Sugar Dating Experience

[Velvets]

so how does it work? Is there like a etiquette or guide in this thread? Is it similar to SP logic? 500 for an hour?

The “nonpro” won’t have time limited to an hour. Usually you’ll get multiple hours.
The problem is you don’t know what you are getting. You may hit the jackpot and have a great time or overnight or you might get a starfish that doesn’t like to give BJs she bails after a short time.
At least with an SP you know what you are getting.

The pros have an incall location and a set price for a set time.

 

[firstorlast]

Finally hit the jackpot on Seeking .

South Asian girl no less. 34K massive boobs. Pretty enough face and very chill, easy-going vibe.

Slow building night that turned into a lot of make out, boob play and orgasms

Contact info?

 

[Velvets]

Contact info?

You think he’s gonna just share with everyone after putting in the work ?

 

[manni]

Banned from Hinge …. wtf !!! Violated terms of service. …. Smh. No explanation. I had the most success on it. 2nd time. Means a hard re$et ….

How do you navigate finding a SB on hinge which is primarily a dating site

 

[firstorlast]

You think he’s gonna just share with everyone after putting in the work ?

Ya he did actually

 

[Mhorgan]

I wish seeking doesnt have face pic requirement.

 

[400DC]

How do you navigate finding a SB on hinge which is primarily a dating site

The Ladies I met via Hinge were closer to a standard generous BF /GF, Than a sugar arrangement. But decades age difference.
I guess they wanted to try the older guy experience from their bucket list .

Two 19 yr old young ladies were one offs - ( one took forever to set up - messaging stopped for 2 months- car fun - too rushed. I gave 2 vintage vinyl ) .
Another , I just picked up no tell motel tab and take out food . I wanted more meets with both, but alas they stopped replying to messages : (
Three ladies , all ebony , were longer term .

Promising - If the profile states - " short term fun " or "still figuring it out"

Or bingo - " I love older men "

 

[FunInToronto2023]

Exactly what I was going to say !
Or you could pick up at any club on any day.

I’m married though

 

[RJ11]

Finally hit the jackpot on Seeking .

South Asian girl no less. 34K massive boobs. Pretty enough face and very chill, easy-going vibe.

Slow building night that turned into a lot of make out, boob play and orgasms

Sounds like a jackpot - lucky guy!

 

[raymondnoni]

Hey Guys,

Really glad i found this forum, reading individual experiences has been very helpful with making informed descions especially with signing up on these websites, meeting the girls etc.
i am new here in toronto and i have been searching for legitmate site to find babes to have a good time with. i haven't signed up on seeking yet but i have tried hinge and bumble .. the babes there seem to be moving slow especially in their responses and also i have been banned twice cos i asked for pictures.

Not looking for anything serious, i just want sweet gal to have a good time with and we can go back to our lives aftewards. Alot of people here mentioned seeking so i will try it out and see how it goes.

 

[Luke737]

This is a good point.

Planning ahead for the “extraction’ is an important consideration when you’re in the Sugar world. Any arrangement is going to end eventually. Most of the time it’s easy but it is possible that she’s not happy about it, so it’s vital to prepare ahead of time in case it goes sideways.

This may all sound paranoid, and most of the time it is. But if a girl is mad at the way it ended, and a bit, nuts, she can make your life miserable. Better safe than sorry, and all doubly important if you’re not single and need to hide this side of your life.

Never tell an SB your real name. Have an alias and stick to it. This can include a well rehearsed back story too.
Never let an SB know where you live. Lie about even the area of town you're from.
Never tell an SB where you work or even your real profession in any detail.
Never share too much about your personal life that could allow her to figure out any of the above.

Protect yourself with information. IME some girls aren’t very careful about their own information so take a mental note whenever you find something out about her. Does she want her family or co-corkers to know she’s a SB? Maybe not. So have some knowledge to throw back and let her know not to fuck with you if shit hits the fan.

This is savage but very important. Even while dating normally, women sometimes refuse to accept a breakup. For a woman that thinks you worship her enough to just pay for every meetup and probably buy her nice things on the side, they’ll attempt the worst to get at you for ending the fairy tale.

 

[Luke737]

I never really bought the idea of a sugar baby arrangement but I decided to give it a shot on Seeking after perusing the site for months. And there was increasingly less suitable options on Leolist. Seeking almost presents itself as a dating app until you realize the magic was for the women there is "Let's make an arrangement".

It didn't take long to prove my point- the so-called sugar babies are either SP's disguising as SB's (I've literally seen some girls from Leolist), or women who don't want to accept that they're prostitutes and join the SP crowd.

The first sign that these women are prostitutes is that they'll start messaging you left and right. That almost never happens on a dating app. One lady messaged me and we got talking on WhatsApp and I noticed she was using a business account. She said it was because she was doing Makeup Artistry before. Her WhatsApp profile also read "~Creamy" as its caption. That's a prostitute. I asked her what "~Creamy" meant and she stopped replying.

I met an 18 year old on Friday that wanted me to buy her a used iPhone for the first meet, I bargained to give her 250 bucks for the first meet to which she agreed. We met and smash in the back seat of my car and then she showed me the upgraded phone she now wanted that would cost 900 bucks.

The next day, I took another so-called SB out to a restaurant. I could tell and she said it herself that she'd met all kinds of professionals and they all wanted her to arrive at a hotel room and mostly did lines. She said Seeking is a place where men come to find high-end escorts. I was the first person to actually take her out. I didn't touch her- didn't feel like it, plus I need 2 days to recover after climaxing unless I'm extremely turned on or using viagra (never tried). I dropped her off and handed her 200 bucks.

Ultimately, if I need company, I can always hire some jobless woman for the day. Both SB's I saw emphasized their disgust for married men which is absurd considering the kind of arrangement they're looking for. I'm not married but I anticipate that most men that fit the sugar daddy tag are.

I'll just still to SP's. It's more straight to the point with less BS, and at least they're upfront about everything. I'll probably change my mind in a few years.

 

[RJ11]

I never really bought the idea of a sugar baby arrangement but I decided to give it a shot on Seeking after perusing the site for months. And there was increasingly less suitable options on Leolist. Seeking almost presents itself as a dating app until you realize the magic was for the women there is "Let's make an arrangement".

It didn't take long to prove my point- the so-called sugar babies are either SP's disguising as SB's (I've literally seen some girls from Leolist), or women who don't want to accept that they're prostitutes and join the SP crowd.

The first sign that these women are prostitutes is that they'll start messaging you left and right. That almost never happens on a dating app. One lady messaged me and we got talking on WhatsApp and I noticed she was using a business account. She said it was because she was doing Makeup Artistry before. Her WhatsApp profile also read "~Creamy" as its caption. That's a prostitute. I asked her what "~Creamy" meant and she stopped replying.

I met an 18 year old on Friday that wanted me to buy her a used iPhone for the first meet, I bargained to give her 250 bucks for the first meet to which she agreed. We met and smash in the back seat of my car and then she showed me the upgraded phone she now wanted that would cost 900 bucks.

The next day, I took another so-called SB out to a restaurant. I could tell and she said it herself that she'd met all kinds of professionals and they all wanted her to arrive at a hotel room and mostly did lines. She said Seeking is a place where men come to find high-end escorts. I was the first person to actually take her out. I didn't touch her- didn't feel like it, plus I need 2 days to recover after climaxing unless I'm extremely turned on or using viagra (never tried). I dropped her off and handed her 200 bucks.

Ultimately, if I need company, I can always hire some jobless woman for the day. Both SB's I saw emphasized their disgust for married men which is absurd considering the kind of arrangement they're looking for. I'm not married but I anticipate that most men that fit the sugar daddy tag are.

I'll just still to SP's. It's more straight to the point with less BS, and at least they're upfront about everything. I'll probably change my mind in a few years.

From what you wrote, it sounds like you're dipping your toes into Sugaring and figuring it out
There is an optimal way to use a site like Seeking, it's not explicit/out in the open like LL, but it can operate in a very similar manner
It's good to build some guard rails and formalize your approach as you're going to encounter women with more "game" who will get things out of you like that $200 dinner you went on...not necessary at all
If you have decent game, you can score some high quality, low mileage girls on there

 

[shane4]

Is there a reason seeking ask for a face requirement?

I get that one would need one to contact people once you have membership.

But why do you need one just look at other people profiles?

 

[billsmafia]

Is there a reason seeking ask for a face requirement?

I get that one would need one to contact people once you have membership.

But why do you need one just look at other people profiles?

I think it's to prove that you're a real person, and not a Bot. Not sure why anyone would set up a Bot, though.

 

[RJ11]

I think it's to prove that you're a real person, and not a Bot. Not sure why anyone would set up a Bot, though.

Apparently there are scammers on the site too...
I heard one story where a girl got paid online somehow and the guy was able to get his money back
I'm sure there are scammers looking for old boomers as well...start a fake online relationship and get cash that way
With AI getting so advanced, this stuff is only going to get worse...

 

[400DC]

I've noticed more transexual profiles on sugar and regular dating sites : (

 

[newguy2201]

I've noticed more transexual profiles on sugar and regular dating sites : (

As long as they identify as such I don't see a problem.

 

[GeeBee]

Is there a reason seeking ask for a face requirement?

I get that one would need one to contact people once you have membership.

But why do you need one just look at other people profiles?

Good question, it's very strange.
My guess is their recent push to rebrand as an upscale dating site. I don’t know if they actually believe what they’re pushing or if it’s all just for show, and I do know they are desperate to not get flagged as a platform for selling sex, so it may be partly that too. And yeah there are scammers on the male side too sadly, so it may help with that.

I guess there must be some rich whales looking for love on sugar sites out there, but I’m sure 98% of guys on Seeking are just regular guys like us with some cash looking for some girls to bang.

 

[Luke737]

From what you wrote, it sounds like you're dipping your toes into Sugaring and figuring it out
There is an optimal way to use a site like Seeking, it's not explicit/out in the open like LL, but it can operate in a very similar manner
It's good to build some guard rails and formalize your approach as you're going to encounter women with more "game" who will get things out of you like that $200 dinner you went on...not necessary at all
If you have decent game, you can score some high quality, low mileage girls on there

I agree it was unnecessary. I probably did it because I’m new to this and I wanted to follow an unspoken rule. First meet should be coffee or drinks at best. I wanted to enjoy myself and I wanted some company.

May I ask if you’ve had some luck on Seeking and how much you spend on average?