SPs jealous?

[mitchell76]

i struggle with my role as an escort a lot because integrity is so important for me. the way i see it now is that i provide experiences, not promises. if you need a girl to just take you away for a day or a night from all the bullshit of the world, if you need a girl to show you what true female companionship COULD be like so you can get a better idea of what you want to be looking for in a civvie, then that's what an escort is for. if a long-term client starts to get too close, i always make sure to let him know the limitations on our relationship. sometimes if a client has been spending a lot of money on me and i genuinely like him, i might give him deals on social dates. but i would never make a client feel bad for seeing other escorts or women. ever. it's manipulative and petty, and i'm disappointed to see how commonly this tactic is used in this industry. the sad thing is that it works, really well. and it really makes me lose respect for the men that it works on.

Another excellent post Dawn. You and Charlotte are helping guys to avoid making dumb mistakes. Thanks again, to the both of you.

 

[mitchell76]

DL cuts right to the marrow. So refreshing. OP's question has been answered fully.

I totally agree.

 

[mitchell76]

No problem. I do appreciate gents who are kind and considerate, but some go too far by constantly emailing/DMing on twitter and either have never booked ever or booked years ago and have never booked again but keep acting like they will. I'm happy to book, or be penpals if they give some consideration for time, but otherwise I couldn't be indy if every single guy was doing this. Short and sweet is appreciated, if you're a regular I see often then of course we may keep in touch more. But there's a lot of guys especially in Toronto that see every SP once or twice and then try and keep in touch with all of them and that's really weird if they're never going to book again.

This post makes perfect sense as well.

 

[JaimeWolf]

Her texts started getting dramatic and then eventually stopped responding - this is an SP I have seen at least 20 times!

In that case just stop seeing her. Part of reason you're paying to see SPs is to avoid the drama that comes with civilian relationships.

 

[azuretears]

Excellent post Charlotte. Especially the part about expecting constant attention for free, and never booking.

Yes. But not really relevant to this thread...

 

[calculous]

I don't post much, but YES absolutely they get catty and jealous 95% of the time. best not to mention other girl at all unless u really need a reference.

they can get jealous about $ or affection. some equate $ for their self worth and if your spending more $, definitely they get jealous.

 

[Samranchoi]

I am not gods gift to women, far from it. And I didn't spend huge amounts of money or shower anyone someone with gifts but based on numerous experiences, yes women in the business can get jealous. I have heard this from numerous guys via PM's as well. It is only human nature but women getting jealous in this business is only a small fraction compared to the guys who get jealous when their favorites see other men. And God forbid should one mention how great of a time she had with someone who reviewed her.

 

[Occasionally]

another well-known SP on here who saw a mutual client we share apparently contacted his wife after she found out he was seeing other SPs. so there's also that.

But, but, but... every SP says they keep your info private and would never do anything like that!

 

[Jasmina]

I hate to admit it but yup, I am sure we have all heard the stories of ladies threatening to cut a client off if he sees so and so. Happens everyday. RUN

If she does get jealous,time to permanently replace her.

 

[Occasionally]

I hate to admit it but yup, I am sure we have all heard the stories of ladies threatening to cut a client off if he sees so and so. Happens everyday. RUN

Never mind escorting.

If you want to see piss poor attitudes, go to a strip joint and choose one dancer over the other one and watch that first one who got denied act like a baby.

 

[Jasmina]

I've heard this, the entitlement behind it baffles me, I just don't get it, there will be another dude along soon enough, and what if he would have called you over after or another time? You just lost potential $$ in the future.

Never mind escorting.

If you want to see piss poor attitudes, go to a strip joint and choose one dancer over the other one and watch that first one who got denied act like a baby.

 

[peepingtom]

the unfortunate thing is that the clients we see in this business tend not to have much experience with women in general, so they can't differentiate between when a girl only likes you for your money and when a girl actually likes you for you. hint: if you're paying to see her, it's for your money.

Guys, are you reading this? She tells the truth!

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

In that case just stop seeing her. Part of reason you're paying to see SPs is to avoid the drama that comes with civilian relationships.

Will probably have to, I know that she was seeing me for the business relationship but what surprised me is that she would jeopardize that with her behaviour.

 

[The "Bone" Ranger]

thanks for your posts and your last paragraph is very true

100% she's jealous you're spending cash elsewhere. i had a person who i thought was my friend tell another client who booked me after she told him she didn't want to get too close to him that she was "jealous" he was seeing me. he actually developed feelings for her (his mistake) and this comment was designed to hook him, and it worked. meanwhile she's admitting to me that this guy was spending $1000/week on her and it was great because she didn't "need" to see anyone else and she was waiting for him to give her the tiffany jewellery he said he bought for her before she was just gonna "cut him off".

the kind of materialism i see from girls in this business is so unsettling.

another well-known SP on here who saw a mutual client we share apparently contacted his wife after she found out he was seeing other SPs. so there's also that.

the unfortunate thing is that the clients we see in this business tend not to have much experience with women in general, so they can't differentiate between when a girl only likes you for your money and when a girl actually likes you for you. hint: if you're paying to see her, it's for your money.

 

[Platon]

I had that from a couple of ladies. Pretty sure it wasn't jealousy in the common sense of the word and I would tend to agree with dawnlee that it was more about me spending money elsewhere. I think many girls in the business have a huge misconception about us guys and our need for novelty especially when there are so many fresh faces almost on daily basis.

 

[Powpow]

My 2 pet peeves are those guys who never book but message constantly for attention or those that only saw me 1-2 times and don't ever ask but throw my name around for a references for half a dozen or more SPs over a year after I've seen them. If you're not pulling crap like that, hopefully everyone can keep their feelings in check and be considerate.

I have a polite question. What should be best practices for using someone as a reference? I ask because 5 or 10 years ago I was very active and I could easily get refer new SP's to SP's that new me well. My situation has changed, and many of my old regulars are out of the business or I have not seen forever. My more recent experience are with women I've been with once or twice. Generally speaking, I text a heads up "hey, this is powpow, I'm the [insert descriptors of myself/encounter/last time I saw you]. I hope you're doing well. I have a favour to ask as i need a reference to see this person and you happen to be one of the more recent folks I had a positive experience with. Can I mention you?".

Is that the right approach?

 

[Parker@TDL]

Do SPs get jealous if they find out you have been seeing other SPs? I just experienced the cold shoulder from one because I admitted to. "cheating" on her.

There's no such thing as cheating on an SP. She sounds bright!!!!

 

[TFZL1]

I have a polite question. What should be best practices for using someone as a reference? I ask because 5 or 10 years ago I was very active and I could easily get refer new SP's to SP's that new me well. My situation has changed, and many of my old regulars are out of the business or I have not seen forever. My more recent experience are with women I've been with once or twice. Generally speaking, I text a heads up "hey, this is powpow, I'm the [insert descriptors of myself/encounter/last time I saw you]. I hope you're doing well. I have a favour to ask as i need a reference to see this person and you happen to be one of the more recent folks I had a positive experience with. Can I mention you?".

Is that the right approach?

Yes, that is exactly the right approach, always ask a provider if you can use her as a reference before giving out her name.

When I ask for a reference I always worry that my reference might get jealous. So far, it hasn’t been a problem.
But I have had other SP’s get jealous that I wasn’t seeing them anymore. Yes I suspect most of it was because they’re not getting the money I used to spend on them.
Yes I love my regulars and there’s something so comforting in the familiarity of warm cuddles, but there’s also so much new talent to experience. New, exciting and enthusiastic, I just can’t resist.

 

[mandrill]

Do SPs get jealous if they find out you have been seeing other SPs? I just experienced the cold shoulder from one because I admitted to. "cheating" on her.

SP's are human as well. Some like individual clients and are hurt when they become less attentive. As well, there is the loss of professional pride when your client's attention wanders. Imagine if you lost a client from YOUR business. You would feel a little crestfallen and awkward too. Some women are very competitive about how attractive men find them and can be bitchy if they feel that they have been bested.

Some girls are harpies. Some aren't. There are no hard and fast rules with people.

 

[mandrill]

DL cuts right to the marrow. So refreshing. OP's question has been answered fully.

Actually it hasn't. There are several competing views on this point put forward in this thread.

You consistently think the worst of women.