Why do you care??

[lucifer]

I have been reading terb for many months and a couple of question have always bothered me...

You often hear MPA/SPs announcing their 'retirement ' from the business and such threads often get a lot of response..

I do not understand as to why people care.. I mean it is not as if they cared about you as a person beyond being a good customer.. and probably the reason you bought their services in the first place was because you wanted to have a good time without serious emotional attachment.

The last time I checked escorting as a profession has always existed and I believe it is good to have new faces and better attitudes
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Another question that has confounded is the reason why some SPs display mood swings, rude behaviour and yes the need to 'screen' clients. Yes I know you are human... but it is your job... dammit.. yes.. you chose your profession... hopefully on your own free will.. and are commensense precautions not enough ? I mean if I wanted a moody, bitchy supsicious gal to have fun?? with.. I would just date... some homely gal.. [although alimony and child support payments kinda complicate the math of that situation],

My personel hypothesis is that men are
more giving, generous and believing [in that myth that some gal will eventually like them for who they are instead of how much they are worth or how many other women they attract].. and that women includindg SPs take advantage of this set of beliefs/ decency.

So what are other terbites thought on these issues?

LET THE FLAMES BEGIN.. *S*.. after all look at my handle...

 

[xarir]

OK - I'll take the bait on this one ...

I find the first question to be insensitive and arrogant.

Lucifer, have you never met someone, gotten to know them and in so doing, ended up admiring the person and not just the body? Many of the SPs that actively post here have demonstrated their inner smarts, beauty and strength. Are these traits simply to be discarded by the wayside? Or should they be acknowledged with genuine wishes of future success?

Is this something that's really difficult to understand?

 

[mypussykat]

Respect

If an independent sp suddenly stops working, her regulars would worry that something happened. I care about many of my regular clients & I would want to say good bye.

MPK

 

[Big Daddy]

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My personel hypothesis is that men are more giving, generous and believing [in that myth that some gal will eventually like them for who they are instead of how much they are worth or how many other women they attract].. and that women includindg SPs take advantage of this set of beliefs/ decency.

I agree with your men and genorosity theory. Now, coming back to why do you care? Well, why do you care when people retire from your work place (it is about business), why do you care when you graduate and loose some of the friends (it is about eduction) or why do you care when some nation gets bombed by the US military? It is simple, we are humans and cannot act like machines. When a SP leaves, you realize that you will never be able to see her. The conversations you had with her, the jokes that you shared etc. remain a cherished memory and that is why you care. Each SP will give you a unique experience. Some of the experiences may not be good and you may not care about that SP, but if you run into a SP that gives you a good treatment then you would like to repeat that experience as many times as possible. Perhaps, when this SP retires you will care. If not for the SP then for the pleasure that she gave you

 

[KBear]

Thinking that people say goodbye to see what responses will be posted, to see if anyone really cares.

Certainly all the people that post that they are leaving love to see the, you will be missed, posts, even if the replies are meant in a virtual, cyber space, detached, causal, truly uninterested sort of way. We all like to have our egos stroked, even if it is a cyber stroke.

 

[Coach]

If an Sp retires or semi retire, good for her. With all due respect, they provide a service but if they are not available try another. If my accountant retires, I wish him well and move on. Same with an SP/MP. It's not as if there is a relationship with them. They charge for their time, which is ok, so let's keep in mind that it is business. That's all.

 

[lucifer]

well.. well..

just as i thought this discussion was going nowhere.. anyway some things first..

While I do enjoy the services of SPs and MPAs.. I cannot seem to think that they are hard to replace.. I mean it is kinda like buying, renting a new car.. sure it is not your favourite one.. but sure gets the job done.

This might sound misogynist [as if I care] but then if SPs are so interested in finding the customer they click with... well why not just date??.. the misanthropist in me sees such tactics as away to screen clients to get the most 'loyal'.. easy to manipulate clients...

I am sure many SPs actually kinda like their job [not that most will say so]... but then I see escorting... etc as well just an extension of normal human behaviour..

I mean in many ways hiring an SP is a vastly more honest transaction than say going out with an ugly gal to get 'some' and put up with her attitude because you are not white [been there.. hey I was a poor student until less than a couple of years back], seeing women pull bait and switch when marrying... [seen too many to count], women dating guys for money and/or power [percieved or real]...

Anyway to keep this post short.. the honesty of the interaction is exactly why I prefer SPs... by having concepts like screening, limiting customers based on factors that are not really in their hands and by pretending to really care.. it debases it to the level of a normal dating situation..

This post is not directed towards a specific SP/MPA.. if it was I WOULD have used names... I am merely commenting on a pattern .

 

[Dorm201]

things don't always turn out the way we think they will...

First off, a job is a job. There are pleasant aspects to it, and many vastly unenjoyable aspects. I wouldn't go so far as to build an analogy between the escorting profession and most other "common" occupations. An escort is sharing her body with you, and performing an act to which there is often an emotional attachment. I'm sure you can say you're passionate about being a chef, dentist, or whatever, but not in the way that is implied with the escorting act. (If you want to debate whether that emotion is natural or societal, you'll have to start up another long debate).

My point is, if a SP wants to screen, or limit her clients then they should have the complete right to do so. This *isn't* purchasing a Big Mac. And if you think that the job is so easy, just try imagining having sex with 2 or 3 people a night you do not find physically, and often not mentally attractive. But somehow still managing to make them feel like you truly want to be there and are attracted to them.

I am definitely biased in this matter, I'll admit. I've been seeing only one SP for the last 6 months now and it's gone beyond this client/SP thing where we talk to each other at least every day or two, and see each other as much as her schedule allows. So, in some respects, I know quite a bit about how an SP feels (and she's one of the more popular young ones).

Would I miss her if she left the industry? No. We would continue our friendship, sexually and otherwise, beyond that (no this is not an assumption. But I can see how many of her regulars would miss her. Unexpected things happen in this industry. Most of the time absolutely nothing beyond a professional interaction occurs. But on the uncommon incident, a friendship develops. Even rarer, as in my case, an honest physical and emotional attraction develops which leads to an incredibly complex friendship, but it's a real friendship nonetheless.

Yes, we should be looking for a no-strings attached form of fun with SPs. However, things happen. Even though we don't wish for emotional attachment, sometimes they do occur. Just because others' experiences do not mirror mine (or your's lucifer), it doesn't mean that they're not any more valid.

 

[sarasota]

I certainly...

do not know everything, I had to look up misanthropic, but a number of the arguments presented here are based on assumptions. A number of you seem to know exactly what an SP or MPA is thinking or feeling. Is that possible? Again. I am not perfect in my thoughts, but maybe....