Trouble finishing

[Lou Siffer]

I'm not really sure what I hope to get out of this thread. Not really looking for advice, though I'm sure I'll get some. I just find this interesting and curious, so I thought I'd share.

I recently had a couple of one hour visits with SPs where I was unable to get to completion. Although it didn't really bother me, the SPs seemed to be disappointed.

This isn't really a new thing for me. Historically, I have had some sexual encounters that have lasted hours without me coming. Those sessions were not with SPs and were really great but I think the girls were also disappointed that I didn't come. When this happens, I get very hard and can sustain vigorous intercourse for as long as I want, just can't get to the finish line.

Also, I should say that although I absolutely love getting BJs, I have never been able to get to completion from oral sex alone.

I'm not sure what causes this. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has had this kind of experience or any insight as to why this might happen.

 

[Aloha511]

Stop seeing trannys

 

[a 1 player]

Welcome to my world brother.

 

[stinkynuts]

I'm not really sure what I hope to get out of this thread. Not really looking for advice, though I'm sure I'll get some. I just find this interesting and curious, so I thought I'd share.

I recently had a couple of one hour visits with SPs where I was unable to get to completion. Although it didn't really bother me, the SPs seemed to be disappointed.

This isn't really a new thing for me. Historically, I have had some sexual encounters that have lasted hours without me coming. Those sessions were not with SPs and were really great but I think the girls were also disappointed that I didn't come. When this happens, I get very hard and can sustain vigorous intercourse for as long as I want, just can't get to the finish line.

Also, I should say that although I absolutely love getting BJs, I have never been able to get to completion from oral sex alone.

I'm not sure what causes this. I guess I'm wondering if anyone else has had this kind of experience or any insight as to why this might happen.

Are you able to cum within a reasonable time when you masturbate? How often do you have sex?

I have the same problem, and the reason behind it is that I'm simply used to finishing with my hand, so it takes a lot longer for me to cum when I'm with a woman. The solution is very simple, have the woman give you a handjob until you're about to cum. Then you can finish off with sex.

The other factor is the psychological pressure to cum, knowing that you probably won't. Try not to think about the finish line, but instead enjoy how it feels, and everything should fall into place.

 

[a 1 player]

Try not to think about the finish line, but instead enjoy how it feels, and everything should fall into place.

Races just aren't as much fun when you never cross the finish line.

 

[goodtime]

Are you able to cum within a reasonable time when you masturbate? How often do you have sex?

I have the same problem, and the reason behind it is that I'm simply used to finishing with my hand, so it takes a lot longer for me to cum when I'm with a woman. The solution is very simple, have the woman give you a handjob until you're about to cum. Then you can finish off with sex.

The other factor is the psychological pressure to cum, knowing that you probably won't. Try not to think about the finish line, but instead enjoy how it feels, and everything should fall into place.

Good advice.

MPAs often complain GT not focused or SOG before session.

 

[tboy]

Plus it could be the condoms you're using. I have heard sayings like: It is like taking a bath with your socks on and it does have an insulating effect.

As suggested, figure out if it takes you as long if you do the laundry by hand. If not, there's your answer.

 

[rick dickulous]

What about a Greek finish? Better be sure to cum though, no girl wants hours of pounding with no end in sight!

 

[elmufdvr]

Are you able to cum within a reasonable time when you masturbate? How often do you have sex?

I have the same problem, and the reason behind it is that I'm simply used to finishing with my hand, so it takes a lot longer for me to cum when I'm with a woman. The solution is very simple, have the woman give you a handjob until you're about to cum. Then you can finish off with sex.

The other factor is the psychological pressure to cum, knowing that you probably won't. Try not to think about the finish line, but instead enjoy how it feels, and everything should fall into place.

true here..i had the same... this is true... you need to relax and stop handling it so much... it took about six months for me to get off with my girlfriend.. at first i would have these 2-3-4 hour sessions with her. she would blow me and do this and that ..to get me off... i would have to take things in my own hand and bam . she would let me finish on her .... i could only finish in this manner but she did not let it bother her.... she would let me do my thing and slowly i got comfortable with her and now i enjoy finishing most times..
i wish you luck and relax ...

 

[Questor]

There are some interesting perspectives in the thread so far. While the problem is no doubt frustrating, it would seem to be infinitely better than the opposite problem, that of a premature finish. Imagine getting your lady all ready to go, putting condom on, sliding in and letting go just as you get in. Strange that masturbation is sometimes identified as the cause of both problems. I find that condoms sometimes reduce sensation and heat transfer enough to delay finish and make for a frustrating experience. Try ultra thin condoms. Or, since it sounds like you have a regular partner, get tested and try it without a condom, if that is an option.

 

[maurice93]

My recommendation is to recondition your penis to vaginal stimulation.

Wow, great advice How much does your hand charge you?

 

[Lou Siffer]

Hmmm, some interesting responses guys, thanks. And thanks to the SPs that responded via PM.

Some clarifications... this "problem" doesn't occur very often, maybe only 1 in every 20 outings or 2-3 times a year. So, I'm not too concerned about "fixing" it.

I don't think I masturbate too often, sometimes once a month, sometimes every 2 weeks. It depends on whether I'm getting laid or not. When I do masturbate, it usually doesn't take very long, because...(a) I haven't gotten laid in a while and (b) I know what I like.

Someone mentioned greek. This almost always does it for me quickly. Although, I did have one greek session with non-SP partner that just seemed to go forever.

I think I'm going to take note of the type of condoms, my personal energy level and any phsycological pressure if/when this occurs again.

 

[tboy]

ummm 2 - 3 times a year? DUDE, lol, why are you even bothering us with this? LOL. Really, sheesh, I thought you were talkin' like every time!

This isn't a problem, it's a SKILL!!!

 

[a 1 player]

2 or 3 times a year is great news. It happens to me almost EVERY TIME. Unfortunately, my problem is drug induced. Even before the drugs, I lasted a long time. Funny thing though. About 6 months ago I went off them, my GF made me pop in about 40 seconds. I couldn't tell if she was happy, disappointed or just plain shocked. I think a mixture of all three.

 

[alexmst]

Happened to me maybe twice in the last 5 years. Once at an MP when the MPA was too rough with Mr. Happy, and the other time with an SP where I was hard and going and going like the Energizer bunny but just couldn't reach the finish line and my back was starting to hurt and my arm muscles were starting to give out so I just faked the happy ending.

 

[smtmtd1]

I myself would have the complete opposite problem. The action starts I will start to get aroused (especially if there is a lot of DFK) she will go to BJ and some DATY and when the main event comes around the "I was in the pool" syndrome happens. May Dr. Know can shed some light. Or do I just go out and get the blue pill?

 

[homonger]

Interesting topic, and I tend to agree with many of the thoughts posted so far.

I am a lifelong practioner of regular spanking. I don't know what to tell you, it's something I discovered at a young age, and I still haven't gotten tired of it despite having gf's and having seen hundreds of sp's. To paraphrase a line from a once very popular TV show, it's just become part of my lifestyle.

Speaking from experience, I think it is very true, as many have already said, that your penis can grow accustomed to being "handled" in a certain way, and if you expose Jr. to other kinds of stimuli, he needs some adjustment time before he can respond accordingly. At one time I could never finish from oral, and even with anal, I needed an adjustment period. But once Jr. got used to these other forms of stimulation, he took to them like a duck to water.

I think the worst thing you can do is to overthink it. It doesn't sound like the original poster is obsessing over this, so that's good. I do believe that when you start thinking about coming, and how long it seems to be taking, you're just going to psych yourself out and it won't happen.

The last thing I'd throw out there is something I know happens to me sometimes. When I've had this "problem", I can usually pinpoint it to two or three reasons. Sometimes I do think it's all in my head. Sometimes I've just been really busy lately, and Jr. is tired. But most of the time when this happens, it's because I'm simply just not that into my partner.

I don't mean to sound mean, but let's face it, not every sp/hobbyist pairing is a match made in heaven. The attraction, the chemistry, or whatever--sometimes it just isn't there. I know this sounds a little strange, but I've actually kept records on the subject. I've assigned a rating to each sp I've seen in terms of how much I was liked her/was attracted to her. I then crossed that with whether or not I thought it was a successful session. If I am not that into her, my likelihood of not finishing is about 20x that vs. if I am into her. It seems obvious, I know.

 

[stinkynuts]

Hmmm, some interesting responses guys, thanks. And thanks to the SPs that responded via PM.

Some clarifications... this "problem" doesn't occur very often, maybe only 1 in every 20 outings or 2-3 times a year. So, I'm not too concerned about "fixing" it.

I don't think I masturbate too often, sometimes once a month, sometimes every 2 weeks. It depends on whether I'm getting laid or not. When I do masturbate, it usually doesn't take very long, because...(a) I haven't gotten laid in a while and (b) I know what I like.

Someone mentioned greek. This almost always does it for me quickly. Although, I did have one greek session with non-SP partner that just seemed to go forever.

I think I'm going to take note of the type of condoms, my personal energy level and any phsycological pressure if/when this occurs again.

Sheeesh.... 2 or 3 time per YEAR????

 

[loco2.0]

If I am not that into her, my likelihood of not finishing is about 20x that vs. if I am into her. It seems obvious, I know.

Mr Homonger, need I be the one to tell you full insertion of the penis is needed achieve a successful finish. If you are not in her, what do you expect?

 

[LKD]

stop wacking off too much