Ive said it before and I'll say it again. You only have 1 life. Gotta enjoy this thing.
Imagine if there were a way to start doing stuff in your life that caused your wife to change her tune and start respecting you more. Where you go from sex every 6 months to her wanting sex with you every week.
I'm not an affiliate of this method - but Ive been through the rocky patches where I definitley though we were gonna split - to a positon where I get regular sex, she respects me, and we get along, and its a good family life for the kids.
Dont ever give up. But try this -
Shogun Method for Married men.
Note I'm not necesarily a fan of the Shogun Method as a pickup system - its pretty complicated. But the married man stuff works. For real.
I would even go so far as to say this should be required reading for any man who gets married - also note its 100% respectful towards women - doesnt even recomend having affairs or the like - its pyschology at its clearest.
I'll give the gyst of it here - although I still recommend you buy it. But basically -
1. Go to the gym - get fit and healthy - yes it takes time but hey its nice to be fit as you age.
2. Get a hobby that may involve girls - so no fishing or golf - try meetups and stuff - be social.
3. Get new clothes - take care of your look a lot better.
3. Socialise with your new crowd. Dont need to be a dick at home but you do need to stand up for yourself. Idea is that she will now find you more attractive and be maybe somewhat jealous and thus attractied to the new you.
4. Have female friends - not hiding anything - not having an affair but talk about your new friends - incluidng your new female freinds.
If the above doesnt all work then step it up a notch - get into situations where you are being flirty with the new friends - again nothing hidden - keep it out there - o secrets - let her see that you might have options.
If that doesnt work then your marriage may be over and you need to consider options and in this instance he starts talking about actually having afairs or even open relationships. If you can remain amicable throughout this then maybe try for an amicable split.
There will be one of 2 results - it will save your marriage and you will enjoy life again or b you can move on, enjoy your life and have regular sex with new flames.
I'm of the opinion that hanging out in a loveless marriage where she is abusive to you is very bad role modelling for the kids and they would be better off seeing you go through an amicable split.
Even if its not amicable - let her have the kids - then you get them on weekends - and on weekends you take them to town and buy them shit. As they grow up you will always be the cool dad and they will see mom as the cranky one that makes them do their homework.
I went through all the above and was doing it for the kids - and it worked - but I was ready to move out - get an apt and go do some fun stuff with my life. I wasnt ready to give up. I think she saw I was ready - and yes there were some screaming arguments and some low points - but I stood my ground - never got abusive but also didnt back down and take the shit.... I just called her on her own shit.
And BTW Im not saying I wasnt also somewhat at fault - Id let myself go - I didnt take her out and I was a grumpy fuck - but I managed that - fixed myself up. She even overheard me listing to podcasts from pickup artists - but she didnt say anything... I think she knew she I was ready to move on - happy to move on even...
This shit works man. Try it. You have never failed if you are still trying.
