Reading the recent posts. I am glad to see most terbies have a backbone after all.
As a slobbyist, I intentionally avoid all providers that are constantly asking for expensive gifts, money or posting expensive meals or trips that supposedly paid by the FinDom hobbyists
To each their own.
I think you’re conflating findom and escorting. There’s a pretty big difference between the two.
Obviously there’s a demographic of escorts who feel comfortable asking or implying gifts should be the standard expectation for their clients. Just avoid those ones if you don’t like it. Or book them, but she’s not holding a gun to your head to provide a gift.
If you feel bad about not being able to provide that, or if they make you feel bad about it, don’t see them. They aren’t the provider for you. Simple as that.
Now in my case, if I’ve built a really great connection with a regular provider, I don’t mind treating them to something nice, or something they may have mentioned they like. I’m not forking out 1000s on gifts though.
If it’s a birthday or holiday I like to show a little appreciation and I feel good about it. The thought is almost always reciprocated by the provider as well.
To each their own!