When SP/Client relationship goes outside of bedroom
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Really? Thank you, Sir.
Every month I get at least half a dozen PM's complimenting my sig pic. I would have thought it was pretty consistent from month to month.
I see a lot of stereotypes. The women here are people, like everyone else. And the reasons for "off the clock meetings" vary, just like anyone else. It could be friend, someone to talk to, hang with, romance or what ever.... just like anyone else in civilian life.
I was lucky enough to have a long relationship with an MP. It was really important to her that she not be treated just like a piece of meat. We had one of the best relationships I have had. In the beginning... we had some difficulties feeling out what was acceptable. But we did work it out.
Some of the negative comments can be turned around on males clients.... He's fucked so many women, etc. So it does go both ways. Some civilian women who never date a guy who saw Sp's.
Anyone on the this board, male or female.... is no different from anyone else, except maybe for being more in tune with their sexuality.
I was lucky enough to have a long relationship with an MP. It was really important to her that she not be treated just like a piece of meat. We had one of the best relationships I have had. In the beginning... we had some difficulties feeling out what was acceptable. But we did work it out.
Some of the negative comments can be turned around on males clients.... He's fucked so many women, etc. So it does go both ways. Some civilian women who never date a guy who saw Sp's.
Anyone on the this board, male or female.... is no different from anyone else, except maybe for being more in tune with their sexuality.
I agree 100%. My observation is that there are very few men who can handle it. I may be generalising but from what I have been exposed to, some men like their woman having sex with other men (some odd and rare perversion) and some men want a woman who bring in money (aka the pimp mentality). Neither seem to offer a successful long term relationship.
The entire idea that some man wants to be involved with you, but cannot deal with it is very frustrating. How the hell do they expect you to maintain your life style? I found it incredibly difficult to learn to trust a man to take care of me long term.
Well hun, In my case there is no way a student who has not even entered the full time work force could be the financial equal partner with a man who had worked and invested for a life time. And it was very difficult to deal with that discrepancy. I was afraid he was trying buy me and control me with his wallet, and he was afraid I was only there for money. He eliminated both fears by setting me free (financially). Like the old proverb says.... "set it free, if it does not stay with you it was never yours".
Granted he is still 10 times wealthier than I am, but I have more than enough to be ok for the rest of my life. So I stay because we love each other. I gave him 5 years of my life as a freely offered present so he did not have to be trapped where I was living and launching my career. In 4 years (one down 4 to go) we will settle down somewhere, socialize our son in a good school, and I will put my future in high gear and he will become a stay at home dad
.The secret for us was to define our needs / fears and communicate them.
Dina Lohan is pushing her daughter to make money so Dina can continue to live the lifestyle (expensive) to which Dina has been accustomed.
Thread title: "When SP/Client relationship goes outside of bedroom"
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Your signature pic is insanely hot I do agree It depends. Ask yourself these questions. Have you seen her much? Do you guys talk often? How well do you know each other? Think about it. She probably just wants to hang out as friends, or if she's single she may be looking for a financially stable boyfriend to pull her out of this business. If she has a boyfriend yet she's working in this line of business, chances are she's not going to be a loyal girl friend if you're looking for a relationship.
I suspect that any sane woman would be very nervous if a guy told her he loved her after seeing her for something like 20 hours. And most men would run for the hills if told the same thing
Here is the golden rule. Teachers should not date students. Doctors should not date patients. Lawyers and SP's should date clients. Break that rule and you will suffer grief.
Well if you genuinely like her company (besides the physical aspect), then go hang out with her. I had a few SPs whom I got to know on a more personal basis. It was (almost) like hanging out with any acquaintence. The key thing is to just hang out with her with no expectations of sex (unless she is looking for it). With the few I did get to know better, he had some good times just hanging out.
There are lot's of men in the poly community that could handle it, no?
But that is if the man is allowed other partners also.
If not and the woman is just strictly fucking for business, I could see how that would be bothersome.
Personally the only thing that would bother me is if I couldn't get enough attention from her; I'd understand why but it would kind of suck to be in an exclusive relationship with someone that is too tired / busy / etc. to spend much time with you, no matter what type of job they do.
I have ti admit I read your post 3 times before I got it. Very clever! And the more I thought about it the more I realised it was very insightful. There is not only a huge gap between the beliefs and attitudes of cultures but just as big a gap between major income brackets. The 'thousandaires" certainly do almost universally want their wives to be working. And they call that "self-worth" and "independant".
Once you get to the 'millionaires' the need and desire to have the spouse bringing in money starts to be less important.
And once you get to 'multi-millionaires' the main desire is to have a person to share life with to have available to do things with. Why be inconvenienced by your wife not being able to be with you when you have available time and she is trapped in a meaningless job?
I was impressed bobistheowl, you made something I had observed but never labelled very clear.
thank you
