The Ask-A-Hooker Thread

[drunkmunky]

Thank all ladies for their comments in this hell of a questioneer thread.

I'd like to make an inquiry of my own. I would like to think that I go to SP's to not only enjoy myself, but to improve some of my own skills.

Do you think that guys like me get a better chance to know our own bodies, as well as how to work with you ladies? Is SP'ing a good way of doing this? I know there is a performance element to what you do, but at the same time, I, Honestly, Enjoy time with an SP to know that I may improve my skills as well.

I'm 24 btw.

 

[Rockslinger]

But when I started doing incalls, I did sense a slight but significant enough change in the dynamic of my dates

This is interesting. Are you saying that incall guests give you a "warmer" sense of security than outcall gents?

 

[Kyra.Graves]

(Someone which I'm too lazy now to google has written a book on this: how women should listen to their fear, even when it sounds irrational, because listening to that irrational voice is often what saves us (human beings, women included) from danger. Or put differently, when you become too complacent in your safety and security, you stop paying attention to those little details that would tell you that something is not quite right.)

http://www.amazon.ca/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0440226198

For the gals, if they haven't read the book they should - in this industry I think it should be required reading.

 

[Cycleguy007]

This thread is further proof of why:

 

[genintoronto]

Thank all ladies for their comments in this hell of a questioneer thread.

I'd like to make an inquiry of my own. I would like to think that I go to SP's to not only enjoy myself, but to improve some of my own skills.

Do you think that guys like me get a better chance to know our own bodies, as well as how to work with you ladies? Is SP'ing a good way of doing this? I know there is a performance element to what you do, but at the same time, I, Honestly, Enjoy time with an SP to know that I may improve my skills as well.

I'm 24 btw.

I'm not convinced that SPs are in the best position to 'teach' skills. Women are all different and all that, but it's a tough one to tell a client that his kissing skills could use some improvement for instance. Guys pay you to give them a good time and make them feel good about themselves: telling them, even sensibly, that they suck at kissing is not exactly the best way to achieve this.

That being said, I think it may help in giving you confidence around women. When you know you can spend an awesome time with a beautiful woman catering to your needs and desires if you so choose, I guess it makes it easier to interact with and approach women you find interesting. I know my own confidence and body self-image has improved since starting in this business.

I think you can also certainly learn more about yourself and your desires (and how to address them) by seeing SPs. I've taught quite a few guys a few things about their dicks, how to take care of it, how to play with it, and how their dick is not, contrary to popular belief, the end-all-be-all of sex. I think I've talked a lot with clients about desires, how to communicate them, how to engage in them in a safe, sain, and consentual way, etc., which can also be seen as a 'learning' experience.

Many guys also see sex-workers (escorts, pro-SM, MPAs) to explore or indulge their fetishes (if they can't get it elsewhere or are too embarassed/shy to communicate them), or just as a learning resources. In this case, I do think it can be a good learning venue, as you can expect the sex workers who offer those services to have a good knowledge and professional skills of the do's and dont's of those fetish/SM play that you can't necessarily expect from the 'civilian' women you meet.

 

[Rockslinger]

or just as a learning resources.

It is a great way to get to know the female anatomy and how it reacts to certain actions on the male's part. For example, have you ever tickled the sole of a woman's feet ?

 

[amber-jade]

This thread is further proof of why:

WHAT A SWEET GUY...no bike to speak of, but a sweety non the less
my new sig-pic , just or you : ))
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[Cycleguy007]

WHAT A SWEET GUY...no bike to speak of, but a sweety non the less
my new sig-pic , just or you : ))
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Awww, gee, thanks Amber... I call `em as I see `em! Excellent new sig pic too BTW!

(And actually I picked up my new bike last night!)

https://terb.cc/vbulletin/showpost.php?p=2586642&postcount=72

 

[genintoronto]

http://www.amazon.ca/Gift-Fear-Gavin-Becker/dp/0440226198

For the gals, if they haven't read the book they should - in this industry I think it should be required reading.

Yes, the Gift of Fear, that the one.

This is interesting. Are you saying that incall guests give you a "warmer" sense of security than outcall gents?

No. I mean that since I'm the host, I feel more like we are playing on 'my' territory, and therefore, I get a stronger feeling of control (and therefore comfort). Just being able to see the client before he sees me (and as such, avoiding meeting with someone I know from my civilian life) makes a significant difference for me.

Similarly, when I was doing outcalls, I always prefered hotels to residences, mostly because I felt that the client and I were more on an 'equal footing' by both being on stranger territory, than when I was visiting a client in his own place.

Or similarly again, when I start dating someone new and the point comes where we invite each other to our respective place, I always prefer to be the first to host: that control thing again.

 

[Rockslinger]

I mean that since I'm the host, I feel more like we are playing on 'my' territory, and therefore, I get a stronger feeling of control

Ignoring the "home court" advantage for a moment, do you see a difference in the incall males versus the outcall males. Is one older, better dressed, more educated, racial differences, better tipper, better performer, more sane, more intelligent, taller, bigger "down there" , more demanding, better sense of humour, etc.?

 

[IndianDude]

What's the most number of men you have been with at one time? Personal or business.
on the flip side what's the most number of women you have been with at one time?

 

[rama putri]

My questions:

PC or Mac?
Pepsi or Coke?
Digital or Film?
Rogers or Bell?
Coffee or Tea?
Swiss Chalet or Harvey's?
Beer or Wine?
Real or Fake?
BlackBerry or iPhone?
Doggy, Mish, Cowgirl, Reverse, Spoon, 69, or what?
Incall or Outcall?
Innie or Outie?
CIM or not?
Dog or Cat lover?
White Meat or Dark Meat or Tofu?
Religious or Spiritual?
Yahoo! or Gmail or Hotmail/Live?
Labels or No Names or Knock Offs?
Generic Drugs or Brand Name Drugs?
Creation or Evolution?
Liberal or Conservative?
Butter or Margarine?
Sugar or Artificial Sweetener?
McAfee or Norton or Freeware/Shareware?
Homebody or Partygirl?
Agency or Indie?
Now or Eye?
Urban or Suburbs?
Left Brain or Right Brain?
Safe or GFE or PSE?

 

[David Beckham 23]

Sorry if this has been asked before.

Family and friends know? If yes, what do they think. If no, what do they think you do?

 

[antaeus]

there's really only two questions that have stuck with me from the beginning, decade+ ago to several years when I quit.

The philosophical, how do you girls do it, to which I don't need an answer.

And the gynacological: lube. Yes/no, when, where, how, types, good, bad, accidents, colours, flavours, practical jokes on coworkers?

Does the agency have a tub of lube brought up to the suite by a bellhop, or lubehop, for a healthy tip of course. Bring your own?

One time only, a woman slathered lube on herself for oral, but even before start and during. I was reticent,because I have aversion to ingesting any manufactured food, but she recommended it and it was flavoured, of what I forget.

 

[foxwilly]

Ice can be a very interesting addition to a blowjob as well. Just sayin'

I had a girl with great oral skills try this on me! Meh, I found the cold took some of the stiff out of my stiffy! I preffered just her natural talent. no ice needed.

 

[amber-jade]

My questions:

PC or Mac?
--pc
Pepsi or Coke?
--diet coke
Digital or Film?
--digital
Rogers or Bell?
-- rogers
Coffee or Tea?
-- coffee
Swiss Chalet or Harvey's?
--swiss chalet
Beer or Wine?
--wine
Real or Fake?
--real
BlackBerry or iPhone?
--phone
Doggy, Mish, Cowgirl, Reverse, Spoon, 69, or what?--
doggy 2nd to giving bj
Incall or Outcall?
--yes
Innie or Outie?
-- innie
CIM or not?
--
Dog or Cat lover?
--both
White Meat or Dark Meat or Tofu?
-- dark
Religious or Spiritual?
-- neither
Yahoo! or Gmail or Hotmail/Live?
-- all
Labels or No Names or Knock Offs?
-- all
Generic Drugs or Brand Name Drugs?
-- what my plan covers
Creation or Evolution?
-- n/a
Liberal or Conservative?
-- anarchist
Butter or Margarine?
--butter
Sugar or Artificial Sweetener?
-- black
McAfee or Norton or Freeware/Shareware?
-- a.v.g
Homebody or Partygirl?
-- homebody ( stop laughing, it's true )
Agency or Indie?
--indie
Now or Eye?
-- no & no
Urban or Suburbs?
--lived in both
Left Brain or Right Brain?
--right brain
Safe or GFE or PSE?
-- WSE(wild sexual experiences)

....

 

[amber-jade]

What's the most number of men you have been with at one time? Personal or business.
on the flip side what's the most number of women you have been with at one time?

a look in my photo galllery will answer that

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[toughb]

....

I'm in love...

 

[Kyra.Graves]

And the gynacological: lube. Yes/no, when, where, how, types, good, bad, accidents, colours, flavours, practical jokes on coworkers?

Does the agency have a tub of lube brought up to the suite by a bellhop, or lubehop, for a healthy tip of course. Bring your own?

One time only, a woman slathered lube on herself for oral, but even before start and during. I was reticent,because I have aversion to ingesting any manufactured food, but she recommended it and it was flavoured, of what I forget.

In regards to lube, I generally prefer to go without however it's not always possible. Often during allergy season, at different times in my cycle, and if I've been put on certain medications (if it causes dry mouth it'll often dry you out elsewhere too) there is nothing a guy can do to overcome the physical factors involved, so don't take it personally if a girl needs lube.

That being said I always use my own and all the girls I've worked with bring their own. With duo partners we usually compare both condoms and lube in advance and see if either girl has a sensitivity or preference to ensure that we're both comfortable with the selection we are using.

I prefer to have at a minimum 2 kinds available and ideally 3.
I always have a basic waterbased glycerin free lubricant on hand which will work for just about anything and is a good all around lube. This is my standard brand, goes on thick and works for just about anything including anal (I'm a giver not a reciever boys, so don't bother asking) and it's condom safe.
http://www.comeasyouare.com/index.cfm?fa=Catalog.Product&ProductId=832

I also like to have a silicone lube, they are provide a much better and more natural feel than water based lubes and are condom safe however they are not safe for silicone toys so I only use them when I know I won't be using any. This is my personal favorite, it is very thin but silky in feel and lasts forever without that sticky residue that you can get with waterbased lubes. It's also my favorite for mutual masterbation scenes, with a silicone based lube a guy rarely has to stop to get more as it doesn't get sticky.
http://www.comeasyouare.com/index.cfm?fa=Catalog.Product&ProductId=2224

For a third option I do like to have a warming lube available for an added enhancement. My current favorite will actually feel cold at times and warm at others so for me that's part of the fun. Sorry no link on that one.

I rarely use flavoured lubes and if I do it's also a warming lube, typically the pillow packs that I'll pick up for a little variety. I use them only for oral sex on my partner as they contain a fair amount of sugar and I don't want that on or inside me.
http://www.comeasyouare.com/index.cfm?fa=Catalog.Product&ProductId=1935

Oh and I haven't tried these yet but I did pick them up, and since I kind of turned this into a lube review it's a neat little product I thought I'd point them out with the mention that I'm hopeful to try them out soon!
http://www.comeasyouare.com/index.cfm?fa=Catalog.Product&ProductId=1910

 

[marikiss]

Seen questions about what clients ask you to wear, but what kinds of things do you like to dress up in to excite you?

dresses or mini skirts, bras, bustiers, or corsets. teddies or babydolls, fishnets or sheer stockings. boots or shoes, standard heels or platforms. satin or lace, leather or latex. street friendly type clothes or naughty costumes etc etc etc.

any fetishes that you like and get excited about when i client mentions it, foot worship, soft domme, sploshing, xdressing, clowns, bondage?