Here is my take on the “stages of the hobby.” I posted something similar months ago in another thread but that thread seems to have disappeared. Anyway, continuing the conversation here.
Stage 1) “Am I really doing this?”
You have been thinking about it for awhile, even years, and finally something gives. Maybe a stale relationship hits a new low, your wife leaves you, your SO becomes seriously ill and can't be intimate with you anymore, or you have just been alone for too long. Maybe you have been slowly working up to it, starting in strip clubs, then massage, and the temptation has been building for longer than you can take. Every guy has his reason, but whatever yours is, you finally pull the plug and go visit someone. You feel energized, scared, excited, embarrassed, a lot of different thoughts and emotions flash through you. During this stage you may stop and start, maybe even “quit” for weeks or months and tell yourself you shouldn’t do it… but then give in to temptation. No matter what you tell yourself you always seem to end up back at it. Asking yourself “am I really doing this?” or having thoughts like “I can’t believe I’m doing this,” are regular occurrences in this stage. One way or another you end up hooked.
Stage 2) “Kid in a candy store”
You settle into your new found lifestyle and start to behave like a kid in a candy store. You begin to really enjoy how easy it is, and how much fun you can have, with just a few texts and a few greens. Your spending increases rapidly. The hesitation is quickly disappearing, if not gone all together, and now you are immersed in sampling all the candy. You stop thinking about it and just do it.
Stage 3) “Experimentation”
You experiment often, seeking bigger and bigger thrills and an ever widening range of experiences. Duo, trio, quad, why not? You set personal records for most women in a day, week, month and year. You try every type of session, and meet every type of woman, you have ever wondered about and once you have exhausted your list, you just add more to it. There is a sense of decadence. When you have a great experience, you ask yourself how you can do it again and make it even better next time. Your spending peaks and possibly runs out of control.
Stage 4) “Regular ladies”
You start to feel a connection to some of the women you have met and repeat with them on an ongoing basis. The word “escort” doesn’t seem to fit anymore and you start to think of them as “girlfriends.” With your regulars, the sessions you book gradually become longer. With the best ones, no amount of time ever seems to be enough. Your total spending decreases while the amount you spend on your regulars increases at the same time. The best part of the lifestyle becomes the “relationships” that develop with your regulars.
Stage 5) “Time to move on?”
You start to feel like you have done it all and the excitement isn’t what it used to be. You find yourself wondering if you would be happier to save your money for other things. You also question if your "secret life" is detracting from your current relationships, or your ability to engage in new relationships, in your "real" life. You ask yourself what you really want in life, and from the lifestyle. You book sessions with the best ladies in the business but no matter how great the session is, you still feel a bit of “been there, done that.” No lady seems to be able to compete with your favourite regular(s) and you start to have thoughts like “when my favourite lady leaves the business, I will quit too.” Your spending stabilizes. The crazy binges that may have happened in previous stages are occurring less and less often, or stop completely. You may stop seeing new ladies all together and see your favourite regular(s) exclusively.
Stage 6) “Retirement”
You “quit” the lifestyle, or at least that’s what you tell yourself. Your regulars have also retired officially, although it’s possible they still see you. They might see you as they did before “retirement,” or on a reduced schedule. Some may even consider you a friend at this point and although the sessions have stopped, they meet you for a drink from time to time off the clock. Whatever your activity level used to be, you do it much, much less now and your spending drops accordingly. Every guy has a different definition of quitting: one session per year, one session per month, three months off - one month on, etc. Some guys just give up certain services. Other guys stop for a year or more, then return for a bit, only to “quit” again. Although many guys tell themselves they have retired, not many stop completely.
Credit to Rodney785 and The "Bone" Ranger for their input (see below).
Stage 1) “Am I really doing this?”
You have been thinking about it for awhile, even years, and finally something gives. Maybe a stale relationship hits a new low, your wife leaves you, your SO becomes seriously ill and can't be intimate with you anymore, or you have just been alone for too long. Maybe you have been slowly working up to it, starting in strip clubs, then massage, and the temptation has been building for longer than you can take. Every guy has his reason, but whatever yours is, you finally pull the plug and go visit someone. You feel energized, scared, excited, embarrassed, a lot of different thoughts and emotions flash through you. During this stage you may stop and start, maybe even “quit” for weeks or months and tell yourself you shouldn’t do it… but then give in to temptation. No matter what you tell yourself you always seem to end up back at it. Asking yourself “am I really doing this?” or having thoughts like “I can’t believe I’m doing this,” are regular occurrences in this stage. One way or another you end up hooked.
Stage 2) “Kid in a candy store”
You settle into your new found lifestyle and start to behave like a kid in a candy store. You begin to really enjoy how easy it is, and how much fun you can have, with just a few texts and a few greens. Your spending increases rapidly. The hesitation is quickly disappearing, if not gone all together, and now you are immersed in sampling all the candy. You stop thinking about it and just do it.
Stage 3) “Experimentation”
You experiment often, seeking bigger and bigger thrills and an ever widening range of experiences. Duo, trio, quad, why not? You set personal records for most women in a day, week, month and year. You try every type of session, and meet every type of woman, you have ever wondered about and once you have exhausted your list, you just add more to it. There is a sense of decadence. When you have a great experience, you ask yourself how you can do it again and make it even better next time. Your spending peaks and possibly runs out of control.
Stage 4) “Regular ladies”
You start to feel a connection to some of the women you have met and repeat with them on an ongoing basis. The word “escort” doesn’t seem to fit anymore and you start to think of them as “girlfriends.” With your regulars, the sessions you book gradually become longer. With the best ones, no amount of time ever seems to be enough. Your total spending decreases while the amount you spend on your regulars increases at the same time. The best part of the lifestyle becomes the “relationships” that develop with your regulars.
Stage 5) “Time to move on?”
You start to feel like you have done it all and the excitement isn’t what it used to be. You find yourself wondering if you would be happier to save your money for other things. You also question if your "secret life" is detracting from your current relationships, or your ability to engage in new relationships, in your "real" life. You ask yourself what you really want in life, and from the lifestyle. You book sessions with the best ladies in the business but no matter how great the session is, you still feel a bit of “been there, done that.” No lady seems to be able to compete with your favourite regular(s) and you start to have thoughts like “when my favourite lady leaves the business, I will quit too.” Your spending stabilizes. The crazy binges that may have happened in previous stages are occurring less and less often, or stop completely. You may stop seeing new ladies all together and see your favourite regular(s) exclusively.
Stage 6) “Retirement”
You “quit” the lifestyle, or at least that’s what you tell yourself. Your regulars have also retired officially, although it’s possible they still see you. They might see you as they did before “retirement,” or on a reduced schedule. Some may even consider you a friend at this point and although the sessions have stopped, they meet you for a drink from time to time off the clock. Whatever your activity level used to be, you do it much, much less now and your spending drops accordingly. Every guy has a different definition of quitting: one session per year, one session per month, three months off - one month on, etc. Some guys just give up certain services. Other guys stop for a year or more, then return for a bit, only to “quit” again. Although many guys tell themselves they have retired, not many stop completely.
Credit to Rodney785 and The "Bone" Ranger for their input (see below).
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