This one potential SB offered to take me out for coffee/drinks with her paying. I didn’t know how to react. I want sex but honestly just getting a casual drink also seems nice. I know I can get coffee solo lol.
Sugar Dating Experience
- Thread starter FunInToronto2023
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Agree on the PPM only. I advanced a sizable sum to one SB to help with tuition and she ended up ghosting. I was seeing her for awhile and thought I trusted her but it ended up being an expensive lesson.
PPM is the way to go if you're going to approach this casually and not look for the GF.
I pitch it as a better way for both of us...we meetup, you get paid, cleaner and no scams either way. Cash always.
Many of these women have been scammed via crypto and other means, which is terrible as well (shady fucks out there on both sides)
Also, its about giving you the cash you do with it what you want, none of my business.
You want a purse? Let's meetup and you can use that cash for what you want, I'm not taking you shopping lol
How far ahead do you schedule your meets?
With some past SBs I’d schedule for later that same week. Though none of those SBs I kept for longer than a few months for various reasons. And I’d go to their places so I never had to plan/prebook hotels or anything.
With some past SBs I’d schedule for later that same week. Though none of those SBs I kept for longer than a few months for various reasons. And I’d go to their places so I never had to plan/prebook hotels or anything.
Usually book in the same week, or the week before...let's say within 7 days.
I don't see a point in dragging it out longer than that...
Depending on her situation setting a regular day and time for dates can be useful for me. It makes the cover story on the home front more plausible if I say I'm teaching or taking a course. Or even just a league or poker night on a regular basis.
This only works if the girl can schedule it, and if she’s organised and reliable. I’ve been shocked at how chaotic some girls make their lives, how hard is it to be on time? I’ve asked myself more than once over the years how a girl has managed to keep a job or go to school. Scatter brained and a hot mess can be a hot vibe, but best avoided.
Very few girls I’ve met on the site can be classified as over achieving, hence they are looking for a way to make money using sex work.
Many are escorts looking for another revenue stream.
Many are international students or visitors who are trying to make ends meet
Many have mental health or substance abuse issues which prevent them from achieving in a regular job
I have met some incredibly interesting women who are genuinely interested in exploring their sexuality (and getting paid for it)
The spectrum of life never fits into one category.
Many are escorts looking for another revenue stream.
Many are international students or visitors who are trying to make ends meet
Many have mental health or substance abuse issues which prevent them from achieving in a regular job
I have met some incredibly interesting women who are genuinely interested in exploring their sexuality (and getting paid for it)
The spectrum of life never fits into one category.
What would you interpret it as, sometimes (maybe every 5th meet) we just meet up to hang out, go to a cafe, then watch a movie together.
No sex and no payment. She initiates it wanting to see me. Is this good or bad for me as the man in this scenario?
Btw, we meet around 2 times a week. Sometimes she wants to see me a 3rd time, but she's tired from work or I'm tired from work. We don't have sex the 3rd time that week, just hang out, kiss a bit, watch a movie.
We meet up around ~10 times a month. 8 is paid sex, and maybe 2 of them we just watch a movie together, go swimming, and hang out, companionship (she reaches out to me to initiate it).
Total costs (including dinners and outings) I'm spending around ~$5K a month with her.
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At $5k/month and multiple meets per week, she's a pseudo GF
You're in a different/higher category, you're a real sugar daddy
At $5k/month and multiple meets per week, she's a pseudo GF
I have to ask...
Seems you have time (if you see her 10x a month)
Seems you are unattached
Seems you have money
Seems you are looking for something more than just sexual fun
All of the above together = clear case for a GF or FWB
So why are you in the hobby?
Genuinely curious.
Is everyone still using seeking and SDM to meet potential girls? I've been out of it for a bit and it feels like the landscape has become way more difficult to establish real connections. Feels like alot of the new girls are either "marriage minded" or escorts.
Curious if there anyone would be willing to share if there is somewhere new thats I'm missing.
Curious if there anyone would be willing to share if there is somewhere new thats I'm missing.
I generally avoid SDM.
Seeking comes and goes. There are some escorts, yeah, but that's hard to determine. Some good girls on there from time to time
but the registration fees these days are quite a lot.
Curious why you avoid SDM? I personally never used it but have heard others have had success there. The lower fees seem attractive haha
Totally agree on seeking. Does seem to come and go in waves.... definitely feels like a down cycle right now. Was hoping there was a new platform out there for those that value discretion.
Seems like we have to pay the crazy fees if it has the only reliable pool of ladies
The escorts aren’t hard to determine at all. They usually push to meet the same day right away.
PPM asks seemed to usually be 500-600 now. Had one ask for $1k
There are some crazies though. First 2 I met in person - first one had way too much to drink and was basically chugging the drinks, the second was homeless.
Answering my own question here and also looking to get other people's thoughts.
I've been doing once a month. After every meet I want to meet more frequently like every 2-3 weeks instead. I assume it's because I've just come out of the high of having sex.
My hobby addiction is that I'm seeing both SB and SPs, and really must cut back on the latter to increase funding the former.
I've been doing once a month. After every meet I want to meet more frequently like every 2-3 weeks instead. I assume it's because I've just come out of the high of having sex.
My hobby addiction is that I'm seeing both SB and SPs, and really must cut back on the latter to increase funding the former.
My rule of thumb has always been if she wants to meet right away without a meet and greet she's either an escort or sketchy.
In general an escort who's using a sugar site as a form of advertising isn't interested in a M&G without getting paid.
I feel some might be if they are planning an end game and are willing to invest in future profit. I have seen ladies that I know are escorts playing off as regular civie girls in order to lock in their ‘men with money’ rosters years ago on seeking. Don’t fool yourself they play both sides nicely knowing what is expected as coming off as a SB
Yup totally agree.
If they are in a big rush then it’s all about $$$$$
sb sd its just labels
the whole thing is about money
anyone pretending otherwise is lying to themselves
the whole thing is about money
anyone pretending otherwise is lying to themselves
