Wow, so many messages to answer.
and now he has called me 4 times in 10 mins.. if any girls would like his info PM.. I feel this guy is not cool
Agreed. That is not cool since LR made it clear she did not want to talk to the guy.
This entire industry is built upon, and depends upon discretion, from both sides, provider & client.
Maybe this will help you understand the situation more easily:
hamiltondude and Mrshamiltondude are out shopping.
Would you like it if a provider came up and started talking to you in front of your wife (repeatedly, despite being told politely to get lost) ?
Not married ?
How about you're out with your mom or dad helping them pick up some stuff, and the same situation arises.
Mom & Dad are dead?
You're out with your boss grabbing some stuff for the office party, or you're out with a niece.
Do you really want to have to explain the circumstances as to how you know this woman that seems quite familiar with you ?
Interactions between provider and client are to take place within the hour (or appointment time), and through texts/emails/phone calls, whatever works to set up the rendevous. That's it, period, end of sentence. A thank you email or communication is okay, if warranted, but again, discretion is the key !!
Problem with this example is LR was alone, by all accounts, and Costanza is putting a guy with family members or friends. It is not the same.
I had a client smack my ass in a grocery store once. He was very close to getting punched in the face.
Not that is really uncool. Actually it is
sexual assault or at least plain vanilla
assault.
Dude, shes a human being!! if she cant stand the possibility of some outside publicity (Just like movie starts shouldnt be movie stars if they dont want to be approached by 'fans'), then maybe shes in the wrong business. You cant expect EVERYONE to react to seeing an SP out and about like you or i would.
I am kind of in agreement with Hamiltondude on this one. She is a person out in public, can we no longer just say 'hi' to another person of the opposite sex ? Have we gone so far into technology that we cannot talk unless it is on a phone or texting on a computer ?
However I do understand LR's reasoning, the guy did seem to be over excited.
Since when is it okay to go up and speak with anyone in this business in public without explicit permission by both parties beforehand? Did the rules change some time in the last ... 10 minutes?
As stated earlier: discretion is a two-way street and must be upheld by both the escort and the client. Anyone who doesn't get this basic and simple fact is not mature enough for this hobby, plain and simple. That goes for anyone explaining or enabling such behaviour.
A client is not in the business, just apart of it.
I go to see the Leafs at the ACC and the Jays at Skydome and I am not in hockey or baseball.
Part of the "contract" that goes along with the fee is that both sides keep it to themselves. Think the Vegas slogan: what goes on in... stays in...
AGAIN, if someone doesn't have the good sense to know that the contract begins and ends in the allotted and paid-for time period, then they have no business partaking in this hobby and get what they deserve from the SP (or client, if the role is reversed) - namely a kick in the nuts, pepper spray to the eyes or a tazer. <wink> (I'm kidding - chill out.)
Followers? "Expect the unexpected?" By stating shit like this, you show that you clearly don't get it. You are enabling the idiots, which makes me think that you are also an idiot. < shaking head >
Saw that, but you keep making excuses for the idiots and giving ridiculous comparisons and examples. I'll stand by my post until you prove otherwise.
Escorts are not public figures - they have a reasonable expectation of privacy, as do clients. For either side to break that contract makes the hobby a worse place for all involved. There really is no more to be said... however, if someone - client or escort - doesn't get this, they need to leave the business immediately. There are several SPs on this board who have shown that they're not trustworthy and would never see one cent of my money. There are way too many anonymous clients that would have me deeply concerned if I were an escort - posting personal details, acting like creeps, etc.
PS - it's not just this business where people lack common sense - this just happens to be the one that attracts a lot of delusional creeps.
First you state the contract ended at the end of the session, then you mention breaking the contract out in public. In your own words the contract has ended after the hour(or however long the session was).
And escorts are public figures ... sort of.
I think there's an expectation of privacy when an SP is out in public. It's not like she advertises on Google or the Weather Network.
But she does advertise in 'public'. The internet is a public domain, is it not ? One does not even need to own a computer, just go to any library and away you go, it is free.
Also, if you
'Google' "TERB" it will lead you here. So "It's not like she advertises on Google..." is a matter of opinion.
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LR, you did put your face on the internet, the problem is this is such a different business.
On the one hand LR advertises on the internet, in public, while on the other hand, as I already said, it is a different business.
Contact in public is going to happen, how we handle it is of prime importance. Just saying "Hi. How are you ?" etc, etc goes with the territory.
The
outing or
threat of outing, I agree is not apart of a friendly exchange and should never happen.
In this case it does seem as though LR hit the panic button early, but it did seem as though the guy was heading in the
outing LR direction, intentional or otherwise.