What are some ways and methods you use to get over a girl faster? [25/m]
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Dating an escort: not a good idea for multiple reasons. Some on your account, some on hers. Everyone is different but that's as a general rule.
Ways to forget: travel a lot for couple of years. And volunteer. These 2 activities are guaranteed to help.
Ways to forget: travel a lot for couple of years. And volunteer. These 2 activities are guaranteed to help.
pablice, you strike me as a pretty wise and experienced person. your words make a lot of sense. I'm not in the OPs situation, but if I was, your advice to rechannel those feelings and take advantage of them is powerful.
Fuck no! And use someone else as a rebound/recovery mechanism? That's using someone and taking advantage of them!The only way to get over someone is get under someone else
A few things....
First Bestman is just trolling/having fun. Its not the first time so just relax people.
Second is its nice you had a connection with this lady but did she really have a connection with you? Unrequited love is the worst kind. My bet is if she cut it off she sensed you're getting too close and chose to not take advantage of you. Thank her quietlly to yourself.
A piece of advice that has stood me in good stead for many years in many situations....
"If you can't decide the right thing to do its usually the most difficult thing".
Good luck.
First Bestman is just trolling/having fun. Its not the first time so just relax people.
Second is its nice you had a connection with this lady but did she really have a connection with you? Unrequited love is the worst kind. My bet is if she cut it off she sensed you're getting too close and chose to not take advantage of you. Thank her quietlly to yourself.
A piece of advice that has stood me in good stead for many years in many situations....
"If you can't decide the right thing to do its usually the most difficult thing".
Good luck.
I don't think you can truly get someone out of your head if you had a good relationship going even if she is an escort. Loss and change are difficult things to get over. That little voice is something you just have to go through and I don't think there's a way to silence it or make it silent faster. The only thing you can do is move on with your life by doing other things, seeing other people, etc.
You have to face the reality that she is going to be sleeping with other guys while escorting. I don't think many people can tolerate that reality for long regardless of how much money she is bringing in.
OP I will leave you with a quote,
“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.” - Barbara De Angelis
If you really love her don't hold back for a minute. Live life with no regrets brother.
“You never lose by loving. You always lose by holding back.” - Barbara De Angelis
If you really love her don't hold back for a minute. Live life with no regrets brother.
You need to find a REAL Girlfriend.
If she felt the same way about you, she would have reciprocated. But she doesn't.
Devote some of that energy to finding a woman who will care about you.
It's a bit of a double standard because no Service Provide would actually consider having a relationship with their clients. They will have sex with you for money, but will never actually want to be with you because of how you met. My guess is that when an SP starts a relationship, they don't want their past being thrown into their face. That's just the way it is, so move forward.
Pablice is the most hopeless of romantics I have ever known! Lol.
In reading this thread, I wonder how old the OP is and his experience in dating. Deciding on whether a person is the ONE is easy when you have little context and experience. It would be especially hard when most of your experience with her is from one hour increments...where she is professionally creating the illusion or romance and enchantment.
I like Bestman's responses, they made me laugh..
This though actually sums it up and would be my advice, other than to add lets call a spade a spade, the feelings are almost definitely not mutual, and certainly not in intensity.
Hey there now...why u gotta pick my scabs, what's up brother
...lol...even though I have failed at my chance, and went all apeshit on terb, I don't hold any regret nor am I hopeless romantic. I love everything love...lol...from novels to movies to hearing terbie stories similar to OPs. Sometimes, I can relate and share what I've been through. Although, if I did succeed at my opportunity, what would I do with this. I my mind plutonic would be the answer but in hers that might not be enough. So like I said many times before, I would rather burn in 7 hells with burning feelings or thoughts than to cause hurt to her by creating false feelings of hope that could never be. And yes I still think of her even though I deleted that messed up I can't forget you. Geezze, and I thought deleting the I can't forget to forget would help :frusty:
I really do enjoy the memories my experience with "romance" has left, not just on terb but through life...this has not hindered my ability to keep an open heart or run away from romance, but certainly I have no need to chase it.
I try to learn from it and each time a thread like this gets started, it does bring back memories or emotions. Why do u think I posted that song or why so many of us reply to these type of relationship threads. We remember and feel it, we always do.
Sometimes you fall at the most unexpected moments. The worst love is the unrequited love.
I still experience romance, sometimes subtly with my wife, even though it is not as intense, sometimes it does present itself, and sometimes it is inspired though "external" help.
I believe that the heart has the ability to love more then one person and fall in love with different people. I also believe that each time you fall it is a way different experience then before. The one thing I would never do is run from it.
So yeah, hopeless would be the least way I would describe it.
just my 2 apples.Yeah, from what OP described and trough his replies it does not seem mutual. It is never a good idea to chase after unrequited love.
Pablice - This is most definitely you, brother!
hopeless romantic
This person is in love with love.They believe in fairy tales and love.They're not to be confused as stalkers or creepy because that's not what a hopeless romantic is. All hopeless romantics are idealists,the sentimental dreamers,the imaginative and the fanciful when you get to know them.They often live with rose colored glasses on.They make lovelook like an art form with all the romantic things they do for their special someone.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hopeless romantic
hopeless romantic
This person is in love with love.They believe in fairy tales and love.They're not to be confused as stalkers or creepy because that's not what a hopeless romantic is. All hopeless romantics are idealists,the sentimental dreamers,the imaginative and the fanciful when you get to know them.They often live with rose colored glasses on.They make lovelook like an art form with all the romantic things they do for their special someone.
http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=hopeless romantic
These are good categories for what kinds of guys hobby. In order for us to give constructive advice, we need to know why he hobbies.
Incidentally, I've enjoyed wonderful, genuine friendships with women in the industry, but never had a meaningful relationship that was founded on a "professional" relationship. That "mental wall" works, but only to a degree. Then we start fooling ourselves.
Muahahahaaaaaa....TGTBT!!!!!! Wow, this fits like a glass slipperPablice - This is most definitely you, brother!
good one!BTW what's up with those beers...am hopelessly all dried up from all this romance?
REAL girlfriend, real friends, real hobbies, etc. Unplug and go experience the world.
Go buy the biggest diamond ring you could find and slip it on her finger after the deed and see how she reacts
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**Sophie**
