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DigitallyYours

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Ladies and Gents,

I'm sure this must have been discussed in the past, but I couldn't find anything on doing a search.

Say you've been seeing an SP/MPA regularly for over a year, where it's clear that you are her regular and vice versa. And at the minimum, you have established a friendly client/provider relationship.

What is the best way to end it?

1. Just stop seeing her cold turkey. No explanation.
2. Tell her during a second to last session that you're ending it and then book one last farewell romp.
3. Say nothing and then tell her after your last session that you're ending it.
4. Say nothing. Have a last session. Leave as normal. Then a while later, e-mail, call or text her that it's over.

Or something else...
 
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It's not a big deal.

Just stop calling.

What if you change your mind later? Then a big speech about how it's your last session looks pretty silly.
 
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DigitallyYours

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That's why I put "break up" in quotes.

I know a person could just stop calling. I suppose if you call regularly every 2 weeks and 4 weeks pass and no call, she will get the hint. Seems kind of cold for a person who you have a friendly relationship with. I guess I'm the type who feels like it might be nice as a courtesy just to tell her that you're taking a break from her so she can readjust her earning expectations accordingly.
 
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Polecat

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nondescriptive said:
As hobbyists, we are just $$$ for the provider, there is no breaking up, IMO.
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Totally agree with nondesc't, she will probably txt or call you to see what happened, just keep the door open in case you want to return in the future. Regardless of what an SP says we're just $$$ to her.
 
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Stop visiting but remain cordial and friendly (if noncommittal) in emails or text if she contacts you. Don't return calls. Gently move on, but don't burn bridges.
 
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To ensure permanent breakup, do either of the following:

dont pay the last time you see her!
or
tell her you got Hep C or Siphillus and need to take a few months to receive treatment
 
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DigitallyYours said:
Ladies and Gents,

I'm sure this must have been discussed in the past, but I couldn't find anything on doing a search.

Say you've been seeing an SP/MPA regularly for over a year, where it's clear that you are her regular and vice versa. And at the minimum, you have established a friendly client/provider relationship.

What is the best way to end it?

1. Just stop seeing her cold turkey. No explanation.
2. Tell her during a second to last session that you're ending it and then book one last farewell romp.
3. Say nothing and then tell her after your last session that you're ending it.
4. Say nothing. Have a last session. Leave as normal. Then a while later, e-mail, call or text her that it's over.

Or something else...
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Just get the fuck up and leave.
 
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supernatural

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I guess it depends on how long you've been seeing her for, and really on what kind of relationship it is. Some regulars you just come in, laugh a bit, screw a bit, see you next week/month, others you hang out and chill with for a bit after.

I'm a fan of at least giving her some indication if you're say a weekly regular, as its a nice tip of the hat to give her time to plan on the loss of the extra cash. I don't think you have to even say its her, just say you've had fun, but you're looking to get out of this business and doing this, so you probably won't be calling again for a while. She doesn't need to know its just her or that you're going to continue to see other ladies.
 
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supernatural said:
I guess it depends on how long you've been seeing her for, and really on what kind of relationship it is. Some regulars you just come in, laugh a bit, screw a bit, see you next week/month, others you hang out and chill with for a bit after.

I'm a fan of at least giving her some indication if you're say a weekly regular, as its a nice tip of the hat to give her time to plan on the loss of the extra cash. I don't think you have to even say its her, just say you've had fun, but you're looking to get out of this business and doing this, so you probably won't be calling again for a while. She doesn't need to know its just her or that you're going to continue to see other ladies.
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What he said. If she's been good to you, I think it's a nice courtesy to let her know that she won't be able to count on that income anymore. I don't think you owe her any explanation, but a heads up is a nice gesture.
 
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You should not have to break up with an SP ever. Just like me, an SP, should not have to make up an excuse for taking the day off for example. It does not concern someone's personal life. If you changed to a different dry cleaner would you send him roses and a card?


With that said, if there was a little bit of an emotional attachment, it would be decent to mention that you were moving on for personal reasons. You're mentioning it only to be polite (and maybe to prevent questions later on).
From my POV, as an SP, I would appreciate a regular client letting me know he was "moving on from hobbying or whatever" for his private reasons. No questions asked. Just so I would have closure. I really appreciated it when a regular of mine told me about a health issue that was going to take several months for him to recover from. I thanked him for the notice and wished him a speedy recovery. End of conversation. I left it up to him if he wanted to discuss it.
I only would appreciate it from a regular client as an act of courtesy. What defines someone as a regular will be open to interpretation too.

You owe an SP no excuse. She's not your S.O. .... is she??...I think you've gotten a little confused with names and expectations you'd better check into it to be safe - lol!!!
 
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As far as giving a reason, I've found that saying you've been spending too much money lately usually works well.

It's a valid excuse without saying anything negative about the lady.
 
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genintoronto said:
It's a sad world when courtesy is understood as complication.
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Let's just ask what would a woman do? We all know a woman would just stop calling, don't we?
 
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fmahovalich

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She may 'know you'...or 'recognize' you WHEN YOU ARE THERE....

but lets not let your head get too inflated!!!

She will forgert all about you about 15 minutes after you are gone...and never think of you again until you walk thru the door with another $150...maybe $200 bills.!!.

I would not lose too much sleep over how she will feel. And you are wanting out. Just stop!!

Easy man!!
 
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