When someone leaves terb.

[canbreathethroughearsmale]

I'm sure this has been covered before, it might have even been by me, though I kind of touched on in it in my blog before.

Sometimes people leave terb, whether it be one of us hobbyists, or one of the SP's/MP's/Strippers.

Sometimes it's someone you've read about alot, that you have always wanted to see. Strongbeau always says when deciding about girls, phone each one and that should help you make your decision according to their availability. When a girl retires, I'm sure that helps make your decision as well, as you better try to see that person now, before you lose out, especially if she's well reviewed.

I've also had a couple of terb friends retire as well, and yes, some say, you'll be back. Heck, sometimes they do, then sometimes they don't. I know when some have left, I've wished them luck, but felt sad that a friend has left the board.

I guess if somoene is truly a friend, they will keep in touch with you, but for alot of people, this is their secret life as well, so they leave their secret life behind as well.

So, let's get to my question, and I'd love to hear from the ladies on this as well.

How do you feel when someone who is a regular, or a friend, leaves the board?

For me, it's like a member of our terb family leaving us, albeit hopefully for better things. Maybe I'm just too sentimental, but I am curious how people from terb feel about this?

 

[luv4lust]

i feel sad

 

[great bear]

Where the hell is Eye of the Dragon?

 

[MuffinMuncher]

When its someone I know, or someone that I felt brought value to the board, I feel a sense of loss. It is an extended network of friends, especially for those of us that have been here several years or more.

There are too many posters in the current wave who contribute nothing except clutter, attention whores who hijack every thread and turn it into a personal post-count generator. I think the board and the entire community has suffered as a result, it chokes off discussion and probably discourages others from contributing.

Even some of the asshats like picky, asian sensation, tbill and others generated relavant debate. Now all we have is 27 threads about "Do strippers pick their nose".

 

[xarir]

TERB is a community. It's had its ups and downs and it's been through significant change over the years.

It's always easy to pine for the good old days. In the case of TERB it oft seems that friendly and interesting debates were more prevalent and that there was more of a core group of TERBites who made the board what it was. But I'll bet that if we were to take a more scientific approach to measuring "good" threads, we'd find that there are more today than there ever were. It's just that many threads are dispersed throughout a greater number of forums such as politics, movies, technology etc instead of all being concentrated here in The Lounge. At the same time, we tend to have a little more noise in that we have a larger number of simple, nothing threads that are ultimately of no great significance.

Having said all that, there are certain posters I do actually miss and I do feel a sense of loss when some people announce their impending retirements. I personally like TERB in that you can post more or less anything. I mean, in real life where else could I talk so freely about sex, SPs, MPAs etc? But TERB goes so far beyond that and I've come to really enjoy the freedom here. So I do feel a little sad sometimes when certain people choose to leave our little whacked-out community.

 

[Greekster]

I made the firm decision to quit terb last summer after being ripped off by an SP. I came back in one week.

 

[Jade4u]

I do not like it especially if it is someone I have met and have spoken to. I feel we are all family here even if I have not met but when you have a face to go with the posts you really feel more of a sense of who the person is and it is like a family member saying good bye and you will miss seeing their posts.

 

[Ashley Tyler]

Im kind of stuck in a 'will i quit or will i just take a vacation' time right now... Even if I do retire from the industry I will probably stay on terb as I have made some good friends here and its always great for a laugh. I made my 'goodbye' post in the strip club section but I just find myself coming on just for some uplifting. Im going through some really tough personal stuff right now and I need the distraction.

Anyway im rambling... I recently had a regular stop seeing me... I still talk to him a lot though as hes a really great guy... its sad though when im at work knowing I wont see him because he used to come in 4 sometimes 5 times a week and we had some great laughs.

 

[frankcastle]

Well just like family you don't get to pick the members..... so some of them you'll miss and some you are glad to see and others you can't wait to leave.

 

[Viewer]

I definitely feel a sense of loss and sadness. And it's happened a lot recently. In very recent times, seven people I 'know' on Terb have gone. Well, six, since Ashley is still posting .

All but one of those people I have met face to face, and more than once. So the sense of loss is keen.

 

[YellowDog]

I used to post alot from 2001-2003 then just got away from it. Forgot my password and changed my email so I created a new handle because I am getting back into the hobby and have fond memories of TERB and the info on it.
There were many people who used to post here who are gone, and I still think about them. There are some still on that I remember too, so its a nice homecoming.
The strange thing for me is how can I have these feelings about a review board.

 

[The Daulfin]

When someone leaves TERB, I'm generally happy because they have found something more fulfilling than what can possibly be offered here. Sorrow for those who have freed themselves is ultmately a selfish emotion.

 

[canbreathethroughearsmale]

When someone leaves TERB, I'm generally happy because they have found something more fulfilling than what can possibly be offered here. Sorrow for those who have freed themselves is ultmately a selfish emotion.

I don't think it's a selfish emotion. Sure, you may be happy they have found something more fulfilling in their life, but is it selfish to wish a friend was still around?

 

[moviefan]

I don't think it's a selfish emotion. Sure, you may be happy they have found something more fulfilling in their life, but is it selfish to wish a friend was still around?

I think it's human nature.

On a related note, has anyone else noticed that some of the most entertaining posters seem to be the ones who ultimately get banned?

 

[basketcase]

When someone leaves TERB, I'm generally happy because they have found something more fulfilling than what can possibly be offered here. ..

Or because the court order says no more internet access.

 

[petitelover]

I think hobbying is analogous to a form of addiction. Some can quit but most can't. Although I have never been into drugs or alcohol, I can see how people can stay addicted to something that may not be good for them. If I was forced to place money on it, I would say the majority (not all) that quit TERB or the hobby may do so for a while but they end up right back into it. For a man, the lure of an attractive female may be the most powerful drug on the market.

 

[netbull]

It is, IMHO, a selfish emotion. If you care for a friend, you can be happy regardless of whether you get to talk to or see him/her or not. Selfish is not a bad thing though and is our natural reaction to things we love, care, enjoy and want to hold on to. It's also the hardest thing to let go but letting go will free you from so many emotions like jealousy, sadness, rage, etc.

Sorry to be a bit off topic. Back to the original topic, sites like terb is a community, which is by definition a fluid environment where people natually move in and out. Nothing last forever, particularly the good ones. So enjoy their presence here and if they are gone, treasure the memory but move on.

Cheers,

I don't think it's a selfish emotion. Sure, you may be happy they have found something more fulfilling in their life, but is it selfish to wish a friend was still around?

 

[WhaWhaWha]

Teacher said that every time someone on TERB "retires", a fallen angel gets his wings and halo back.

 

[Mr. Lucky]

I miss Janda, Elektra, and Angelina

 

[Mao Tse Tongue]

Don't worry cocksuckers, when I quit, I always come back under a new handle.