Well a few things feminism and misandry comes to play but also since the last couple of years there is an explosion of simps. I see it everywhere and on this board. The simps ruin dating for all of us and this hobby also.
Sugar Dating Experience
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Update, I got "bored" and decided to look into Seeking. I may have the filters pretty high especailly regarding distance but there were SO MANY profiles on the first page that had not been active in MONTHS I decided that it would not be worth joining. How many of these SB's that have not been active i more than a month are even checking messages? Feels to me like I will be just trying to contact them with no replies.
Don't get me started on how much it is to join so you can message for even a month. I MIGHT go back to SDM for a month but I can't see joining Seeking.
I can relate to this too, I’ve had it happen with a very nervous new girl. She didn’t bail and run but I could see the debate happening on her face about going through with it. I tried not to be a jerk even though I was disappointed, and told her we could just finish the coffee and no strings at all and she relaxed. She did text me the next day to apologise and thank me for being a gentleman about it all, which I appreciated. Sometimes it's good to just let things roll off your back and be empathetic.
The next day her profile disappeared from Seeking, never to be seen again.
I’m honestly surprised it hasn’t happened more tbh. I can’t imagine being in a university girl's position and showing up to meet an older guy because I needed the money.
I really enjoy kissing. Surprisingly not all women do. The head turn and Limited kissing is a red flag for me. And it never improves. Gotta bail on these arrangements early, instead of pursuing. I have been gaslit; “when you kiss me , I can’t breathe “ ….
As an SB, it all depends on the guy I’m seeing. Some have bad breath from smoking, some have crooked teeth, and some are just unattractive or creepy. I’m okay with sex because I dissociate, but kissing is where I draw the line. Basically, I’ll make out with you if I find you attractive lolll.
From my experience they enjoy kissing just not kissing someone that they are not into.
To those who use Seeking.
I'm wondering whether it's worth reaching out first as a girl if a profile catches my eye. If so, how should I approach it? All I can think of is either favouriting the profile or saying “hi.” However, I wonder if that's enough because when someone sends me a low-effort message, I rarely entertain it. Maybe I'm projecting, but I assume you wouldn't be particularly inclined to respond either for various reasons.
In general, I prefer being pursued and believe that an interested man will take the initiative; but since I'm looking for something quite specific, perhaps being a little more proactive could work in my favour?
I'm wondering whether it's worth reaching out first as a girl if a profile catches my eye. If so, how should I approach it? All I can think of is either favouriting the profile or saying “hi.” However, I wonder if that's enough because when someone sends me a low-effort message, I rarely entertain it. Maybe I'm projecting, but I assume you wouldn't be particularly inclined to respond either for various reasons.
In general, I prefer being pursued and believe that an interested man will take the initiative; but since I'm looking for something quite specific, perhaps being a little more proactive could work in my favour?
I mean go ahead and send a better message if you want. But men aren't looking for effort like women are. If we are interested in what we see when we look at your profile, that's the most important thing.
Tell them what attracted you to their profile. Many of the bots reach out to guys with generic messages.
On Seeking reach out and say hello to guys you think might fit what you’re looking for, but reference something in their profile. Don’t just send a generic message, something tailored will make you stand out from the bots.
On seeking guys who are members can message and respond to as many girls as we want to while we pay the flat fee, so looking at your message costs nothing. On sites like Secret Benefits that use the stupid credit system opening a message costs credits and they can burn up fast so I'm very selective about what messages I even open.
Yeah me too I think
I’ve been on Seeking for about 6 or 7 years and had some really good successes. Yesterday I tried to log back into my account after a bit of a hiatus like I always do and it won’t let me into my account. The profile seems to be completely gone. They prompt me to go through the whole process again to set up a new one, including the stupid selfie nonsense.
Fuck it.
Not sure what the current rate for a month of Seeking is but it goes up every time, now price hikes on SDM?
These sites really don’t want our business any more do they?
I agree with you. Why do some people want to re-invent the fucking wheel !
This is the sex trade in the “digital age” for you.
Some dumb questions...
- Do you cover/pay for your SB's Uber/transit? (holy fuck Uber is expensive now)
- If applicable, do you cover/pay for Plan B?
- Anyone want to PM me with recommended hotels available for just daytime hours? (As much as I want hotel rewards nights, the typical check in at 3 pm and checkout at 11 am isn't conducive for daytime fun).
- Do you cover/pay for your SB's Uber/transit? (holy fuck Uber is expensive now)
- If applicable, do you cover/pay for Plan B?
- Anyone want to PM me with recommended hotels available for just daytime hours? (As much as I want hotel rewards nights, the typical check in at 3 pm and checkout at 11 am isn't conducive for daytime fun).
- yes I’ve covered Uber for several girls
- haven’t needed Plan B but it’s free anyways isn’t it?
- that link to Dayuse looks like a good hotel option
as an SB,
1. SD always covers it, if he doesn't - I don't meet him.
2. I personally haven't encountered this, but if this happened, I would request an SD to cover it or reimburse me
and tbh, the same applies to my civie life... that's bare minimum
Plan B isn't free and wreaks havoc on the girl for weeks from what I've seen. I've never gone raw with a stranger though, I'd rather have junior be functioning vs a quick nut
