Stopped Seeing Escorts

[Serpent]

Yes an escape is true... But brother I seek the same as you even as I am in a relationship and likely older.

I desire the closeness and affection that I once had in addition to sex. I feel so alone even though I physically live with someone. This is kind of why I seek this particular experience with one sp...something close to real affection with someone I really enjoy being with. Even though sometimes I think it's a waste of $, it is simply not normal for a man to go so long without feeling appreciated.

In fact my situation is a little worse than being single... constantly bitched at day and night.

I wake up everyday hoping, just hoping she won't be a bitch today... It's as if she keeps score about everything. I don't really want to air all my dirty laundry in public but suffice it to say I think I am so desperate to escape because it's the only option I have to keep sane.

Geez.....you have it worse. I'm single, late 30s and while I feel lonely at times, I still have that hope that maybe I'll find someone who'll be nice and we'll have a great life together. Your existence just sounds so miserable, I feel sorry for you (in a very heartfelt way, nothing condescending).

 

[DB123]

I quit seeing escort a long while ago as I recognized the impossibility to screen out the bad elements (those forced and pimped............) despite heavy long text/email/call interviews and screening process I had adopted. ... I feel at ease as there is no sex so I have to worry a lot less about coming across those who may be pimped or forced

The girls that I invite home are the ones I know for years (less than half a dozen in total). I know every details of their lives. For example the one who was my guest last weekend I know her since she was 19 and now she is 30. I am planning to travel with couple of them to Caribbean and Europe ...percentagewise much less than escorts and again there is no sex.

So they come to your house to chill and you're operating a free Kontiki tour?

 

[DB123]

Fair enough (I suppose), but likewise, I am...'surprised' at your comment.

You're kinda to adult entertainers what Michael Jackson was to children. It may well be good, clean, innocent fun, but from the outside...

 

[DB123]

The age of dancers I see is between 23 to 30 (and when I was seeing escorts I always demanded age verification ID as pre-requisite) so please I am offended of the analogy

(btw, god bless whoever had that thread about uploading pictures )

whoa whoa whoa, settle down. no allegation or inference about their ages. It had more to do with the cookies and chocolate milk and the wholesome fun aspect. and to reiterate the going over your head aspect, I wasn't saying HE did anything wrong either.

 

[lazysausage]

I am now offering escort addiction counselling for terb members! Premium rates!

 

[DB123]

Its not inexpensive but I dont know how I could live without these amazing girls. Just so grateful at what they do for a balding middle age dude.

And that, Jimmy, is the true meaning of Christmas

 

[Titalian]

Just my thoughts.. Steve and Edie

 

[milehigh]

What did I start again? Let me start out by saying I met some really great girls through escorting, many whom I consider friends. Sophia - I will use as an example. A real class lady who I enjoy seeing. I actually really miss the women I have come to know.

Now the reasons. First of all - been having an affair with a sexually starved married woman, started some months ago. Then second of all - met a super girl, but there are logistical issues which I don't want to get into. Bottom line I realize I am probably temporary with the second girl.

So am getting lots of sex.

I do realize stuff happens - and I will be back. I wasn't really expecting to take a leave of absence - it just happened.

See a lot of discussion here. I went into the hobby because I wanted to and no regrets. You guys that talk about money - think of what a divorce costs. I wish I knew about escorting before I was married!

Bottom line - I can't say enough about all the girls I met here . Realistically - gonna be back one day. For now, just gonna ride the wave for all its worth.

 

[Ms.FemmeFatale]

I am on the fence about this. Sometimes I agree with the stress relief part, other times I wonder if this is a complete waste of money and if I should just seek other forms of NSA relationships for what I am looking for.

Then again is there such a thing as true NSA even with sps?

It is one or the other. Time or money. Which is easier for you?

I quit seeing escort a long while ago as I recognized the impossibility to screen out the bad elements (those forced and pimped............) despite heavy long text/email/call interviews and screening process I had adopted. For years I was a top Ottawa reviewer on both boards. I am currently still seeing dancers which has its advantages. I can see 5 to 10 different girls for a price of one escort. So if you love variety as much as I do then great for you. Besides I get to choose in flesh and that is a big deal for me. No more having to chose blindly from half covered dark pictures. I feel at ease as there is no sex so I have to worry a lot less about coming across those who may be pimped or forced as it happens much less frequent with dancers compare to escorts. Disadvantages as obvious there is less intimacy. Btw, lol with the new incoming laws, if they make purchase of sex criminal then very likely there will be plenty of hobbyists who would be joining our club. My hope is that the idiots take their hands off the strip bars.

It is not at all impossible in my opinion to determine which of these lovely ladies are here of their own free will, IMHO of course. I think when a person need to be a white knight to all women, there may be more involved. The no sex part I feel is something that you use for your own personal reason that I won't publicly presume but that is just me again. I have my thoughts. I can see why you think you are so prolific and why others think, "Hmmm, not so much." Sorry but that "Poor sex worker" comment seems more in context now and more to like what MJL stated. However, I am not about to open that can of worms here. I know how you like to go off on a thread.

Also, I do not think that if the laws change, that the sky is going to fall and men are going to stop, but there is another thread for that debate.

Um. Just so you know there are a lot of dancers that are being pimped as well. Just hang outside your local strip joint a closing time and you will see the "boyfriends" coming to get them. Some actually hang inside the club to keep an eye on them.

Thank you.

Ain't that the truth. And Capital Hunter, the same is true of many girls in porn, so that's out too.

and thank you

Yes an escape is true... But brother I seek the same as you even as I am in a relationship and likely older.

I desire the closeness and affection that I once had in addition to sex. I feel so alone even though I physically live with someone. This is kind of why I seek this particular experience with one sp...something close to real affection with someone I really enjoy being with. Even though sometimes I think it's a waste of $, it is simply not normal for a man to go so long without feeling appreciated.

In fact my situation is a little worse than being single... constantly bitched at day and night.

I wake up everyday hoping, just hoping she won't be a bitch today... It's as if she keeps score about everything. I don't really want to air all my dirty laundry in public but suffice it to say I think I am so desperate to escape because it's the only option I have to keep sane.

You need to get out. No one should live like that. Period.

 

[thirdcup]

Several years ago I met a friend I hadn't seen for a while. He said to me " I'll be getting married soon, so this means I'll be getting laid all the time!'

Some time after that I saw him again. He said to me " I'll be getting divorced soon, so this mean I'll be getting laid all the time!"

P.S. Today's word of the day is 'irony.'

 

[Gentlescorp]

Thank God I have lost interest in SPs and had seen only 3 in the last 2 yrs. I have more fun flirting with MPAs who can give me a good massage and carry a good convo.

 

[Titalian]

Thank God I have lost interest in SPs and had seen only 3 in the last 2 yrs. I have more fun flirting with MPAs who can give me a good massage and carry a good convo.

To each his own, I much prefer indies, I am single mind you.

 

[red]

Stopped Seeing Escorts. Might need an intervention.

have you gone to an eye doctor?

 

[Ed Thomas]

Very good for the OP. Anyone that says otherwise is a fucktard.

 

[GPIDEAL]

I'm on a more limited budget recently, but haven't quit. I used to do once a week if not more. I have a FF for no cost, but she's attached, and sometimes I feel it's a little risque (she's very freaky).

I echo the sentiments of Serpent (that in the long run, it is not a viable lifestyle), although he is younger than me.

There are a few SPs that I would quit hobbying for he he

 

[GPIDEAL]

The last girl I seen was probably becky for some quick head and that was 3 months ago.. i havnt had a full session for almost a year. This industry really fucks up a mans "game", in my opinion that is.

It makes us lazy to find a true GF (and reduces your disposable income or retirement fund unless you are independently wealthy).

 

[GPIDEAL]

Life is too short brother. I rather die than not feed my hedonistic urges. Good for you if seeing escorts was effecting your quality of life.

I on the otherhand cannot survive without escorts. An essential part of managing my stress level.

Yes, actually it makes life bearable.

I don't feel lonely or upset after hobbying. Alcohol and drugs can make you feel bad after you indulge.

I do know that I'm not Hugh Hefner and can't do this long term.

However, there are less than handful of select gals who I've done overnights to see shows, dinners, attend events (including new years party and a wedding in one case), but it would be nice to have one special gal that isn't shy to let her hair down & get freaky in the bedroom.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Yes an escape is true... But brother I seek the same as you even as I am in a relationship and likely older.

I desire the closeness and affection that I once had in addition to sex. I feel so alone even though I physically live with someone. This is kind of why I seek this particular experience with one sp...something close to real affection with someone I really enjoy being with. Even though sometimes I think it's a waste of $, it is simply not normal for a man to go so long without feeling appreciated.

In fact my situation is a little worse than being single... constantly bitched at day and night.

I wake up everyday hoping, just hoping she won't be a bitch today... It's as if she keeps score about everything. I don't really want to air all my dirty laundry in public but suffice it to say I think I am so desperate to escape because it's the only option I have to keep sane.

God bless you married guys, especially if you're living with a control freak.

Marriage is a compromise but it shouldn't feel like a prison sentence (and I'm not talking about infidelity either).

I'd rather be single and alone than married to someone who bitches or controls or demeans me.

 

[GPIDEAL]

Lol I am surprised at your comment. Life and fun is not only sex!!!. They are dancers and they come as my precious guests and also dancers. I have a party like environment in a very safe classy environment with large screen TV playing retro music and shining/turning lights and serve them with chocolates, cookies and non-alcoholic drinks (my place is strictly alcohol free, drug free. smoke free environment) and they dance for me (contact dance and lap dance) with music playing in full light. I remained dressed all the time just like I am in the strip bar. It is exactly like being in a CR with a dancer except much more private and much more light. Then I take them back to their home and sometimes stop by for a lunch or dinner on the way. I know it may sound like a strange arrangement (even boring if you are only focused on sex) but I have seen many escorts over years so I am passed that and it was just mechanical sex now it is no sex but lots of fun. Besides I used to spend hours to interview starting 2-3 days in advance and I got tired of that. Now I know who I see and her history and that she is pimp free and clean and there is lots of emotional feelings as well at least on my side. But I can't just stop seeing girls altogether and suddenly. I have to quit slowly and over time.

I used to party like the Wolf of Wall Street but not anymore as that is not sustainable. What you do is sustainable and safe, but I still like the physical intimacy, even though it may not have to entail the majority of time spent together. I can do an overnight with a young lady and have fun, but sex is always a part of it, except in a few times, it was a small part, and in one case, I was too tired and took a rain check. The overnight ladies are also like friends too.

So whatever floats your boat.

 

[Mikehorn]

. I have a wife who I genuinely still get raging boners for, think she's sexy as fuck, I love her to death and I have 2 little kids. Those are my reasons for wanting to stay away. I just feel too damn guilty and scummy. I do not judge, to each their own, and that is my reasons and beliefs.

If I were in your shoes I would do the same.