What's the most disrespectful thing a guest has done in your home?
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**Sophie**
Got invited to a 50th b.d party last night, distant relative and great friends birthday!! All excited, than GeT a phone call today saying the plans are changed and they want to have it at a banquet hall but that 5 of us need to pay 500 each to cover the costs! For about 90 people !!! none if which I'm even going to know. I was pissed. How can these people not be embarrassed expecting us to pay for everyone's night!!! I'm really pissed and so turned off now!! What nerve!! I don't even know If I'm going now! It's not about the money, more that they had the balls to ask us to pay for everyone meal. It's the principle.
Okay rant over!! I don't like it when my sister always puts my slippers on and drinks out if my cup. Most guests that come over are really respectful! Wait, actually once we had guests over, fine they brought their dog, we have one too but, it was a small lap dog and it was sitting on her lap, and then she put it on the breakfast bar!!!! Wtf does that?!!
Okay rant over!! I don't like it when my sister always puts my slippers on and drinks out if my cup. Most guests that come over are really respectful! Wait, actually once we had guests over, fine they brought their dog, we have one too but, it was a small lap dog and it was sitting on her lap, and then she put it on the breakfast bar!!!! Wtf does that?!!
You think that's bad? We had a guest who brought his new girlfriend over and she had a little lap dog that she proceeded to put on the table where we were all still eating and allowed him to eat off of her plate all the while asking her boyfriend to tell everyone that her mashed potatoes were superior. Lol.
I truly would have been insulted if she hadn't been so obviously needy and insecure.
Steph
I have recently replaced my basement floors and my SOs father, the first time over our house after we bought it, has the nerve to pick at all my deficiencies from my work and joints not being proper installed etc...and his house is a falling apart dump. I think he's still bitter that I got both his girls living in my house (his daughter + x-wife), and his sorry miserable ass just knows how to complain.
Hey if others can rant and complain so can I jump this train.
Hey if others can rant and complain so can I jump this train.
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**Sophie**
Well I wouldn't have the balls to say anything (wish I was more outspoken that way) but my boyfriend did, he has no filter. ( love it lol) he just said, let the dog run around, she got the hint. Don't think I will be inviting them over again, any time soon. I'm sure you won't be either lol
About 12 years ago I started at a company as Ontario Sales Director. A guy I had worked with at another company recruited me to go there. About a year before I arrived I assisted my sister in law ( wife's younger sister and a cross between Neve Campbell and Liv Tyler ) in getting a sales job there. As fate would have it when I arrived she was on the sales team. Didn't report to me. Reported to a fellow who reported to me.
Sister in law turns out to be the laziest person on the planet. Goes on mat leave. I met her two weeks before she comes back from mat leave and said : "Need to let you know that things are going to change for you when you get back. You're going to need to follow the plan and put in the time". She proceeds to come back and does not change one iota. The poor bastard who manages her feels caught between a rock and a hard place. Finally, H.R. steps in and I excuse myself from the process. She is provided a very generous severance package. But ... unbeknownst to me she goes home and tells hubby that it was my doing.
Six months later we have a family gathering for my in-laws anniversary at our house. Had it catered , cocktails flying ... everybody had a great time. At about 2 in the morning it is only me and the brother in law still up. We are sitting in my dining room drinking Johnny Walker Blue ( was a gift from a colleague. Nothing to write home about ) and we were both feeling no pain. All of a sudden the brother in law says to me : "You're lucky I didn't kick your ass and sue you and XYZ company for treating my wife the way you did". I sat up and said "excuse me"?! He proceeds to tell me that my wife's sister told him that I stabbed her in the back and sicked HR on her and had told them untrue things about her. I replied "clearly you didn't get all of the facts. I did my very best leading up to her mat leave to allow her to depart gracefully. I had lunch with her before her return and let her know that things were going to change for her. Anyhow ... this really is not the time and place to have this discussion. If you'd like , we can meet for coffee next week and I'd be pleased to provide some detail". He again says "Well I'm just letting you know that you're lucky I didn't kick your ass". I let the first one go but I'll be damned if I'm going to let a guest come and eat and drink ( well I might add ) at my home and then threaten me with bodily harm. I looked at him for a good five seconds , got up and walked around the table. I leaned in close to him and said "Here I am".
I don't think he expected things to go that way. He didn't move to stand up. Things got ugly verbally though and we were soon yelling , swearing and cursing one another. I said several times "You think you can kick my ass? Step up now or get the fuck outa my house"!
Everyone gets up and comes downstairs. Mother in law is telling us to calm down. My wife hears the discussion , looks at me then turns on her sister and says "You need to tell Jeff the truth about what went on at XYZ inc. You caused this".
Everyone went to bed. I took the dog for a walk for 2 hours in a blizzard. By the time I got home I was sober. The next day everyone got up except for the brother in law and sister in law and went for brunch. When we got back they were gone.
We didn't speak to them for 4 years. We saw them at my in laws cottage one summer. He approached me and said he understands that he didn't get all of the facts but blah , blah , blah. Not a real apology. I just said to him "I offered to meet you when we were both sober to discuss. You seemed to want to press the fact that you wanted to kick my ass. I gave you the chance and you didn't take it. I think we both know the truth here don't we"? He said "yeah , I guess we do".
Still can't believe he did that.
Sister in law turns out to be the laziest person on the planet. Goes on mat leave. I met her two weeks before she comes back from mat leave and said : "Need to let you know that things are going to change for you when you get back. You're going to need to follow the plan and put in the time". She proceeds to come back and does not change one iota. The poor bastard who manages her feels caught between a rock and a hard place. Finally, H.R. steps in and I excuse myself from the process. She is provided a very generous severance package. But ... unbeknownst to me she goes home and tells hubby that it was my doing.
Six months later we have a family gathering for my in-laws anniversary at our house. Had it catered , cocktails flying ... everybody had a great time. At about 2 in the morning it is only me and the brother in law still up. We are sitting in my dining room drinking Johnny Walker Blue ( was a gift from a colleague. Nothing to write home about ) and we were both feeling no pain. All of a sudden the brother in law says to me : "You're lucky I didn't kick your ass and sue you and XYZ company for treating my wife the way you did". I sat up and said "excuse me"?! He proceeds to tell me that my wife's sister told him that I stabbed her in the back and sicked HR on her and had told them untrue things about her. I replied "clearly you didn't get all of the facts. I did my very best leading up to her mat leave to allow her to depart gracefully. I had lunch with her before her return and let her know that things were going to change for her. Anyhow ... this really is not the time and place to have this discussion. If you'd like , we can meet for coffee next week and I'd be pleased to provide some detail". He again says "Well I'm just letting you know that you're lucky I didn't kick your ass". I let the first one go but I'll be damned if I'm going to let a guest come and eat and drink ( well I might add ) at my home and then threaten me with bodily harm. I looked at him for a good five seconds , got up and walked around the table. I leaned in close to him and said "Here I am".
I don't think he expected things to go that way. He didn't move to stand up. Things got ugly verbally though and we were soon yelling , swearing and cursing one another. I said several times "You think you can kick my ass? Step up now or get the fuck outa my house"!
Everyone gets up and comes downstairs. Mother in law is telling us to calm down. My wife hears the discussion , looks at me then turns on her sister and says "You need to tell Jeff the truth about what went on at XYZ inc. You caused this".
Everyone went to bed. I took the dog for a walk for 2 hours in a blizzard. By the time I got home I was sober. The next day everyone got up except for the brother in law and sister in law and went for brunch. When we got back they were gone.
We didn't speak to them for 4 years. We saw them at my in laws cottage one summer. He approached me and said he understands that he didn't get all of the facts but blah , blah , blah. Not a real apology. I just said to him "I offered to meet you when we were both sober to discuss. You seemed to want to press the fact that you wanted to kick my ass. I gave you the chance and you didn't take it. I think we both know the truth here don't we"? He said "yeah , I guess we do".
Still can't believe he did that.
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**Sophie**
Champ - So now they are your out-laws haha!! I think this is the reason why they warn people to not get into business with family.
Ding ding ding! I think we have a winner here for best story so far
And to think, I was going to write about how I hate it when guests wear their outside shoes in my house, even though it is clearly obvious no one else is doing it and it's the middle of winter and I've laid out slippers for everyone. I don't like snow and salt and sand and dog shit tracked on my floors. Sorry, call me crazy.
Point #1. Pride goeth before the fall.
Point #2. Sunlight is said to be the best of disinfectants. - Louis D. Brandeis.
I do business with a fellow who agrees about the dangers of going into business with friends or family. He says, only half jokingly I think, that if you need a partner, then it should be your enemy, because in that case you won't be harboring any illusions and your judgement won't be clouded. BTW, this fellow and I have a B2B relationship for about a decade now. It's working fine.
And I agree with the whole blood and money thing. It's a unique and unstable dynamic. I know first hand. It ended with a lawsuit. If we hadn't settled, then some of the players would probably have gone to jail. Those same people agreed to resign and they lost their homes as part of the settlement. The rest of us think they got off too easy.
I believe it was Thirdcup who pointed out
Pride goeth before the fall.
Sunlight is said to be the best of disinfectants.
Yep. There ain't nothin like family.
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Looking at your lips, I think you could debone me (take about 20 minutes)I invited an acquaintance over for dinner one night……the menu was pickerel, rice, and green beans ………As he was eating the fish he said" I just spit out a bone" …….I apologized and said yes I'm not the best de boner ………anyways then he says if he would've swallowed the bone he would've sued me. I didn't invite that prick back for another dinner
Unfortunately family and business (MONEY) do not mix (NO MATTER WHAT)!!!
In my business, I've seen brothers, after rivalries and take overs, not talk to each other, to this day. That is very sad.
Its unfortunate, but thats the way it is. It was unfortunate for you to have gotten caught in this predicament.
I am sure you meant well. lesson learned.
When they overstayed their welcome, I would sing the goodbye song that Carol Burnett would sing at the end of her show. It was good natured and they always got the message.
FYI.... You are not telling me anything I don't already know. I guess unlike a few other posters,you missed the Blackrockian humour.
I had roommates in university that were complete jackasses. I came home one day and one tells me he borrowed my squash racket. My first reaction was "oh no problem", then, "wait.. That was buried in a box in the back of my closet under three other boxes" / "yeah, took me awhile to find it".
No privacy when you have roommates.
I don't let jackasses into my home so no recent stories that compare to the shit I put up with as a student.
No privacy when you have roommates.
I don't let jackasses into my home so no recent stories that compare to the shit I put up with as a student.
