Too Much For An E-mail??

[drlove]

Ok... so I've been chatting with this girl from POF for the past two months - basically just your run of the mill small talk / what's going on etc.. Anyway, I decided to ask some different types of questions such as what is she looking for in a relationship, how would she describe her personality, what are some values/beliefs that are important to her etc.. All I wanted to accomplish by doing this was to gain some insight to her as a person.

She wrote back saying that she thought it was heavy stuff for an e-mail, and that while she would answer some things, she would save the rest for when we meet in person. She's on vacation right now, but wants to get together when she returns. I know chatting online for two months about nothing seems excessive. However, she is a nice woman by what I can tell, and says she's interested. I usually pay particular attention to cadence, which means I let her progress at her own pace. I know it's been awhile, but if I'm patient just a bit longer, I'm sure it will pay off. In any case, I don't think my line of questioning was by any means inappropriate. Hell, with other girls, I usually ask those types of questions within the first week!

 

[Terminator2000]

This thread is useless without pics

 

[tboy]

Dr L: IMO if a woman wants to chat online for 2 months before meeting in person, that means she's hiding something and you shouldn't get your hopes up. I met literally hundreds of women online and without fail, the ones that wanted to meet right away, were exactly as they described themselves.

The one's that dragged it on were nothing like their online persona.

Now if she lived a long ways away, that could be the reason but IME that too didn't fly. I met some as far away as California and Denver and they too were totally different than their profiles if they dragged it out.....

If I were you I'd set up a date for the week of her return. If she refuses for whatever BS reason, move on.

 

[MuffinMuncher]

I dont think she suggested that anything in your note was inappropriate, just that she was more comfortable addressing some subjects in person. To be fair, to adaquately explain ones belief structure, without the risk of being misunderstood or misinterpretted, it IS probably more than can be answered in an email.

Dont read so much into it.

 

[JD75]

The real question is:

Does she know you've got a PhD in Pussyology??

 

[drlove]

Dr L: IMO if a woman wants to chat online for 2 months before meeting in person, that means she's hiding something and you shouldn't get your hopes up. I met literally hundreds of women online and without fail, the ones that wanted to meet right away, were exactly as they described themselves.

The one's that dragged it on were nothing like their online persona.

Now if she lived a long ways away, that could be the reason but IME that too didn't fly. I met some as far away as California and Denver and they too were totally different than their profiles if they dragged it out.....

If I were you I'd set up a date for the week of her return. If she refuses for whatever BS reason, move on.

I think you're probably right. In her defense, she has been busy wrking on her master's degree this summer. However, I'd prefer to meet someone sooner as opposed to later. She sent me her pic, and she's defintely hot but we'll see how it plays out...

 

[jwmorrice]

I think you're probably right. In her defense, she has been busy wrking on her master's degree this summer. However, I'd prefer to meet someone sooner as opposed to later. She sent me her pic, and she's defintely hot but we'll see how it plays out...

Well, she sent you a hot pic. And after two months, it's fair to guess her master's isn't in cockology.

jwm

 

[squash500]

Does she know you've got a PhD in Pussyology??

I wonder what university Dr Love got his degree from?

 

[Terminator2000]

DrLove, just loan us the link to your plentyoffish profile -

we, as fellow terbites will write shining testimonies on it - to make you look better and sway her opinion of you - so that you'll win a date with her.

My testimony will be: He's not the kind of guy to even think about partaking in any intimate encounters on this site. That's how good a guy he is!

 

[Centro]

Ask her if she is:

GFE?

IN/OUT?

NRP?

 

[Terminator2000]

Ask her if she is:

GFE?

IN/OUT?

NRP?

GREEK?

 

[tboy]

I think you're probably right. In her defense, she has been busy wrking on her master's degree this summer. However, I'd prefer to meet someone sooner as opposed to later. She sent me her pic, and she's defintely hot but we'll see how it plays out...

LOL dude, please, the ONLY way I would accept a pic verbatim is if she was holding up today's newspaper or wore something I specifically told her to wear.

I'll tell you a little story:

I was chatting up this "hottie" online who lived in FLA. She had a pic posted in her profile (hot). I asked for a couple more pics, she sent them. She asked if I wanted to see some pics of her trip to cancun? I said hell ya. She sent me pics of her and some friends on the beach, in front of a bar that said "cancun, mexico" underneath, she even sent me pics of her playing with her Rottweiller dog.

So I'm pretty well convinced she's a hottie right? Well, let me tell you: when I went down to meet her in FLA, booked the flight, hotel, rental car, etc etc (about 2 grand worth) she "suddenly" wouldn't return my calls.

Fortunately for me I remembered her address so I popped on over to see what was what.

Well, I know the camera adds 10 pounds but I couldn't figure out why she was walking around with 10 cameras on her.....she was EASILY 240 lbs (105 in the pics), It obviously wasn't her in the pictures she sent me, she copied them from another girl's profile. Even the story about cancun was BS, the girl who she stole the pics from had written in her profile about her trip.

So, you're convenced after ONE pic? *rollseyes*...good luck to you! lol

 

[Terminator2000]

And then girls condemn guys when they lie about their height.

as if they're all innocent.

 

[Questor]

Ok... so I've been chatting with this girl from POF for the past two months - basically just your run of the mill small talk / what's going on etc.. Anyway, I decided to ask some different types of questions such as what is she looking for in a relationship, how would she describe her personality, what are some values/beliefs that are important to her etc.. All I wanted to accomplish by doing this was to gain some insight to her as a person.

She is well within her rights to wait for a face-to-face to disclose that kind of information. And if you want to chat with someone for 2 months, go for it. She doesn't have time because she is writing her master's degree? I'd move on. She's hiding something. Since you've already invested the 2 months, I'd give her a week after she returns from vacation. Sure, she could be a dream come true. But you got to play the odds. And the odds aren't good. But then, that's just my take on it. You may see it the same way once you've done it a few times and wasted time and expectations. Or maybe you just like to email people.

 

[Terminator2000]

She is well within her rights to wait for a face-to-face to disclose that kind of information. And if you want to chat with someone for 2 months, go for it. She doesn't have time because she is writing her master's degree? I'd move on. She's hiding something. Since you've already invested the 2 months, I'd give her a week after she returns from vacation. Sure, she could be a dream come true. But you got to play the odds. And the odds aren't good. But then, that's just my take on it. You may see it the same way once you've done it a few times and wasted time and expectations. Or maybe you just like to email people.

Ouch...

 

[Questor]

Ouch...

LOL....I'm not sure why you respond like that. I don't think I was being critical or inflicting pain. Just giving my own take on the situation. Dr L. may see it differently and if that is the case, his point of view is at least as valid as mine. Or perhaps more valid, since it is he that is living the situation described.