This may seem provocative but...

Being alone is a choice and it's not about finding the "right" person...it's about being the "right" person.
 
Compromised said:
The past week or so has been Christmas Party season, and I've gone to every party stag, and left with someone. I'm surprised at the number of 30 something women that are going through the divorce process and are in the market for someone my age. All of them were "career" women that put careers before family, and have no kids.

I think this 'career woman' thing is becoming more commonplace. Historically most women my age would be married with kids. However, I think the rate today is only about 50% because women want to have an independent life, pursue a career, and so on. It'll all work out in the end.
 
By the way, I think you're wrong. I think it comes down to what you're willing to be content with. I believe that virtually everybody can find a mate but clearly you're not going to settle for any type of woman. You want one that you're attracted to and will put up with your shit no questions asked. You have to be willing to change yourself and not be so stringent in what you want. Personally, I'm not prepared to settle for just anybody.

It's the same for women, and it generally changes with age. The following is a joke, but at the core, it's also the truth:

What I Want In A Man, Original List ... (at age 22)
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1. Handsome
2. Charming
3. Financially Successful
4. A Caring Listener
5. Witty
6. In Good Shape
7. Dresses with Style
8. Appreciates the Finer Things
9. Full of Thoughtful Surprises
10. An Imaginative, Romantic Lover

What I Want In A Man, Revised List ... (at age 32)
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1. Nice Looking - preferably with hair on his head
2. Opens car doors, holds chairs
3. Has enough money for a nice dinner at restaurant
4. Listens more than he talks
5. Laughs at my jokes at appropriate times
6. Can carry in all the groceries with ease
7. Owns at least one tie
8. Appreciates a good home cooked meal
9. Remembers Birthdays and Anniversaries
10. Seeks romance at least once a week

What I Want In A Man, Revised List ... (at age 42)
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1. Not too ugly - bald head OK
2. Doesn't drive off until I'm in the car
3. Works steady - splurges on dinner at McDonalds on occasion
4. Nods head at appropriate times when I'm talking
5. Usually remembers the punchlines of jokes
6. Is in good enough shape to rearrange the furniture
7. Usually wears shirt that covers stomach
8. Knows not to buy champagne with screw-top lids
9. Remembers to put the toilet seat lid down
10. Shaves on most weekends

What I Want In A Man, Revised List ... (at age 52)
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1. Keeps hair in nose and ears trimmed to appropriate length
2. Doesn't belch or scratch in public
3. Doesn't borrow money too often
4. Doesn't nod off to sleep while I'm emoting
5. Doesn't re-tell same joke too many times
6. Is in good enough shape to get off couch on Weekends
7. Usually wears matching socks and fresh underwear
8. Appreciates a good TV Dinner
9. Remembers your name on occasion
10. Shaves on some weekends

What I Want In A Man, Revised List ... (at age 62)
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1. Doesn't scare small children
2. Remembers where bathroom is
3. Doesn't require much money for upkeep
4. Only snores lightly when awake (LOUDLY when asleep)
5. Doesn't forgets why he's laughing
6. Is in good enough shape to stand up by himself
7. Usually wears some clothes
8. Likes soft foods
9. Remembers where he left his teeth
10. Remembers when...

What I Want In A Man, Revised List ... (at age 72)
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1. Breathing
 
koxinga said:
you must be joking! take a look around markham or richmond hill and check out the rides for some of the asian girls. if you understand chinese check out the themes of all the imported tv shows straight from hk. totally ingrained into the culture as it gets the girls to think that they can act the same way as those bitches on those shows

on the other hand, you are probably right. how should i put it gently; the hoops that a fair number of asian girls make white guys jump thru are a lot fewer

Couldn't say it better myself...

The world is flat when it comes to dating Asian girls, ranging FOBs from the mainland, HK or Taiwan to CBCs/bananas. Many of them are pretty high maintenance/practising JAPS lifestyle comparable to the same White hotties.
 
For many people, as they age, they begin to find more and more people attractive. It's they who have changed, not the looks of the people around them. I remember a comedian expressing this and how he remembered how when he was a teenager, he found nothing attractive about a middle aged woman. Now that he's middle aged, they look amazing to him.

Often as one comes to realize that what they want is moving further out of reach, one is willing to settle for less and less.

This may or may not be you.
 
Well, it appears this thread has certainly brought out a considerable number of interesting responses. As 2009 has dawned and I have had time to think about my original post, I would like to make 3 observations:

(1) My original opinion has not changed; I still believe that certain people are destined to be forever alone.

(2) There is far more to happiness and fulfillment than in seeking or finding that "special someone". Having a fulfilling job, having friends and family who care about you, having personal interests and hobbies, working for a better world through volunteering, learning new things, all of these things can contribute to a full life.

(3) The more a person as if he/she "needs" to be in a relationship, the less likely he/she will be in a loving, caring, fulfilling relationship (this is something I have observed with a certain relative of mine).

It's a shame that no SPs replied to this thread; I would like have to heard from their unique perspectives.

On this note, I hope to end this thread, and look forward to an interesting 2009!

Samurai Joey