rofobo said:
That's one thing I can never agree with. Cheating on your partner. I don't care about the moral implications so much as the idea that you are putting someone else's health at risk without thier knowledge. No matter how careful you are the risks are there. You have made a concious choice to accept those risks, they haven't. Putting another persons health at risk that way is about as low as you can get.
You make the assumption that a partner's health would be at risk if someone had sex with another. That's not necessarily the case. If a couple is no longer having sex and hasn't for a while, then there is no health risk to the partner. I know so many people in this situation -- and we're not talking octagenarians! Many of these people are in their 40s, some even in their 30s. As someone said here, the things I say aren't politically correct -- we are conditioned to believe that love and lust last as long as partnerships. But the truth is, they often don't! And even still, the partnerships might be worthwhile overall.
And what about the mental and physical health risks of denying a partner any outlet for sexual expression? Isn't that as bad or worse than most STDs, many of which are inconsequential and/or easily cured? Imagine being told or led to believe that, as of today, you will never have sex again. What would that do to your overall health?
This much I've learned from more than three decades in the business:
1) Many men remain sexual and need/crave sex throughout their lives.
2) Many women lose desire for sex after childbearing years, BUT their sexuality can progress and even evolve IF they remain committed to being sexual.
I've come to believe that many women let their men down while expecting their men never to let them down. It's not always the case, but too often, it is. You can't expect sexual monogamy if you are not willing to be an active, attractive and engaging sexual partner for the entire time that you expect monogamy. The urge for sex is like hunger -- for those who feel it, it is torment until it is satisfied.
What? Would you have life partners walk away from homes, families, community identities and such over a lack of sex? Especially when it's so easy and discreet to satisfy that desire and go right back to the partnership that fails to satisfy in that area.
Or perhaps you'd rather that people live in deprivation and suffering for half their lifetimes over an arbitrary and inconsiderate decision on the part of their partners.
The funny thing is that, the one thing that people I've met seem to crave the most is a kiss. A passionate, affectionate, skin-to-skin kiss. Not kinky sex. Not sleaze. Just a sexy, sensuous kiss. One wonders what would make them have to leave home to get that!!
..c..