Why do we do it????

[drrogers]

okay - I've been hobbying for over 30 years - and I sat down today and took a good hard look at why I started hobbying - why I kept hobbying and what happened in my life as a part of it.

But why did everyone else do it - or keep doing it -- I'm sure many of us have many of the same reasons - but what's yours

 

[red]

because its there

 

[alexmst]

A sense of adventure, with new beauties sprouting up to be enjoyed, appreciated and experienced like a fresh field of sunflowers in the spring.

 

[dajodo2]

Mommy never loved me.

 

[hairyfucker]

my penis needs love too.

 

[blaze69]

cause its only cheating if you get caught. and with sp's its A LOT harder to get caught!

 

[CapitalGuy]

Variety, laziness, and younger women. Consequences so far are nil.

Why did you start, continue to do it, and what were the consequences in your life? You didn't answer your own question!!

 

[elmufdvr]

i had no guidence from anyone as a youngster .. it is how i learned about girls... now i think i know too much.. but always need to learn more.. I love women.. all women..

 

[drrogers]

Your Right

Variety, laziness, and younger women. Consequences so far are nil.

Why did you start, continue to do it, and what were the consequences in your life? You didn't answer your own question!!

And I will post a response in a day or two - I want to hear from others rather than have them say "me too"

 

[skypilot]

I had a rough childhood. No one loved me unless I paid them. In elementary school I used to pay the girls to give me Valentines on Valentines day. I paid my date to the senior prom. It just continues to this day.

 

[frankcastle]

Imagine going from taking girls out for dinner and nothing happening to all out porno scenes. Yes I've hopped from dating to hobbying and back and forth many times but ultimately I was looking for the same thing on both sides which was affection. I can say this because even though the girls that I've dated were usually not as wild as the ones that I hobbied with. I'd gladly give up the hobby for a conservative girl.

 

[Terminator2000]

Mommy never loved me.

Depends what kind of love you were after.

 

[lebeau]

But why did everyone else do it - or keep doing it -- I'm sure many of us have many of the same reasons - but what's yours

I've never really thought about it, Doc, so thanks much for inspiring an hour or two of soul searching, hand wringing and limp dickedness. Oh, hey, look. There it is again. There's that abyss of loneliness and self abnegation out of which I thought I'd climbed so many years ago when I first discovered that you could pay for someone to touch and listen. You could pay for someone to listen and pay even more for them to listen and avoid really hearing and interpreting and judging. You could pay for the kind of therapeutic results a therapist always seems to fail to provide.

I felt like I'd discovered the moon, like I was the first person ever to lift his gaze from the ground.

And then along you come, good Doctor, with your well-intentioned questions and noble motives and you conspire to undo a decade of alternative therapy.

I need to give or get a rim job by noon tomorrow. It's the only thing that'll save me from a royal funk all weekend. Doc...you gotta help. Can you send me the list of the 49 rim-givers/rim-receivers you've selfishly kept to yourself after you carefully compiled it????? It'll do me a world of good.

 

[anon1]

I have too much money.

 

[LordLoki]

I assumed $ would makeitt safe

Well I sort of decided about a year ago that I wanted some female intimacy but my life would make having feelings for another woman during the next 18 months to two years a significant problem. I assumed that it would be simpler and safer to visit SPs because I believed that it would not trigger all those messy caring and entanglement issues.

During my investigation phase (reading reviews and posts) I focused on women who although bright an interesting would not be typical of the women I would normally be attracted to and/or who would fit into my life style easily. A 10 to 30 year age gap sounded like a nice safe wall. Eventually I narrowed it down to a few ladies and started to set up appointments. I budgeted for 2 visits per lady since all the evidence I could find on TERB indicated that the experience shifted significantly with repeats.
Discovered I was deceiving myself and that I am not capable of separating sex from affection and caring. I gave up on hobbying. So it was about 6 months of research followed by a couple of months if experimenting for me. My exploration into options continues.

 

[sailorsix]

I married too young (23)

When I was 21 my marketing professor's 27 year old secretary fucked me. She introduced me to squirting...at first, as she rode me CG, I thought she peed on my dick. Then I learned to enjoy munching her til she came in my mouth. Weird thing was she would never fuck during her period. her Caribbean upbringing made her feel that was dirty. Anyway I was hooked. My ex never squirted and was very conservative so I always dreamed of finding a squirter.

After 20 years of marriage I wanted more but did not want to leave the marriage. I started to read the SP ads in the Ottawa Sun. That is when I noticed Lyla's (aka Christine) She had a lunch time special for $50. (early 90's) First time for BBCIM. Anal. Got me looking.

That opened a can o worms...on a business trip I started a 2 year affair with one of my employees (I know ...THE dumbest thing to do). All the time that we were fucking on my desk on Sat and Sun AM's I was still see Lyla and a couple of other Ottawa SP's. I could not get enough.

When I moved to YYZ I met my new wife and we went to swinger clubs and parties for about 4 years. Fucking at a swingers party has too many hurdles...there is still that high school gym atmosphere except instead of asking a lady to dance you are asking if you can fuck. As my wife & I were always separate rooms we were at a disavantage as most swingers want 4somes in same room.

paying for a massage or SP's is less hassle and it provides some variety that make sthe whole process exciting. Plus there is the excitement of just how far you can explore with a MPA....their limits go from no happy ending to FS.

I love the excitement of eating a new pussy. Cannot eat enough pussy. So many pussies to eat, so few years left.

 

[Meister]

You might as well face it, you're addicted to love.

And, see where that gets you. Robert Palmer is dead now, at age 54.

 

[hairyfucker]

I like strange pussy

define "strange"

 

[Bella6969]

...i'm HORNY

your cute*

 

[alexmst]

Well I sort of decided about a year ago that I wanted some female intimacy but my life would make having feelings for another woman during the next 18 months to two years a significant problem. I assumed that it would be simpler and safer to visit SPs because I believed that it would not trigger all those messy caring and entanglement issues.

During my investigation phase (reading reviews and posts) I focused on women who although bright an interesting would not be typical of the women I would normally be attracted to and/or who would fit into my life style easily. A 10 to 30 year age gap sounded like a nice safe wall. Eventually I narrowed it down to a few ladies and started to set up appointments. I budgeted for 2 visits per lady since all the evidence I could find on TERB indicated that the experience shifted significantly with repeats.
Discovered I was deceiving myself and that I am not capable of separating sex from affection and caring. I gave up on hobbying. So it was about 6 months of research followed by a couple of months if experimenting for me. My exploration into options continues.

Discovered I was deceiving myself and that I am not capable of separating sex from affection and caring. I gave up on hobbying.

Well, one can care about the regulars one sees to a degree. They may not want to see you outside of the fantasy client/sp relationship, but sp's do sometimes like/care about their regular clients if the two of you 'click' and she may, looking at her appointment list for the day, think 'oh, I'm glad it's "X" I'm seeing again for a session today and not some unknown newbie, or "Y" who has bad breath, or "Z" who wants BBBJCIM even though I've told him a dozen times I don't do that'.

If you mean that you start to wish she wouldn't see other clients, would see you off the clock etc, then yeah, I can see how hobbying might be frustrating under those circumstances.