Stages of the "hobby"

[Smash]

Stage 5) “Time to move on?”

Like B.B King said.... The Thrill Is Gone

 

[malata]

you forgot 7)... getting off retirement cause you feel horney

 

[The Options Menu]

For me (and many) the evolution starts from strip bars, then massage and then onto SPs.

Even if you never really move on from strip bars the evolution in the first post is basically the same. I'm on step "5.5", lol. I have no regrets, and I've always kept my daily life in order, but at a certain point I just kind of got over it. I'll still poke my head in places that I like, and I'll try the odd new dancer and old favourite, but I'm semi-retired. On the one hand, I'm more than half a lifetime older than when I started, and on the other hand there are ever fewer clubs, and the scene has moved beyond me to a degree. It's increasingly either 'vanilla' dances, or rushed and expensive 'extras', and far less of the, "$20 per song and let's see what we get up to." that I preferred.

I've been tempted to make the jump to more GFE indies, but I've always like the 'random with beer' factor of SCs at least back when, "$20 per, and let's see where it goes." was more of a thing. Though, I've never felt the need for a near sure bet release, so my preferences are a little different than a lot of guys here.

 

[itd131]

you forgot 7)... getting off retirement cause you feel horney

I'm not sure anyone actually retires for good. Every once in awhile a guy comes on here and announces his retirement. I always wonder how long it will take before he's back again.

 

[Jasmine Raine]

But then the Bank pre-approves you for an Unsecured Line of Credit (just sign on the dotted line); so, now you can spend money you don't even have; and every couple of years the Bank pre-approves you for a Limit Increase.....wheee!!!!!

I wonder if guys on this board with houses and Home Equity Lines of Credit tap into that in order to fund this indulgence....I know I sure would!

I would hope not. It just doesn't seem right to me to go into debt for pussy.

 

[hamermill]

I would hope not. It just doesn't seem right to me to go into debt for pussy.

No different than getting married. Oh wait when you are married you don’t get pussy or head.

 

[trm]

I am at stage 4. There are three ladies that I see on a regular basis. I am so satisfied I am not looking for another. My fourth regular, an ATF, recently retired and moved to Florida. I am 68 and all four of the regulars are over 50. It's a very comfortable arrangement. I sometimes feel I should try someone new, but haven't bothered. You know you have a good relationship with a regular when she shows you a photo of her new grandchild.

 

[Smallcock]

I'd love to be at stage 7. I hope and pray every day that my level of sexual desire will dissipate with age. No dice yet.

 

[Kracker]

Thought provoking model. Imagine most of us started in strip clubs, then massage, then full. I’d imagine today it’s different though - Tinder really IS that easy, strip clubs now mostly suck and the massage scene isn’t what it was. I think between Tinder and SPs being wonderfully affordable there isn’t as much call for strip clubs and massage.

The later stages of the model obviously vary widely by hobbiest. I’d still really like to find a go-to regular, but I greatly prefer agencies and there’s a bit of forced turnover - you fall in love with a stellar lady and she’s gone a month later.

Great thing is - a month later after a few hits and misses you have another new love of your life!

I do think sometimes about the aggregate amount of money, and it’s a bit staggering. Then again a whole lot less than the alimony many others are paying.

 

[farquhar]

I do think sometimes about the aggregate amount of money, and it’s a bit staggering. Then again a whole lot less than the alimony many others are paying.

I've been waiting for an opportunity to post this gem from YouTube:

$9,900! :Eek: I would be dancing like an idiot in the Bank as well! :bounce:

 

[Lucyb]

Thought provoking model. Imagine most of us started in strip clubs, then massage, then full. I’d imagine today it’s different though - Tinder really IS that easy, strip clubs now mostly suck and the massage scene isn’t what it was. I think between Tinder and SPs being wonderfully affordable there isn’t as much call for strip clubs and massage.

The later stages of the model obviously vary widely by hobbiest. I’d still really like to find a go-to regular, but I greatly prefer agencies and there’s a bit of forced turnover - you fall in love with a stellar lady and she’s gone a month later.

Great thing is - a month later after a few hits and misses you have another new love of your life!

I do think sometimes about the aggregate amount of money, and it’s a bit staggering. Then again a whole lot less than the alimony many others are paying.

Your right

And for the sps that stick around

The turnover is reverse... u get a dreamboat

Of great paying customers who visit often and

U become close with

Then they go on vacation or just work lots and u end up

With a bunch new . It becomes just so seasonal

 

[Carvher]

I have been firmly entrenched in stage 5 for the last couple of years and slowly moving towards stage 6. I'm fighting to stay in 5 but find myself heading towards 6 anyway.

 

[Gentle 1]

Here is my take on the “stages of the hobby.” I posted something similar months ago in another thread but that thread seems to have disappeared. Anyway, continuing the conversation here.

Stage 1) “Am I really doing this?”

You have been thinking about it for awhile, even years, and finally something gives. Maybe a stale relationship hits a new low, your wife leaves you, your SO becomes seriously ill and can't be intimate with you anymore, or you have just been alone for too long. Maybe you have been slowly working up to it, starting in strip clubs, then massage, and the temptation has been building for longer than you can take. Every guy has his reason, but whatever yours is, you finally pull the plug and go visit someone. You feel energized, scared, excited, embarrassed, a lot of different thoughts and emotions flash through you. During this stage you may stop and start, maybe even “quit” for weeks or months and tell yourself you shouldn’t do it… but then give in to temptation. No matter what you tell yourself you always seem to end up back at it. Asking yourself “am I really doing this?” or having thoughts like “I can’t believe I’m doing this,” are regular occurrences in this stage. One way or another you end up hooked.

Stage 2) “Kid in a candy store”

You settle into your new found lifestyle and start to behave like a kid in a candy store. You begin to really enjoy how easy it is, and how much fun you can have, with just a few texts and a few greens. Your spending increases rapidly. The hesitation is quickly disappearing, if not gone all together, and now you are immersed in sampling all the candy. You stop thinking about it and just do it.

Stage 3) “Experimentation”

You experiment often, seeking bigger and bigger thrills and an ever widening range of experiences. Duo, trio, quad, why not? You set personal records for most women in a day, week, month and year. You try every type of session, and meet every type of woman, you have ever wondered about and once you have exhausted your list, you just add more to it. There is a sense of decadence. When you have a great experience, you ask yourself how you can do it again and make it even better next time. Your spending peaks and possibly runs out of control.

Stage 4) “Regular ladies”

You start to feel a connection to some of the women you have met and repeat with them on an ongoing basis. The word “escort” doesn’t seem to fit anymore and you start to think of them as “girlfriends.” With your regulars, the sessions you book gradually become longer. With the best ones, no amount of time ever seems to be enough. Your total spending decreases while the amount you spend on your regulars increases at the same time. The best part of the lifestyle becomes the “relationships” that develop with your regulars.

Stage 5) “Time to move on?”

You start to feel like you have done it all and the excitement isn’t what it used to be. You find yourself wondering if you would be happier to save your money for other things. You also question if your "secret life" is detracting from your current relationships, or your ability to engage in new relationships, in your "real" life. You ask yourself what you really want in life, and from the lifestyle. You book sessions with the best ladies in the business but no matter how great the session is, you still feel a bit of “been there, done that.” No lady seems to be able to compete with your favourite regular(s) and you start to have thoughts like “when my favourite lady leaves the business, I will quit too.” Your spending stabilizes. The crazy binges that may have happened in previous stages are occurring less and less often, or stop completely. You may stop seeing new ladies all together and see your favourite regular(s) exclusively.

Stage 6) “Retirement”

You “quit” the lifestyle, or at least that’s what you tell yourself. Your regulars have also retired officially, although it’s possible they still see you. They might see you as they did before “retirement,” or on a reduced schedule. Some may even consider you a friend at this point and although the sessions have stopped, they meet you for a drink from time to time off the clock. Whatever your activity level used to be, you do it much, much less now and your spending drops accordingly. Every guy has a different definition of quitting: one session per year, one session per month, three months off - one month on, etc. Some guys just give up certain services. Other guys stop for a year or more, then return for a bit, only to “quit” again. Although many guys tell themselves they have retired, not many stop completely.


Credit to Rodney785 and The "Bone" Ranger for their input (see below).

well done post

 

[Gentle 1]

For me (and many) the evolution starts from strip bars, then massage and then onto SPs.

Royal hotel...Spruce Villa ...Whitby...back in the 80's

Lots of fun with work buddies..especially laughing at the odd milk squirt er... lol

Anyone else frequent these 2 in that period?

 

[itd131]

You are bang on with this representation!
I'm between stage 5 and 6 after stage 4 took me for a ride.
Well done and thanks for sharing.

well done post

Thanks!

 

[White Sands]

I'm happily ignorant in stage 4. But this business can be capricious at times, ex. your regulars retiring or on hiatus. etc.. that's when I briefly end up in stage 2 until I re-equilibrate.

 

[calculous]

I am at stage 4. There are three ladies that I see on a regular basis. I am so satisfied I am not looking for another. My fourth regular, an ATF, recently retired and moved to Florida. I am 68 and all four of the regulars are over 50. It's a very comfortable arrangement. I sometimes feel I should try someone new, but haven't bothered. You know you have a good relationship with a regular when she shows you a photo of her new grandchild.

I’m in the same boat, I was thrilled with my arrangements with retired escorts. Only recently one started treating me like a total atm.

Man you see some old grandma types (by your own admission).

 

[Guy727383]

I am definitely just transitioning from stage 1 to stage 2.

 

[Tempted Monk]

Great description of hobbyist "career" evolution by OP.
Just sometimes you can repeat earlier stage, mostly back from 4) to 3) for awhile after you loose your favorite regular...

 

[itd131]

I am at stage 4. There are three ladies that I see on a regular basis. I am so satisfied I am not looking for another. My fourth regular, an ATF, recently retired and moved to Florida. I am 68 and all four of the regulars are over 50. It's a very comfortable arrangement. I sometimes feel I should try someone new, but haven't bothered. You know you have a good relationship with a regular when she shows you a photo of her new grandchild.

If you don't mind me asking, how long have you been seeing your regulars?