The smartest SP
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And I think that you confuse "being annoyed" with over reacting.seaniam said:
Of course clients who ask me what a smart girl like me is doing in this business mean it as a compliment. I get that. But it doesn't mean that hiding underneath my smile in response to their clumsy attempt at flattery I can't be annoyed, or that I have no good reason of being annoyed at the assumptions underlying their "compliment". Especially when said "compliment" is a common occurrence in my life.
I hear what you're saying Gen, but it is a legitimate question. I asked the same of someone who worked in the service industry. She was a smart, engaging young lady who had so much more to offer than what her job paid, both in salary and personal challenge.
I framed it as such, along with asking if it was just a temporary means to an end because of other pursuits and said that I meant no disrespect - in fact the opposite, as it was obvious that this person was working well below her capabilities (and pay potential.)
We then had a great discussion on her personal life, career aspirations, etc. Sad thing was (for me, because I found her attractive), she's a lesbian. We still chat all the time and are on very friendly (not quite full-on "friend" - it's only been 6 weeks or so) terms.
I guess my point is perhaps it's just in how the question/statement is framed?
I framed it as such, along with asking if it was just a temporary means to an end because of other pursuits and said that I meant no disrespect - in fact the opposite, as it was obvious that this person was working well below her capabilities (and pay potential.)
We then had a great discussion on her personal life, career aspirations, etc. Sad thing was (for me, because I found her attractive), she's a lesbian. We still chat all the time and are on very friendly (not quite full-on "friend" - it's only been 6 weeks or so) terms.
I guess my point is perhaps it's just in how the question/statement is framed?
Caveman said:
I'm aware of at least two doctors out there who funded med school by working in this industry.
genintoronto said:
Thank goodness I didn't make that mistake (LOL) . But then I have never asked an SP "what's a smart girl like you doing in this business " . In fact the smart ones make a very good living for a relatively minimal amount of effort . If anything I'm more likely to say "I'm so jealous. " Hmmm that would probably illicit the " this ain't that easy you know " response . Somedays you just can't win (LOL) .
I hear what you're saying here, and yes I think often this is where the question is coming from, in addition to being some sort of clumsy attempt at complimenting me.Captain Fantastic said:
But I think that what annoys me in that question are the assumptions behind it: which is that sex work is work for dummies; that sex work is something that only women with no other skills/talents/knowledges than sucking cock and spreading their legs would do (with the corollary that anyone could do sex work); that sex work can't be interesting and challenging work; that there's something wrong about sex work; that I'm not doing anything else with my life.
I've had many other jobs to pay for school before entering into the sex industry, most low paid, less than challenging and fulfilling jobs. However, I've never had people regularly asking me what a smart girl like me is doing waiting tables.
Just to be clear: I don't cut off my clients' head when they ask me this question, and most of the time, I even manage to smile and reply to their question without even an hint of sarcasm.
I know and understand where the question is coming from, and I have other battles to fight then lecturing those clients on the problematic assumptions informing their question. But yes, the question annoys me. One among the many things in life that annoy me.
Heh heh. Funnily enough, a few days after meeting you, I stumble upon the thread you started in the lounge about SPs asking clients to take care of "business" before the client is given a chance to do it more subtly, and I thought the same thing: "thank goodness I didn't make that mistake".smylee52 said:
On the other topic: I usually reply to that question by saying "if you could get paid to get laid, wouldn't you do it too?". That usually does the trick.
genintoronto said:
Interesting that this was brought up. It is something that I have thought long and hard about over many years. Even if I were the type of man that a woman would be interested in paying for, I still don't think that I would be able to do it. It has nothing to do with my moral values, I just honestly don't think that I would be able to fake enjoyment enough in many instances if I were not attracted to the person.
***there goes one more career choice***
alphanig said:
If there is something I really don't want to do, there is no amount of money than can make me change my mind. Not all people can be bought or sold, despite what some think. There are many things in life more important to me than money, Actually, money is one of the least important things on my priority list. A value, virtue, integrity, or whatever you want to call it is worthless if it is liquid.
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