Some random observations:
- If BJs just feel like a good foreplay, you have not yet been with someone who is really talented at them. Until I met my favorite it was rare for me to ejaculate from oral (she puts me on the moon!).
- Most of us average people date average people. When we are happy with them we notice all their attractive features, and when we are unhappy with them their flaws stand out. Being with someone beautiful can be weird - being unhappy with them sometimes but still being highly attracted to them.
- When you have a lot of sex with someone, both of you can feel a kind of pressure to match or exceed what you did before, and it can seem like effort instead of fun. Once in a while it is a good idea to slow down, and to reset expectations.
- For men (and some women) sex gets better with age if you stay in good shape and are creative.
- If BJs just feel like a good foreplay, you have not yet been with someone who is really talented at them. Until I met my favorite it was rare for me to ejaculate from oral (she puts me on the moon!).
- Most of us average people date average people. When we are happy with them we notice all their attractive features, and when we are unhappy with them their flaws stand out. Being with someone beautiful can be weird - being unhappy with them sometimes but still being highly attracted to them.
- When you have a lot of sex with someone, both of you can feel a kind of pressure to match or exceed what you did before, and it can seem like effort instead of fun. Once in a while it is a good idea to slow down, and to reset expectations.
- For men (and some women) sex gets better with age if you stay in good shape and are creative.
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