Sugar Dating Experience

[GeeBee]

How often do you see your SB?

Do you ever meet up with your SB just as two friends for coffee without the intent of sex or payment? (Could be initiated by either party.)

If the SB asked, would you openly say thay you’re married/in a relationship so as to manage expectations?

Twice a month is manageable, if it works out to be more that's fine. Also why the best arrangement for me is PPM, no expectations of “getting my moneys worth” from an allowance.

I’ve only had the non paid kind of meet ups with one SB, mainly I only meet SB’s for sexual encounters. TBH it’s a risk to be out in public with a girl who clearly isn’t a business contact or friend.

I almost always tell girls that I’m married either before or during an initial meet and greet. There are some girls who aren’t comfortable screwing a married guy, and thats understandable. However I’ve found most to be fine with it because they just assume most guys are married, and some actually prefer it because they know I’m not looking for a romantic partner or wife shopping.

Being open about your personal status sets the ground rules that this is not going any where other than the SB/SD arrangement.

 

[RJ11]

Twice a month is manageable, if it works out to be more that's fine. Also why the best arrangement for me is PPM, no expectations of “getting my moneys worth” from an allowance.

I’ve only had the non paid kind of meet ups with one SB, mainly I only meet SB’s for sexual encounters. TBH it’s a risk to be out in public with a girl who clearly isn’t a business contact or friend.

I almost always tell girls that I’m married either before or during an initial meet and greet. There are some girls who aren’t comfortable screwing a married guy, and thats understandable. However I’ve found most to be fine with it because they just assume most guys are married, and some actually prefer it because they know I’m not looking for a romantic partner or wife shopping.

Being open about your personal status sets the ground rules that this is not going any where other than the SB/SD arrangement.

You get it...a little honesty makes things run much smoother

 

[i am one]

This one potential SB offered to take me out for coffee/drinks with her paying. I didn’t know how to react. I want sex but honestly just getting a casual drink also seems nice. I know I can get coffee solo lol.

 

[Prentice]

Twice a month is manageable, if it works out to be more that's fine. Also why the best arrangement for me is PPM, no expectations of “getting my moneys worth” from an allowance.

Agree on the PPM only. I advanced a sizable sum to one SB to help with tuition and she ended up ghosting. I was seeing her for awhile and thought I trusted her but it ended up being an expensive lesson.

 

[greensquare]

Never give an advancement no matter how long you've known them or if they give you a sob story. There's a sucker born every min. Just shrug and move on.

 

[RJ11]

Agree on the PPM only. I advanced a sizable sum to one SB to help with tuition and she ended up ghosting. I was seeing her for awhile and thought I trusted her but it ended up being an expensive lesson.

PPM is the way to go if you're going to approach this casually and not look for the GF.
I pitch it as a better way for both of us...we meetup, you get paid, cleaner and no scams either way. Cash always.
Many of these women have been scammed via crypto and other means, which is terrible as well (shady fucks out there on both sides)
Also, its about giving you the cash you do with it what you want, none of my business.
You want a purse? Let's meetup and you can use that cash for what you want, I'm not taking you shopping lol

 

[i am one]

How far ahead do you schedule your meets?

With some past SBs I’d schedule for later that same week. Though none of those SBs I kept for longer than a few months for various reasons. And I’d go to their places so I never had to plan/prebook hotels or anything.

 

[RJ11]

How far ahead do you schedule your meets?

With some past SBs I’d schedule for later that same week. Though none of those SBs I kept for longer than a few months for various reasons. And I’d go to their places so I never had to plan/prebook hotels or anything.

Usually book in the same week, or the week before...let's say within 7 days.
I don't see a point in dragging it out longer than that...

 

[GeeBee]

How far ahead do you schedule your meets?

With some past SBs I’d schedule for later that same week. Though none of those SBs I kept for longer than a few months for various reasons. And I’d go to their places so I never had to plan/prebook hotels or anything.

Depending on her situation setting a regular day and time for dates can be useful for me. It makes the cover story on the home front more plausible if I say I'm teaching or taking a course. Or even just a league or poker night on a regular basis.

This only works if the girl can schedule it, and if she’s organised and reliable. I’ve been shocked at how chaotic some girls make their lives, how hard is it to be on time? I’ve asked myself more than once over the years how a girl has managed to keep a job or go to school. Scatter brained and a hot mess can be a hot vibe, but best avoided.

 

[Hipjdog]

Every girl is different, of course, but I usually plan a few days out and that's generally worked for both parties.

 

[greensquare]

" This only works if the girl can schedule it, and if she’s organised and reliable. I’ve been shocked at how chaotic some girls make their lives, how hard is it to be on time? I’ve asked myself more than once over the years how a girl has managed to keep a job or go to school. Scatter brained and a hot mess can be a hot vibe, but best avoided. "

Very true.

Either they are on a substance or lack that skill set in general due to whatever reason.

 

[oral.com]

Very few girls I’ve met on the site can be classified as over achieving, hence they are looking for a way to make money using sex work.
Many are escorts looking for another revenue stream.
Many are international students or visitors who are trying to make ends meet
Many have mental health or substance abuse issues which prevent them from achieving in a regular job
I have met some incredibly interesting women who are genuinely interested in exploring their sexuality (and getting paid for it)
The spectrum of life never fits into one category.

 

[Gentleman777]

1x a month, you can manage this expectation

No, only paid meetups, I haven't tried to meetup just to hang out, I'm not under any illusions of what this relationship is...

Yes, I openly say I'm in a relationship. Both parties are clear on what we're doing together.

I don't sugar to find a GF, just a FB I'm really into

What would you interpret it as, sometimes (maybe every 5th meet) we just meet up to hang out, go to a cafe, then watch a movie together.

No sex and no payment. She initiates it wanting to see me. Is this good or bad for me as the man in this scenario?

Btw, we meet around 2 times a week. Sometimes she wants to see me a 3rd time, but she's tired from work or I'm tired from work. We don't have sex the 3rd time that week, just hang out, kiss a bit, watch a movie.

We meet up around ~10 times a month. 8 is paid sex, and maybe 2 of them we just watch a movie together, go swimming, and hang out, companionship (she reaches out to me to initiate it).

Total costs (including dinners and outings) I'm spending around ~$5K a month with her.

 

[RJ11]

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What would you interpret it as, sometimes (maybe every 5th meet) we just meet up to hang out, go to a cafe, then watch a movie together.

No sex and no payment. She initiates it wanting to see me. Is this good or bad for me as the man in this scenario?

Btw, we meet around 2 times a week. Sometimes she wants to see me a 3rd time, but she's tired from work or I'm tired from work. We don't have sex the 3rd time that week, just hang out, kiss a bit, watch a movie.

We meet up around ~10 times a month. 8 is paid sex, and maybe 2 of them we just watch a movie together, go swimming, and hang out, companionship (she reaches out to me to initiate it).

Total costs (including dinners and outings) I'm spending around ~$5K a month with her.

You're in a different/higher category, you're a real sugar daddy
At $5k/month and multiple meets per week, she's a pseudo GF

 

[BiggerTitsTheBetter]

What would you interpret it as, sometimes (maybe every 5th meet) we just meet up to hang out, go to a cafe, then watch a movie together.

No sex and no payment. She initiates it wanting to see me. Is this good or bad for me as the man in this scenario?

Btw, we meet around 2 times a week. Sometimes she wants to see me a 3rd time, but she's tired from work or I'm tired from work. We don't have sex the 3rd time that week, just hang out, kiss a bit, watch a movie.

We meet up around ~10 times a month. 8 is paid sex, and maybe 2 of them we just watch a movie together, go swimming, and hang out, companionship (she reaches out to me to initiate it).

Total costs (including dinners and outings) I'm spending around ~$5K a month with her.

I have to ask...
Seems you have time (if you see her 10x a month)
Seems you are unattached
Seems you have money
Seems you are looking for something more than just sexual fun
All of the above together = clear case for a GF or FWB
So why are you in the hobby?
Genuinely curious.

 

[Agent01234]

Is everyone still using seeking and SDM to meet potential girls? I've been out of it for a bit and it feels like the landscape has become way more difficult to establish real connections. Feels like alot of the new girls are either "marriage minded" or escorts.

Curious if there anyone would be willing to share if there is somewhere new thats I'm missing.

 

[Hipjdog]

Is everyone still using seeking and SDM to meet potential girls? I've been out of it for a bit and it feels like the landscape has become way more difficult to establish real connections. Feels like alot of the new girls are either "marriage minded" or escorts.

Curious if there anyone would be willing to share if there is somewhere new thats I'm missing.

I generally avoid SDM.

Seeking comes and goes. There are some escorts, yeah, but that's hard to determine. Some good girls on there from time to time
but the registration fees these days are quite a lot.

 

[Agent01234]

I generally avoid SDM.

Seeking comes and goes. There are some escorts, yeah, but that's hard to determine. Some good girls on there from time to time
but the registration fees these days are quite a lot.

Curious why you avoid SDM? I personally never used it but have heard others have had success there. The lower fees seem attractive haha

Totally agree on seeking. Does seem to come and go in waves.... definitely feels like a down cycle right now. Was hoping there was a new platform out there for those that value discretion.

Seems like we have to pay the crazy fees if it has the only reliable pool of ladies