would say have a good happy marriage.
 
traveler196 said:
with fuji. I find myself in a similar situation. I love my wife very much and am fairly happily married. However I would say I am very happy TO be married. There is certainly a lot to be said to have someone to share your dreams and goals with and who is there when you come home at the end of the day. My wife is and has always been very supportive of me. She just has a vvery low and I have a very high sex drive. Other than that we are compatable and I would say have a good happy marriage.
Click to expand...

And, you....hobby? So, you really don't have a good marriage, because it is based on a lie. Put it another way: if you DO hobby, does your wife know?

If she did know, what do you think she'd do?

Sorry, either every married guy on here has an abnormally high sex drive, or they just can't be monogamous.

BTW: it is well known that the minute a woman hears the words "I do" their sex drive diminishes and you knew that going in.

I wonder, did your vows include the words to the effect of: I will forsake all others? So, I guess those weren't really vows, they were just words......
 
we all have our reasons
we all justify our actions in different ways
we all know how we feel
we all know what we tell ourselves about how we feel
we all know what we tell others about how we feel
no one, NO ONE knows why we do or do not do anything besides ourselves

stop preaching and get back to the original poster’s questions
 
No life is perfect. No marriage is perfect.
There is no right or wrong.
Life is not black or white, but shades of gray, and it's within that gray zone we exist.
 
To the OP - there is always some risk, but if you always slip on a raincoat and see top-range SP's I doubt you'll catch Hep, Herp of HIV. Anything is possible, but so is dying in a car crash on your way to work.

If your wife won't have sex, you have the perfect excuse if she ever catches you cheating: if she won't ever have sex with you, you can just say that you'd rather have sex with her, but see SP's because she won't have sex with you and you want to have sex. Sounds reasonable to me - I'm serious. If your spouse won't have sex with you (this goes for both males or females) then seeing SP's (as opposed to having affairs) seems to me comepletely justified.
 
In addition to the raincoat it also helps to:

-- Use mouthwash before AND after
-- Scrub down with soap and water before AND after. Scrub everywhere. Soap. Water. Everywhere. Before. After.
-- If you do digits, mind you don't touch yourself with that same hand
-- Take a good look at the SP and check for problems, if there are visible problems DO NOT PLAY, politely leave

For the washing thing above--maybe it does not seem very romatntic, but trust me, an SP loves NOTHING BETTER than noticing that you are a very clean client. Generally your service level will go up once the SP has put you into the "clean guy" category.

And of course apply common sense.
 
alexmst said:
you have the perfect excuse if she ever catches you cheating: if she won't ever have sex with you, you can just say that you'd rather have sex with her
Click to expand...

Very logical but that's going to go over like a lead balloon with most women. Some illogical responses that you may hear back which you cannot argue with:

"I can't be with a man that has no respect for himself."

"It doesn't matter what your excuse is, it's still cheating."

"I didn't do anything, can't you control youself?"

"If you loved me you would never do that."

or maybe just the universal, "Is that how you are? Fine." but said in that tone of voice that you KNOW means it is not fine, it is in no way fine, and something really, really bad is going to happen to you, and you are not going to be allowed to know the reasoning.
 
fuji said:
In addition to the raincoat it also helps to:

-- Use mouthwash before AND after
-- Scrub down with soap and water before AND after. Scrub everywhere. Soap. Water. Everywhere. Before. After.
-- If you do digits, mind you don't touch yourself with that same hand
-- Take a good look at the SP and check for problems, if there are visible problems DO NOT PLAY, politely leave

For the washing thing above--maybe it does not seem very romatntic, but trust me, an SP loves NOTHING BETTER than noticing that you are a very clean client. Generally your service level will go up once the SP has put you into the "clean guy" category.

And of course apply common sense.
Click to expand...


Ok, here is some good advice amoungst all this bickering!!!
 
einar said:
Let's hope that stupid phrase is fading from usage. A marriage that is forever monogamous is asking for trouble.
Click to expand...

Then why get married?

Certainly not for financial means. If you're planning on not being monogamous you also have to plan on it not working out and ending badly (because for the most part, they ALWAYS find out) and then you might as well plan on giving up half your assets and paying through the nose for the rest of your life, or until she re-marries.
 
You must log in or register to reply here.
Toronto Escorts
Top Bottom
Back