I guess at the start I thought you were a single mom struggling, the husband did kind of change things. However I don't know your whole situation so I shouldn't judge. Your mom shouldn't have told anyone, although I understand their dislike for the hubby.
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Sorry to hear of your distress GGirl. I would feel equally betrayed by your mother's actions. But you know her better than any of us. Did she do this in spite, or was she so upset that she needed to talk with those whose opinion she values the most?
Take some time. Breath deep. It may all turn out for the better as I am sure living a secret life is one of the big negatives of the business. It might be a case of short term pain for long term gain.
We don't know your personal history GGirl. Be true to yourself and who you are, not who your mother thinks you should be.
Good luck. Do something nice for yourself today. You deserve it.
Take some time. Breath deep. It may all turn out for the better as I am sure living a secret life is one of the big negatives of the business. It might be a case of short term pain for long term gain.
We don't know your personal history GGirl. Be true to yourself and who you are, not who your mother thinks you should be.
Good luck. Do something nice for yourself today. You deserve it.
G Girl check your private messages. ( UserCP at the red bar at the top of the page)
Hamster Inspector
Hamster Inspector
I am the sob-story shill hurtbag loser!!!!!
This is a fake plea, probably from some fake god boy.
It has all the right notes, the full recipe:
A person consumed with vice
a trespass
a deceit
a morality choice: him or us
the plea to public.
yet remains extremely generic.
The god crowd thrives on these scenarios. All publications feature the same story ad nauseum. There is a speaking circuit, motivational, all speakers faced some trying experience, turned to god, problem solved.
gggggirl, if your story is true, which it isn't, all apologies. When I was incarcerated in christian sytem I heard your same story every week for years: the born agains, athletes in action, etc.
Shill.
This is a fake plea, probably from some fake god boy.
It has all the right notes, the full recipe:
A person consumed with vice
a trespass
a deceit
a morality choice: him or us
the plea to public.
yet remains extremely generic.
The god crowd thrives on these scenarios. All publications feature the same story ad nauseum. There is a speaking circuit, motivational, all speakers faced some trying experience, turned to god, problem solved.
gggggirl, if your story is true, which it isn't, all apologies. When I was incarcerated in christian sytem I heard your same story every week for years: the born agains, athletes in action, etc.
Shill.
Sorry GGirl on your misfortune being outted in this way. As others mention things will work out in the end.
You ask how did she find out. Well with this widespread internet access to everyone in the world its easy to find things out. Try doing a Google search on your name (real name), cell phone #, address, birthday, email address, twitter, myspace, etc. and you might find something.
The key to being anonymous is having a separate email address and separate identity. If you used one of your real pieces of information it could link to your escorting.
Just so you know how easy it is I have done searches on some SPs names (looking for more pictures or reviews) and accidentally come accross a couple of their real names on dating sites. I personnally would never repeat this info because its their private info and respect ones privacy just as I do my own. The point is it goes to show how carefull you have to be with giving out info on the internet.
I wish you well with your situation working out the way you want.
GDL
You ask how did she find out. Well with this widespread internet access to everyone in the world its easy to find things out. Try doing a Google search on your name (real name), cell phone #, address, birthday, email address, twitter, myspace, etc. and you might find something.
The key to being anonymous is having a separate email address and separate identity. If you used one of your real pieces of information it could link to your escorting.
Just so you know how easy it is I have done searches on some SPs names (looking for more pictures or reviews) and accidentally come accross a couple of their real names on dating sites. I personnally would never repeat this info because its their private info and respect ones privacy just as I do my own. The point is it goes to show how carefull you have to be with giving out info on the internet.
I wish you well with your situation working out the way you want.
GDL
Although I do not know you or your husband, I would venture to guess that you must side with your husband. He is the one who is beside you for the long run and appears to be most supportive of you, no matter what. It is no ones' business what you and your husband think and do. Fark the judgemental ones, even if they are relatives. Your marriage is yours and your husband's.
my $.02 worth
Sorry this has happened to you. Although it does not feel like it now this too shall pass.
I agree mom went way over the line and until u find out why she did it is hard to understand her actions. Perhaps u never will depending on what mom eventually tells u.
I also agree that hubby knowing and condoning gives me the willies! (Excluding hubby/ wife in the business together.)
As written earlier, men are born with a need to provide.
I would be unable to encourage my SO to enter into this business regardless of our financial situation.
I would steal before my SO would sell herself.
Just my thoughts, right or wrong.
Take a few deep breaths, allow a few days to pass.
Most everyone at Terb will try to help (with the exception of one ass so far).
Sorry this has happened to you. Although it does not feel like it now this too shall pass.
I agree mom went way over the line and until u find out why she did it is hard to understand her actions. Perhaps u never will depending on what mom eventually tells u.
I also agree that hubby knowing and condoning gives me the willies! (Excluding hubby/ wife in the business together.)
As written earlier, men are born with a need to provide.
I would be unable to encourage my SO to enter into this business regardless of our financial situation.
I would steal before my SO would sell herself.
Just my thoughts, right or wrong.
Take a few deep breaths, allow a few days to pass.
Most everyone at Terb will try to help (with the exception of one ass so far).
I just wanted to point out that the decision, right or wrong, is hesr alone to make about leaving or staying with her husband. I do not condone any one else making her decisions for her. I also saw your later post and saw what you wrote, and agree with you totally, maybe for different reasons. I am sorry if I wrote anything that appears to have upset you.
You are right, it IS a bigger issue than just the marriage. But, who decides where their marriage goes?
CGirl, the decisions are yours and only yours to make. I think that no one would want to have the complications that have been placed on your shoulders. All the best to you, and I hope can turn out in such a way that you have peace and tranquility in your life and that of your immediate loved ones.
Why would sisters do that now at this age???? They're not little girls anymore. Does one want a bigger slice of the inheritance pie?
This traditional thinking does not apply any longer in the current economic realities IMO. Today, both partners have to provide for eachother and for themselves as individuals in case the partnership goes south.
Would you raise your daughter today and tell them to find a husband who provides for the family? Not in my vocab, hasn't been for a long time.
I love some the judgement coming from many of the posters here about this girl's decision to "sell herself" because she has a husband. "No wife of mine blah blah blah"
I find it pretty rich that you guys are on an escort review site presumably utilizing escorts.
As to how the mother found out, quite possibly the sister. Most of the time, someone rats you out.
I find it pretty rich that you guys are on an escort review site presumably utilizing escorts.
As to how the mother found out, quite possibly the sister. Most of the time, someone rats you out.
Unless any of the posters here have been in the situation, all your advice, assumptions and rational is useless. Sorry boys but that is the truth. And be warned this is a long post.
I am a woman who's family knew, but my mom didn't find out completely from me. After I retired as an escort myself and went on to running an agency, I told my mother about the agency. My mom was kinda okay with it at first. Then she found my personal escort site as it was also a member site and then she lost it. I had not removed the site as there was still some clients that I spoke to through my member section even though I didn't see them as clients anymore.
She planned a family intervention, and I found out about that from a member on this board. How he knew my mom, I still don't know. He just gave me the heads up. Weird I know. Waking up to a PM on TERB about an intervention my mother had planned. Can we say mind-fuck? I phoned my sister-in-law to confirm and then phoned my mom and told her that her plan for an intervention was not going to happen. This caused a whole shit storm.
My mom was upset because of all the obvious reasons, and I was upset because it now seemed like all I had accomplished in my personal live that she was so proud of meant nothing because of the means I used to do it. It finally came down to a couple of lessons that we both had to learn and I am only sorry it took us almost a year to learn it. It was a year we lost together.
The lesson - Loving someone unconditionally the way a parent and child should, means you accept them for who they are even if you can't support it. My mother never supported what I did, but she loved me. Also, if one is truly not ashamed of what they do, then there is no need to hide it at all. My mom was the last in my family to know, even my dad knew 5-6 years before my mom, but I would never really talk about it to anyone. That changed after that. I would say, sorry I need someone to cover the phones for that thing, or I can't do this because I have to be at a photo-shoot for one of my girls. I wouldn't go into detail out of respect but I wouldn't hide what I did. It was a job and I spoke about it like anyone else would with their job.
You have to decide for you why you are in this business. If you feel any shame at all, get out. Find another way. If you don't, then move on to the next step - Your husband and your kids. You deal with them next as that is the life you chose. If you are happy working and they are fine and supportive, then move on to the next which is your other family. You don't chose your husband over them, or them over your husband. If they chose to leave you, then that is there choice, but to you give you that ultimatum is wrong.
You have to be happy first. Nothing else matters. Who did what, who didn't do this. All pointless. You be happy first, then you make sure your husband and kids are happy. If you don't think that your husband is a good match anymore, that is something separate. Everyone here can say the husband is an ass, but we don't know him. We don't know you. Only you do.
All I can say is that GOD - and yes I believe in him - has given you a very rare opportunity here. And of course with every blessing comes a curse. Your curses, everyone knows but the blessing - you can't go anywhere but up from here. You have an open blank canvass that you can paint in anyway you want. How many of us do what we actually want to do? I know I do and that pisses alot of people off here and even IRL, but I am happy. I wake up every day and do what I want that day. That includes the responsibilities I have. I have them because I want them. That includes the fun I have, the money I make, the money I spend. Who I am with, who I am not. It is all what I want.
Now of course there are things that happen that I don't want, but I can't control those. I didn't want my mom to die, but I did want us to have a certain type of relationship when she did and we had that. I didn't have to give up my life and she didn't have to support it, but was I there when she left this world? You are damn right I was. And did she love me more than anything, yes - of course she did. It was me who took care of her for months when she was dying. And yes I said months. We were together everyday for months. I didn't work at the time. I had quit the business long before for my own reasons and was not even working my mainstream job. My only job at that time was her. I even moved into her house at the end while my kids moved to their father's house. It was what I wanted to do. She died peacefully in her sleep at home like she wanted, and I was able to give that to her. Mostly because of all the money I saved up while working in this business. Was able to pay about 6 months worth of living expense without an active income. Many in my family were so thankful and grateful that one of us was able to do it. I didn't care about that. I only cared about my mom and giving her everything she wanted in the end. To make up for time we missed and we did that. Now that she is gone, I have many many happy memories that take over that one year we had apart.
Now normally I am not this serious, and I don't share very personal stories like I just shared with the all of you but it shows that with love, anything is truly possible. Love for yourself and love for those in your life.
So what matters to you GG? What do you want? Answer that for yourself and then make your choice of how to get it.
Good luck, and my PM box is open to you, should you need it.
I am a woman who's family knew, but my mom didn't find out completely from me. After I retired as an escort myself and went on to running an agency, I told my mother about the agency. My mom was kinda okay with it at first. Then she found my personal escort site as it was also a member site and then she lost it. I had not removed the site as there was still some clients that I spoke to through my member section even though I didn't see them as clients anymore.
She planned a family intervention, and I found out about that from a member on this board. How he knew my mom, I still don't know. He just gave me the heads up. Weird I know. Waking up to a PM on TERB about an intervention my mother had planned. Can we say mind-fuck? I phoned my sister-in-law to confirm and then phoned my mom and told her that her plan for an intervention was not going to happen. This caused a whole shit storm.
My mom was upset because of all the obvious reasons, and I was upset because it now seemed like all I had accomplished in my personal live that she was so proud of meant nothing because of the means I used to do it. It finally came down to a couple of lessons that we both had to learn and I am only sorry it took us almost a year to learn it. It was a year we lost together.
The lesson - Loving someone unconditionally the way a parent and child should, means you accept them for who they are even if you can't support it. My mother never supported what I did, but she loved me. Also, if one is truly not ashamed of what they do, then there is no need to hide it at all. My mom was the last in my family to know, even my dad knew 5-6 years before my mom, but I would never really talk about it to anyone. That changed after that. I would say, sorry I need someone to cover the phones for that thing, or I can't do this because I have to be at a photo-shoot for one of my girls. I wouldn't go into detail out of respect but I wouldn't hide what I did. It was a job and I spoke about it like anyone else would with their job.
You have to decide for you why you are in this business. If you feel any shame at all, get out. Find another way. If you don't, then move on to the next step - Your husband and your kids. You deal with them next as that is the life you chose. If you are happy working and they are fine and supportive, then move on to the next which is your other family. You don't chose your husband over them, or them over your husband. If they chose to leave you, then that is there choice, but to you give you that ultimatum is wrong.
You have to be happy first. Nothing else matters. Who did what, who didn't do this. All pointless. You be happy first, then you make sure your husband and kids are happy. If you don't think that your husband is a good match anymore, that is something separate. Everyone here can say the husband is an ass, but we don't know him. We don't know you. Only you do.
All I can say is that GOD - and yes I believe in him - has given you a very rare opportunity here. And of course with every blessing comes a curse. Your curses, everyone knows but the blessing - you can't go anywhere but up from here. You have an open blank canvass that you can paint in anyway you want. How many of us do what we actually want to do? I know I do and that pisses alot of people off here and even IRL, but I am happy. I wake up every day and do what I want that day. That includes the responsibilities I have. I have them because I want them. That includes the fun I have, the money I make, the money I spend. Who I am with, who I am not. It is all what I want.
Now of course there are things that happen that I don't want, but I can't control those. I didn't want my mom to die, but I did want us to have a certain type of relationship when she did and we had that. I didn't have to give up my life and she didn't have to support it, but was I there when she left this world? You are damn right I was. And did she love me more than anything, yes - of course she did. It was me who took care of her for months when she was dying. And yes I said months. We were together everyday for months. I didn't work at the time. I had quit the business long before for my own reasons and was not even working my mainstream job. My only job at that time was her. I even moved into her house at the end while my kids moved to their father's house. It was what I wanted to do. She died peacefully in her sleep at home like she wanted, and I was able to give that to her. Mostly because of all the money I saved up while working in this business. Was able to pay about 6 months worth of living expense without an active income. Many in my family were so thankful and grateful that one of us was able to do it. I didn't care about that. I only cared about my mom and giving her everything she wanted in the end. To make up for time we missed and we did that. Now that she is gone, I have many many happy memories that take over that one year we had apart.
Now normally I am not this serious, and I don't share very personal stories like I just shared with the all of you but it shows that with love, anything is truly possible. Love for yourself and love for those in your life.
So what matters to you GG? What do you want? Answer that for yourself and then make your choice of how to get it.
Good luck, and my PM box is open to you, should you need it.
Yes. My older sister do this to me and i dont talk to her no more. it is a way for her to feel more important and get attention. She was always drama queen. Her and my mother have alway been attached at hip and she was a bitch to me since i was born. Not to mention they all know about it for week and use me to come to my house for holiday. it wasnt until my brother in law give me head up about situation and then i confront them and tell them to all get out of my house on thanksgiving. We talk about it afterward but then didnt talk to them for one year. I still talk to them from time to time but it many other issue i have with my mother and sister and how they treat me from the past that make me not want to have any dealing with them no more. I just never got along with either of them.Why would sisters do that now at this age???? They're not little girls anymore. Does one want a bigger slice of the inheritance pie?
Ggirl, i hate to say it but your mother and family will never look at you same way anymore. take some time to lay low and do what is best for your and your family. I would be very careful in what to say to your daughter. She is at critical age where she could take wrong path in life or think you will approve if she want to be escort. Depending on how cruel your mother could be I dont think she will tell your daughter. Probably best for you and your own family to keep distance from them. Tell your mother one thing that you do not want your daughter to find out. This could be so detrimental to her. Some thing are better leave unsaid. If you mother still love and care about you she wont.
We all do this business for reason. At the end of the day it is first about money or situation that deal with money, second about how fast you can make it, and third having some fun and hopefully meet some decent client. If you have no issue with this business, do what you need to do. Nobody is going to be there to give handout. Sometime not even your family no matter how dire situation is. Most people do thing like this or go to adult entertainment business for reason... it not about getting next fix or sex addiction.
And to the ignorant people here who judge about SP personal life, at least her husband know about this and I doubt he is pushing it on her. It sound like she in financial jam and sometime people do what they have to do short of steal or rob. And the bullshit about I wouldnt let my wife be SP or it is man job to provide for wife??Sorry this is bunch of archaic crap. Imo or least the world i grow up in husband and wife are equal and both contributer to marriage for finance. I cant believe the hypocrite here with there judgement and "ethic". Ethic on a hooker review board? Give me fing break! At least this woman can say her husband know what is going on unlike majority of you here. Anyone looking in here on this board could say you all fuck around on your wife, use money you could be give to your family to SP and then maybe go home and fuck wife without her know anything. I dont use judgement statement like this because I am SP and wont go there. Anyone else would say otherwise. How would you like to be judge for hobbying? Im sure it wouldnt go over well. So before you decide to judge think about this... think if your wife and family were to find out about YOUR "secret life". How would you feel?
Good luck Ggirl. Thing will blow over after while and I would concentrate on your and your immediate family ( husband and daughter). This is the most important since it sound like they support you. The rest of your family will come around but it will take time. Remember they are dealing with certain thing they have never deal with or know nothing about like the world of escort. Be sympathetic to their shock but also ask that they have some sort of understanding as to why you got into this situation. It wont be easy and you will find yourself doubting yourself, your moral, your self esteem and character. As long as you can look yourself in mirror and justify to yourself what you are doing and why then it is no one elses business. My thought are with you.
