when a client gets obbessive

pipefitter

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What ever you do, never confuse love or affection, with sex. What has to be understood is that sex is a primal need, where as love or affection is a human need. Example being a Friendship for another human being
or the love for a child, don't fall into the primal need. That being said its not the sex that keeps a couple alive but the affection and love. In other words caring. Jmt
Thanks Tilalian for helping me make sense of it
 

wazup

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I can't believe all the patsy sweethearts on here that actually spend time analysing their relationships with sp's, do you really think you even cross their mind when you're gone, other than taking another 300$ from you. This is a hit it and quit it hobby, the girls know that but the same old usual suspects on here don't.
 

james t kirk

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I can see this happen as it has happened to me , and it happens with no intention for it to happen ,but if a client see the same girl for years, his fantasy becomes so real ,because of the connection you have developed ,the comfort ,you develop a sex bond and your emotions start playing tricks, and we confuse amazing sex as love ,because some of you girls give us such amazing sessions ,we feel in are foolish minds hey she must like me
Real simple.

Just stop paying and you will see EXACTLY where you stand with her.
 

celerystick

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I can't believe all the patsy sweethearts on here that actually spend time analysing their relationships with sp's, do you really think you even cross their mind when you're gone, other than taking another 300$ from you. This is a hit it and quit it hobby, the girls know that but the same old usual suspects on here don't.
Clearly you wouldn't cross anyone's mind, except like a bad cold, something to be forgotten ASAP !!

Do you have "relationships" with anyone except the mirror ???
(at least it isn't a human being LOL !)
 

celerystick

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Real simple.

Just stop paying and you will see EXACTLY where you stand with her.
#1 - make enough money $$ that paying for stuff isn't such a cheap skate obsession
#2 - stop paying your doctor, dentist, lawyer, accountant or any other helpful provider and see where you stand !! This is their source of income / livelihood so of course they should be paid whether you develop a friendship or not. I've only accepted freebies from reg sps on my birthday or a special occasion, and often insisted on paying because they need / deserve the money much more than I do !

Get a life cheap skate whiners !!
 

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Clearly you wouldn't cross anyone's mind, except like a bad cold, something to be forgotten ASAP !!

Do you have "relationships" with anyone except the mirror ???
(at least it isn't a human being LOL !)
LMAO, he is still bitter from the COLD..the guy comes loaded with baggage and looks at any chance possible to project his insecurities, trust issues, and relationship problems to put down the ones who are capable of emotion and forming genuine connections. He just knows how to project his deficiencies and social failures onto others when they open up...classic signs...

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?299604-Would-you-reccomend-marriage/
 

wazup

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Do you guys not realize that you're paying for these friendships??
 

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Do you guys not realize that you're paying for these friendships??

Yes, ask yourself that question, why is it that you can only get companionship from a paid SP. Why do you see the need to put others down and criticize others when you have no clue what is actually going on in their interactions? How do you know that this is not part of the fantasy. When was the last time you actually took a girl out, any girl out, that liked you for who you were. Do you even have friends? Sounds to me like you are criticizing others for what you do.

You generalize and throw blanket statements, when it is so complex, and some people actually get affected. The majority of hobbyist have a good head on, however there is a percentage of the clingy clients who are social losers and can't make friends or form companionship without paying, then there is the sociopaths and wolves that pray and exploit plus many many more to name on here, it is too complex just to splify like that.
 

wazup

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LMAO, he is still bitter from the COLD..the guy comes loaded with baggage and looks at any chance possible to project his insecurities, trust issues, and relationship problems to put down the ones who are capable of emotion and forming genuine connections. He just knows how to project his deficiencies and social failures onto others when they open up...classic signs...

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showthread.php?299604-Would-you-reccomend-marriage/
That's your opinion of me, I look at you guys as sad pathetic losers like one of the girls mentioned earlier. Many of these friendships you speak of is out of sympathy by the lady or getting a few free gifts.
 

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Just about 2 miles past appropriate
That's your opinion of me, I look at you guys as sad pathetic losers like one of the girls mentioned earlier. Many of these friendships you speak of is out of sympathy by the lady or getting a few free gifts.
Of course a guy can be friends with an SP. The issue is when clients say they want to be friends but really want more and get weird about it. While a guy like Titalia's fake online personality could handle it, in real life, especially in a community of men that pays for sex, often the guy becomes obsessive and will turn on the lady when he starts feeling rejected. Lady is dissapointed and feels burned. As for all the guys in here judging you for having a different viewpoint....keep in mind that this forum, like many online communities, is obviously a role-playing outlet for some and having several thousands of posts in an escort forum (any forum actually) does not equal real-life credibility. Sometimes quite the opposite.
 

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That's your opinion of me, I look at you guys as sad pathetic losers like one of the girls mentioned earlier. Many of these friendships you speak of is out of sympathy by the lady or getting a few free gifts.
Listen to your self, are you even capable of posting in a thread without name calling and generalizations. Nothing in your post adds value to this discussion and is aimed at trying to make others look bad to make you feel good. At least you have all grown up to follow in you daddies footsteps. Way to go, hope you find that bride you've been pondering in the Philippines or Thailand... Lol..and yup we are sad and pathetic losers.
 

Eddie401

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You just chimed in and didn't see how this thread discussion has evolved.
First post does not equal not following all along which I have. Titalia went into his maturity bit and made it about the client (fluffing himself in the process) right from the beginning hence my Phoebe Cates reference.
 

Eddie401

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Listen to your self, are you even capable of posting in a thread without name calling and generalizations. Nothing in your post adds value to this discussion and is aimed at trying to make others look bad to make you feel good. At least you have all grown up to follow in you daddies footsteps. Way to go, hope you find that bride you've been pondering in the Philippines or Thailand... Lol..and yup we are sad and pathetic losers.
Yah the loser talk does seem a little redundant haha. That's why I make fun of the guys in here that try to come across as Yodas of sex and relationships. Not really the place for that haha.

Tell us more about these brides in Thailand....
 

wazup

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Of course a guy can be friends with an SP. The issue is when clients say they want to be friends but really want more and get weird about it. While a guy like Titalia's fake online personality could handle it, in real life, especially in a community of men that pays for sex, often the guy becomes obsessive and will turn on the lady when he starts feeling rejected. Lady is dissapointed and feels burned. As for all the guys in here judging you for having a different viewpoint....keep in mind that this forum, like many online communities, is obviously a role-playing outlet for some and having several thousands of posts in an escort forum (any forum actually) does not equal real-life credibility. Sometimes quite the opposite.
I think we have different views of what a friendship is, to me it is something geniune where a bond is built, not just an artificially built one. What these guys call friendships are just only people they know, I know many people but wouldn't consider them friends, maybe in make believe land they don't tell themselves they're paying for it.
 

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I think we have different views of what a friendship is, to me it is something geniune where a bond is built, not just an artificially built one. What these guys call friendships are just only people they know, I know many people but wouldn't consider them friends, maybe in make believe land they don't tell themselves they're paying for it.

OK, don't disagree with this.

Now the question to answer is what it the actual approximation of clingers vs. decent cleints vs. an actual friends and client relationships.

Is it different for SPs vs. MPAs. Is there really a problem or do we just focus on the negative cases and blow it out of proportions and make it seem like its a majority.

Maybe this thread can serve to help some clients who are clinging but do not recognize.

I think only the SPs and MPAs can answer this best and we are just speculating at best if we try guessing the actual numbers or try to use this thread to shame others...lol
 

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What these gentlemen have to get a handle on is that the service is for "Entertainment" not a substitute for a real relationship. Sorry Amber and other ladies to hear that this has happened.

Guys ...... relax, have some fun and get some...... then leave
 

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I remember wazup (handle on here) once saying that clients and sp's should not get to personal or make friendships When I read that I felt like he was being a little cold/ I have been very hurt by a client who claims to be in love and is now stretching a situation that has happened to me way out of proportion. I am human I make mistakes., However I am saddened that someone has taken it upon themselves to talk shit about me because I did not have the same feelings for them. I am sure some members on here do have real friendships, however you have to be real careful who u confide in. I have learned and grown a lot because of this lesson. I am also thankful for the real friendships I have made.

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I'm weening myself out of this hobby in part because of a situation precisely like this. I got too close. Both of us contributed to it, both for innocently enough reasons, even honourable ones.
The bottom line is that getting together in this industry is a business relationship, plain and simple. It may involve intimate behaviour but it's still a pre-arranged client/provider relationship.
When stuff like this happens, it's the fault of both parties. To the guys who fall into this trap: get a-hold of yourself and shake it off. If you weren't paying $$$, the woman would have NEVER looked your way (even if off-the-clock encounters happened). To providers, however painful and distressful the result may have been, for some reason the client was given reason to think there was something more when there was none. Find the kill switch quicker next time and have an honest conversation with yourself how it happened in order to prevent it happening again. And no, i don't accept the premise that you can be real friends with each other. Friendly, yes, but there is always an ulterior motive to the friendship by one or both parties.
Rant over.
 

wazup

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Maybe this is about percentages, I'm in the 95% that are only looking for a release and nothing more, why would I want to be friends with her and more so her me?
 

celerystick

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Maybe this is about percentages, I'm in the 95% that are only looking for a release and nothing more, why would I want to be friends with her and more so her me?
Quite sure your percentage is inaccurate .. but if that's all you're looking for, why not just use your right (or left) hand ??? You seem quite budget conscious, it's way cheaper LOL !!
 
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