Hobbying for about a couple years. Finally met a girl that I really like, and the vibes are pretty good. I've seen her a few times, and I'd like to make it a regular thing. The problem is she doesn't swallow. She said she didn't in the beginning, and I was cool with that while it was just a random thing. But I can't see myself getting into a regular thing with her spitting all the time. I've just had too many girls not swallow in my normal life, I don't want to repeat that here. I'm not sure what to do. Do I just say that I'd be a regular if you swallow? or do I just walk away? Dropping hints and hoping it happens doesn't seem like a good plan.
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Seriously..."I'd be a regular if you swallow..."
A mentality like this makes me sick to my stomach. No one has the right to try and make anyone do what they don't want to do, especially sexually, by using coercion.
Maybe drink plenty of pineapple juice before the next meet up. Pineapple juice is supposed to make cum taste better. Avoid too much coffee. Stay hydrated.
Offer extra cash to swallow if she feels comfortable enough to do it. If that doesn't work and you really want that service then move on.
Edit: Since SP already said no and OP has been hinting at it with no success it's best to move on.
Offer extra cash to swallow if she feels comfortable enough to do it. If that doesn't work and you really want that service then move on.
Edit: Since SP already said no and OP has been hinting at it with no success it's best to move on.
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Here’s another option. If you really like her, why don’t you consider altering your own hardline requirements in this case. Going in without swallow on your mind, might make you enjoy the session even more.
But Walking away is fine too if it’s a dealbreaker for you.
Telling her “ I will only be a regular if you do x” doesn’t seem appropriate.
But Walking away is fine too if it’s a dealbreaker for you.
Telling her “ I will only be a regular if you do x” doesn’t seem appropriate.
Nobody would come on here as a new member and suggest this lol. It's a troll thread for sure. If this person really likes her, and she stated in the original meeting that she doesn't do it, it's either a troll, or a bigger problem.
Carrot dangling “being a regular” in order to push a provider’s strictly stated boundary is pretty gross behaviour.
The way I see it, you have 3 options:
1. Respect her boundaries and enjoy your booking.
2. Find someone new who does swallow if that’s your requirement
Or
3. Swallow it yourself
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If a provider offers CIM and not swallow, it likely has nothing to do with taste.
I am a CIM no swallow provider.
For myself, as I already taste the semen when CIM happens, my swallow restriction is for different reasons.
Offering extra cash for a restricted service is not OK and is terrible advice to give.
If it is a restricted service, it means they are not comfortable doing it.
Extra money won't automatically make them comfortable providing the service, they may just need the extra money or feel pressured.
So being pushy and attempting to have a provider cross her boundaries is a red flag.
My two biggest problems w CIM/SW are the seemingly needless extra risk to STIs which TBH benefits you guys a LOT if we don’t take them! And the fact that swallow is post orgasm, I don’t understand how this affects your orgasm/experience outside of psychologically in a way that feels subjugating/dominating when I might not be ok with this level of being your bitch prior to establishing that’s our vibe.
It’s a bit much to ask a lady to swallow TBH. I feel it’s way inappropriate when you don’t know one another and should always come from her deciding. I’m open to hearing other thoughts but this is my take on it. Hugs
It’s a bit much to ask a lady to swallow TBH. I feel it’s way inappropriate when you don’t know one another and should always come from her deciding. I’m open to hearing other thoughts but this is my take on it. Hugs
sorry to disagree but as a medical database scientist for nearly 25 years now i can confirm there is absolutely no extra risk in swallowing. You already do the blowjob. Absolutely no extra std can be added if you swallow or not.My two biggest problems w CIM/SW are the seemingly needless extra risk to STIs which TBH benefits you guys a LOT if we don’t take them! And the fact that swallow is post orgasm, I don’t understand how this affects your orgasm/experience outside of psychologically in a way that feels subjugating/dominating when I might not be ok with this level of being your bitch prior to establishing that’s our vibe.
It’s a bit much to ask a lady to swallow TBH. I feel it’s way inappropriate when you don’t know one another and should always come from her deciding. I’m open to hearing other thoughts but this is my take on it. Hugs
me i usually only see girls that allows cim, if they swallow its a plus, but not a requirement. Coming in a condom i consider that a waste of my load. Sorry to be rude im just honest.
a few years ago a big European study confirmed that escorts have less std than regular non escort girl. The conclusion was that regular girls tend to take more risk. But swallowing or not is a non factor at all.
And those guys that think pineapple juice makes a difference are also so wrong. Your semen will taste the exact same with or without. The girl is all for swallowing you or she's not. If she's in you will taste good, if she's only doing it to please you or extra money you will taste bad. As simple as that.
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You could always text her and politely ask if she'll SW for extra. If not then respect her decision. Years ago I met a SP who allowed CIM, but after would spit it out in the bathroom sink. And I have dated women who would allow CIM or not. They typically would tell me if they were into that or not and either way I'd respect their decision cause it wasn't a deal breaker. If I had to pick and choose CIM w/SW is my preference and there's plenty of other SPs out there that allow that. One of my ex's highly enjoyed CIM w/ SW and she highly advised eating a few fruits before going down on me since it makes the taste better compared to eating meat. And by that I don't mean eat something 5 mins before meeting someone. Eat a fruit like apple, strawberries or pineapple maybe an hour or so and you should be good. As for the comment about the pineapple juice or eating a fruit being wrong I personally have no clue, but an ex I had for years said fruits did make a difference or she could have been incorrect and it was all just a mental thing. Either way she was great at it and kept going even after swallowing. Good times lol.
You’re right according to studies so my apologies. I’m not 100% convinced though since oral STIs are contracted in the deep throat so I suppose I’m just sceptical of the science in this case and prefer not to push my luck. It’s a personal choice.
Idk if you eat a lot of semen but there is quite a variety in terms of taste & texture from strong & bitter to sweet & mild. Maybe more studies are needed because it’s quite pronounced from person to person.
All this being said. CIM without swallow is more than enough to provide the benefits to the orgasm.
I'm not going to repeat the points from above, it got pretty much covered 
Just to go back to the original posters inquiry, who is apparently new, with a single post, and that terb doesn't seem like a bashing place, but Matt1978, simply take this as a education; some would think this is a dumb question, but all of us had to ask these types of questions at one point or another, and or just figure out ourselves.
If the number in your handle denotes your age, then you are more or less in the same boat as me, I can tell you that our generation wasn't as open to discuss these things; so don't take this the wrong way, many of us had to learn these things, some sooner, some later.... we didn't have reddit or Google, good luck asking your parents, or your friends who are just as uninformed
At least this post will serve good for future inquiries on the topic so you spurred a good discussion
There... you've been "daded"
Just to go back to the original posters inquiry, who is apparently new, with a single post, and that terb doesn't seem like a bashing place, but Matt1978, simply take this as a education; some would think this is a dumb question, but all of us had to ask these types of questions at one point or another, and or just figure out ourselves.
If the number in your handle denotes your age, then you are more or less in the same boat as me, I can tell you that our generation wasn't as open to discuss these things; so don't take this the wrong way, many of us had to learn these things, some sooner, some later.... we didn't have reddit or Google, good luck asking your parents, or your friends who are just as uninformed
At least this post will serve good for future inquiries on the topic
so you spurred a good discussion There... you've been "daded"
It's good to ask questions and hear replies from people based on their own experiences. I'll only be 40 next year and rarely do this "hobby" but I finally decided to join than lurk and have some good discussions. And if she says no even to extra for SW the fact she allows CIM is more than good enough especially if you enjoy the connection. For someone to stop a BJ and just finish with a HJ all the time gets boring. I get the feeling you want to find someone who actually does SW and you can find that around your area. Wouldn't be that hard to find around the Ottawa area IMO. The vibe might end up being just as good or not, but at least you got the SW you are craving for.
i am absolutely positive swallowing or not as no effect on std. as soon as you put the penis in your mouth if one of you is infected there is a risk to transmit. Yet most people that get a virus never actually develop it. Thankfully. Transmission via oral sex is very very low versus unprotected penetration. And that's exactly why data showed us non escort girl or men, have more std. they simply want to please their partner... they think nah it won't happen to me so i can go without a condom.... big mistake.
One important thing, as an escort you should ask all your clients not to brush their teeth for 24 hours before a meet. A toothbrush can create small lesions which will transmit virus so easily. If you are a girl use an electronic toothbrush, they are softer, do not create lesions and will clean your teeth perfectly. If you are a men Just rinse your throat, or like me i buy Vitamine water, its like a gatorade. It gives me a pleasant mouth breath even if i didnt brush my teeth.
HPV is on the rise for all people under 40 right now. Talk to a doctor to get the vaccine. It works. All data i have seen shows it. For men hpv is often undetected and leads to throat cancer. Yet its not like smoking or eating very badly. Don't hesitate to eat as much pussy or penises as you want. It's part of life. Just make sure you get tested often
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you are probably correct here and i may be wrong. Yet my theory is it all depends if you want to swallow the guy or not. If you really want it won't taste bad.
for example if a dude that i dislike ask me if he can park his snowmobile on my porch for the summer i will say get the fuck out no way. But if ariana grande ask me to park her snowmobile on my porch i would say yes absolutely my pleasure
You’re almost convincing me to swallow with impunity haha.Thanks for sharing this information!i am absolutely positive swallowing or not as no effect on std. as soon as you put the penis in your mouth if one of you is infected there is a risk to transmit. Yet most people that get a virus never actually develop it. Thankfully. Transmission via oral sex is very very low versus unprotected penetration. And that's exactly why data showed us non escort girl or men, have more std. they simply want to please their partner... they think nah it won't happen to me so i can go without a condom.... big mistake.
One important thing, as an escort you should ask all your clients not to brush their teeth for 24 hours before a meet. A toothbrush can create small lesions which will transmit virus so easily. If you are a girl use an electronic toothbrush, they are softer, do not create lesions and will clean your teeth perfectly. If you are a men Just rinse your throat, or like me i buy Vitamine water, its like a gatorade. It gives me a pleasant mouth breath even if i didnt brush my teeth.
HPV is on the rise for all people under 40 right now. Talk to a doctor to get the vaccine. It works. All data i have seen shows it. For men hpv is often undetected and leads to throat cancer. Yet its not like smoking or eating very badly. Don't hesitate to eat as much pussy or penises as you want. It's part of life. Just make sure you get tested often
To the OP, basically you have to suck it up (pun intended 
) and accept her boundaries or move on.
A bit of advice from a different perspective and probably from someone with a bit more experience in this world. Not to kink shame anyone, but it is often a mistake to attach so much value to a single, very specific sexual act. You seem to be allowing this minor detail to cloud what otherwise is a very good experience that would otherwise be worth repeating. Having a girl who you like, who you get along with and who makes you feel comfortable and good is a very good thing, and not always easy to find.
Again, if her swallowing is an essential thing for you, then you probably have to look elsewhere, but will lose the good thing you have discovered.
) and accept her boundaries or move on.A bit of advice from a different perspective and probably from someone with a bit more experience in this world. Not to kink shame anyone, but it is often a mistake to attach so much value to a single, very specific sexual act. You seem to be allowing this minor detail to cloud what otherwise is a very good experience that would otherwise be worth repeating. Having a girl who you like, who you get along with and who makes you feel comfortable and good is a very good thing, and not always easy to find.
Again, if her swallowing is an essential thing for you, then you probably have to look elsewhere, but will lose the good thing you have discovered.
