Patron, thank you for the compliment.
Interferon, you disagreed with me. Let’s go through that disagreement sentence by sentence.
"You seem to be brushing off impulse control problems.”
Re-reading what I wrote, I see that I parenthetically added the word “probably". You’re right — that could have made it look like I don’t take impulse control issues seriously. So let me clarify: I
do think that lacking impulse control can lead to big problems.
"Impulse control stuff is very closely related to addiction and canresult in in addiction."
I don’t disagree.
"Doing something even if it causes financial problems is a sign of addiction."
You lost me there. By including the word “even", you’re implying that “something” is a sign of addiction, even if
doesn’t cause financial problems?
Perhaps you meant to write this:
Doing something if it causes financial problems is a sign of addiction.
That’s obviously not true, but since I’m not sure that that’s what you meant to write, I won’t elaborate.
"AS for the comparisons, I think gambling addiction is more often sited when talking about sex addiction."
In my opinion, when they hear the word “addiction”, what comes immediatly to mind for most people is substance-abuse issues regarding things like cigarettes, heroin, and crack. Those substances are
unhealthy. If you use cigarettes, heroin, or crack a
lot, your health will be negatively impacted.
On the other hand (and as I said in my post), having a large sexual appetite is completely normal and completely healthy. Sex, in itself, doesn’t damage health — it actually (if you have the right sexual partner) promotes health. Intimate contact with another loving person is good for one.
Lots of such contact is even better.
The phrase “sex addiction” implies that one can have too much sex — that’s not true, therefore the term is deceptive and should be eliminated.
Interferon, you think that, instead of comparing sex to cigarettes, heroin, and crack, I
should have compared it to gambling.
Why?
Are you arguing that gambling is
healthy and
good for people in the way that
I’m arguing that
sex is healthy and good? Maybe you are, but
if you are, you have to make the case. You can’t just say that I should be comparing gambling to sex and think that that refutes my points. You need to explain
how comparing gambling to sex refutes me.
The way I see it, sex is over in the category of good things in life. Cigarettes, heroin, crack, and gambling are over in the category of
bad things.
You might have good points for why I should put gambling over in the category of good things, but you need to articulate those points if you want to convince me.
Use language accurately. If, in relation to spending too much money on escorts, you think that
impulse control is the problem, then you should use
that term — impulse control — not “sex addiction”. Because there’s no such thing as sex addiction.
