My friends high school sweetheart is getting married this summer. He has had a relationship with her in some form or another for the past 10 years. Even while she has been engaged my friend Dave and her have had a couple of encounters. She is unhappy, doesnt want to get married but feels trapped. Here is the kicker: her fiancee is very rich and has friends in lets say high places. Is there any hope of her calling it off? What should Dave do?
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Unfortunately any advice your friend gives her will be "tainted" in her mind. Therefore perhaps the best advice he can give is that she should talk about her feelings with a councellor now before the wedding. I can assure you that if there are problems and doubts now, the odds are that they will cause problems in the marriage - perhaps even cause it to fail. Your friend, however, is between a rock and a hard place. On one level he wants the relationship to fail, or the other he realizes that if it does he may well be blamed for it's failure. Therefore difficult as it is the best advice for your friend is again urge her to talk to someone with come credentials to help her figure out her own mind, be a friend, stop having a physical relationship with her. Tell the friend to go out have a good drunk and try to let go.player coach said:
Let it unfold naturally. Obviously this lady is playing both ends of the same game. The fiance has money and influence -- could that be part of the attraction that Dave lacks?
Who knows! Maybe Dave will find a comfortable role as a "back door man" once the lady is wed.
My advice to you? Keep a notebook. You never know when you'll have a chance to write a soap opera.
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Who knows! Maybe Dave will find a comfortable role as a "back door man" once the lady is wed.
My advice to you? Keep a notebook. You never know when you'll have a chance to write a soap opera.
..c..
Problem is Dave cant forget about her. And he doesnt want to be a back door man in the marriage. He wants to marry her.
fuck all you can do, mate. she's an adult and no one's got a gun to her head, so she'll make her own decision and your buddy is out in the cold if she chooses to marry her fiancee.
frankly, i'd be telling your friend that he should think twice about this woman anyhow. from what you've told us about her, she cheats, she's a golddigger, she's indecisive and cowardly. not much of a catch.
frankly, i'd be telling your friend that he should think twice about this woman anyhow. from what you've told us about her, she cheats, she's a golddigger, she's indecisive and cowardly. not much of a catch.
But does she want to marry him? I think she wants the fiance for the money, and your buddy for the sex.player coach said:
Thanks for the replies...yes he would be sleepin with the fishes....and yes she wants to marry my buddy Dave....i think its a lost cause
Well, I have to say that's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard. Her fiancee is forcing her to marry him at the threat of death. Ok. I guess slavery is alive and well in Canada, and I just don't realize it.
its not slavery she is just afraid of the repercussions from calling it off. He is connected to organized crime
Taking the bad boy thing to the extreme????????player coach said:
She needs to do it now or never.
btw, just an update. She did end up marrying him in June. In the middle of august, she called my buddy to telll him what a mistake she made and how miserable she was. He told her to *&%#$ off and leave him alone. He never heard from her again.
"she's too scared" is BS. She isn't telling Dave the truth. She could have called it off if she wanted no matter how rich and powerful the guy is, and she could leave now if she is really so miserable. It's not that she's scared or miserable, it's that she's attracted to the riches and the power and perhaps to other things as well, she is just not admitting that to Dave.player coach said:
She's telling Dave what she wants Dave to hear so that she can keep the backdoor open 'cuz she's a player.
