SPs being played

[Anynym]

I'm sadden and disappointed to learn of a few regular SPs being played by their "BF" for all or part of their earnings.

I don't understand the logic of giving any, never mind all of the money away at all.

I don't understand it either.

But even in "civilian" life, I have plenty of friends who are dating men who I would call "losers", but who they love dearly. These are boys who don't have jobs, so she's supporting them both, and to top it off he treats her like shit.

These are girls who themselves are working hard, many as waitresses, and who are beautiful women in their own right. They deserve better, and can get much better, but for some reason they get into these garbage relationships and think that's what they want.

If we can figure out how to help them, then we might be able to help the SPs who give all their money to their pimp/BFs.

 

[Smallcock]

There is no reason to feel sad. When a woman really wants a fellow, there are few things she won't do for him, including giving him money. For every SP, there is some guy that she really wants. To you or I, he may appear to be a leech. He may be broke, dirty, ugly, lazy, abusive, or all of the above. But she likes him and it makes her happy to give him the money she has earned. Maybe he's a total loving considerate ambitious self-sufficient sweetheart. All that matters is that she is doing it because she wants to. This is a fact of life that many men will never understand, even though men routinely fall head over heels for, and will gladly spend their own hard earned money on abusive beautiful ungrateful young airheads in civilian life. Follow me?

 

[Petzel]

I know of a few ladies that have husbands that know what they do. I don't know if I would say they are being pimped out by their husbands. Oh they have kids too. One of them is a very popular lady on the board here.

That may very well be, but it's a little fucked up, if you ask me. I know that I could never live in a situation like that and I don't know how anyone else can.

 

[Fun_Guy]

Simply giving money to a BF even on a regular basis doesn't mean the SP is necessarily being "pimped" or exploited. For example, Mitt Romney gives millions each year as tything as do the millions of others (not to the same extent as him mind you) belonging to his church. Not to compare the two by any means but simply to illustrate that people give money to others for all kinds of reasons and it's not always a sign of coercion or exploitation.

 

[Terminator2000]

There is no reason to feel sad. When a woman really wants a fellow, there are few things she won't do for him, including giving him money. For every SP, there is some guy that she really wants. To you or I, he may appear to be a leech. He may be broke, dirty, ugly, lazy, abusive, or all of the above. But she likes him and it makes her happy to give him the money she has earned. Maybe he's a total loving considerate ambitious self-sufficient sweetheart. All that matters is that she is doing it because she wants to. This is a fact of life that many men will never understand, even though they routinely fall head over heels for, and will gladly spend their own hard earned money on abusive beautiful ungrateful young airheads in civilian life. How ironic.

the hilarious irony is...

guys are complaining about how its wrong for women to be giving her money over to a man. and how in the process - she is being played, used, taken advantage of, cheated, ripped off, manipulated, her money stolen by 'abusive' ungrateful men. - and in return, she gets to fuck him for all that money she invested in him.

when on this terb forum board, is full of guys that do the exact same thing - give their money to abusive, manipulative ungrateful beautiful women. - and in return, he gets to fuck her for all that money he invested in her.



ha ha.

 

[Petzel]

the hilarious irony is...

guys are complaining about how its wrong for women to be giving her money over to a man. and how in the process - she is being played, used, taken advantage of, cheated, ripped off, manipulated, her money stolen by 'abusive' ungrateful men. - and in return, she gets to fuck him for all that money she invested in him.

when on this terb forum board, is full of guys that do the exact same thing - give their money to abusive, manipulative ungrateful beautiful women. - and in return, he gets to fuck her for all that money he invested in her.



ha ha.

Because she's the one doing the work! She's providing sexual services in return for monetary compensation. He isn't!!!

 

[Terminator2000]

Because she's the one doing the work! She's providing sexual services in return for monetary compensation. He isn't!!!

the principle is the same.

 

[movzzz]

the principle is the same.

Such a great way of seeing the situation .....

My twist:
Some girls simply need pimps/BF/man in there lives. Here's why; The reality of these girls lives is so far from the mainstream norms that they are more comfortable in that environment with that type of character. To be involved with a working girl demands alot of mental fortitude and self assuredness on levels that the general public just doesn't get to. These girls know it! They will never be fully upfront with guys who use their services because we don't have the tolerance or understanding. These girls aren't stupid. They know what it takes for them to survive and they stick to what they know. It is in their nature to take care of people and strengthen their support system so the "breaking of bread" is not as much a concern as having the support they need when they need it.

Also...
The white knights who speak with such disdain for pimps are supporting them all the same. Whether you go to agencies, indies, parlors, strip clubs or what have you, there is always a man somewhere in the background, eating an ill-gotten steak dinner or wearing a nice jacket from his new girlfriend who is such a looker and always busy... LOL.
These agency girls would never admit to being pimped out probably to maintain a facade for the other girls or to gain favor with the agency managers (who are already pimping them out.)

I say just enjoy their temporary company and let them be.

 

[Pum-Pum Stabba]

They love the bad boys!

Beta pays, alpha collects.

:wink:

 

[Butler1000]

really? we are all abusive, manipulative and ungrateful? wow...... I'm speechless.

Some guys are just too damaged beyond repair. Funny how a bit of rejection can turn some people into such haters. Emotional immaturity coupled with insecurity isuues usually. Little higher percentage on this board as well.

Still the minority SPJ.

And by the way....where the heck are those Baseball pictures?!? We need something to rally the troops for the 2nd half of the season! A little streaking to get a win streak going!

 

[Top Drawer]

Our position is, what an escort does with her money after she receives it is up to her. She has earned it and if she wants to spend it on fashion or a BF, she has the right to do that. Perhaps some girls see it as a position of power having a man depend on her for money and support and like that position, rather then depending upon a man for income. Of course, when we see them wasting money rather than saving we are concerned, however, we do not give them advice or nag them.

Rather than taking the advice/nag approach, I decided to provide choices and help one of our girls (who was very interested to save for school) learn to do her own accounting. I showed her how to create a ledger of accounts and log her daily spending and revenues so she can see finances as a traditional balance sheet and income statement monthly. I then showed this system to the other girls and offered to do it for them. This is for the long term goal of helping them save and eventually getting out of the business with money in there pocket and a way to monitor themselves on the way there. With good choices available to them, if they then choose to ignore it, it can be no fault of their own.

 

[nofrills]

wow I'm impressed! Great work.

Our position is, what an escort does with her money after she receives it is up to her. She has earned it and if she wants to spend it on fashion or a BF, she has the right to do that. Perhaps some girls see it as a position of power having a man depend on her for money and support and like that position, rather then depending upon a man for income. Of course, when we see them wasting money rather than saving we are concerned, however, we do not give them advice or nag them.

Rather than taking the advice/nag approach, I decided to provide choices and help one of our girls (who was very interested to save for school) learn to do her own accounting. I showed her how to create a ledger of accounts and log her daily spending and revenues so she can see finances as a traditional balance sheet and income statement monthly. I then showed this system to the other girls and offered to do it for them. This is for the long term goal of helping them save and eventually getting out of the business with money in there pocket and a way to monitor themselves on the way there. With good choices available to them, if they then choose to ignore it, it can be no fault of their own.

 

[spraggamuffin]

There is no reason to feel sad. When a woman really wants a fellow, there are few things she won't do for him, including giving him money. For every SP, there is some guy that she really wants. To you or I, he may appear to be a leech. He may be broke, dirty, ugly, lazy, abusive, or all of the above. But she likes him and it makes her happy to give him the money she has earned. Maybe he's a total loving considerate ambitious self-sufficient sweetheart. All that matters is that she is doing it because she wants to. This is a fact of life that many men will never understand, even though men routinely fall head over heels for, and will gladly spend their own hard earned money on abusive beautiful ungrateful young airheads in civilian life. Follow me?

This is pretty much the gist of it. A woman is willing to make compromises if she wants something badly.

I've said many times before, women do not measure all men with the same yardstick.

The less desirable you are to her the more you have to bring to the table and even that may not be enough.

I always get a kick when I look at those sex tourism documentaries involving women as the buyers.

The demands from the giggolos after they've gotten her hooked on their cock is hilarious.

Women in multicultural Toronto don't have to go overseas but want the same thing.

I get jealous when I see the stripper type hotties etc with these guys, only because they are hot.

I often see them driving around with the deadbeats in their front passenger seats, paying for everything etc.

When I see them complaining in public how they spend all their money on him but he spends none on her, there's no sympathy from me.

As many women do this to generous guys all the time.

These women are adults and while they "buss their style" for men they think they are too good for they've made their decision.

They might have ended up with shit in the end and whether it was for a big cock,good sex etc they got what they wanted.

Yep some guys are despicable and take advantage, and sometimes she gets more than she bargained for, but such is life.

 

[DTECanada]

This happens to many people of both genders, regardless of what line of work one is in. Many men and women are in relationships where one person takes financial advantage of the other. That it also happens to SPs is not unique or surprising.

 

[Cobu]

Thanks for sharing your comment, that's what I am basically thinking.

A handful of these SPs are great ladies in their own right, and it's shame to know it.

I don't understand it either.

But even in "civilian" life, I have plenty of friends who are dating men who I would call "losers", but who they love dearly. These are boys who don't have jobs, so she's supporting them both, and to top it off he treats her like shit.

These are girls who themselves are working hard, many as waitresses, and who are beautiful women in their own right. They deserve better, and can get much better, but for some reason they get into these garbage relationships and think that's what they want.

If we can figure out how to help them, then we might be able to help the SPs who give all their money to their pimp/BFs.

 

[Cobu]

I call BS - how does this even come up in the conversation, never mind getting a truthful answer. Unless the OP is the secret handle for Dr. Phil.

No lie, I've seen the text messages and even be in on the telephone conversations. A few of these girls even have Facebook pages.

It's all wrong anyway you look at it.

and how in the process - she is being played, used, taken advantage of, cheated, ripped off, manipulated, her money stolen by 'abusive' ungrateful men. - and in return, she gets to fuck him for all that money she invested in him.

That's what's basically happening, and why any girl would so boggles my mind.

The big kicker for me, is there's nothing that these girls can't do that their "BF" can.

The "BF" are lazy and got all the time in the world night and day to check with them all a while drunk and/or under the influence.

 

[Cobu]

Thanks for all the replies everybody.

Think I'm just gonna take a break from the hobby, expend my energy on sports and exercise to clear my head and humble my heart.

 

[wigglee]

What about the women who have worked ( at any job) to put their boyfriend through medical school only to be dropped shortly after he graduates.

 

[Hangman]

That may very well be, but it's a little fucked up, if you ask me. I know that I could never live in a situation like that and I don't know how anyone else can.

SP's are people too, and deserve to have love and families and a supportive mate.

 

[Smallcock]

What about the women who have worked ( at any job) to put their boyfriend through medical school only to be dropped shortly after he graduates.

I imagine this is extremely rare.